Be direct, don't hint. Your directness should not be devoid of correctness! Formulate what you want to say in such a way as not to “hurt” the man with words or phrases. His "weak points" you should at least predict. If you do not know them, be careful in every word you say.

• Second:

In the first twenty seconds of communication, have time to tell the man what is most important to you. That is how long a representative of the opposite sex is able to be patient with “listening” to the interlocutor.

• Third:

Don't try to be the "other" woman. When communicating, you need to be yourself. By the way, few people know how to do this. Everyone tries to appear the way they want to be seen. But no one thinks about the fact that sooner or later a person will show himself real .... Do not be ashamed of yourself and your shortcomings (whatever they may be). You, like all people on earth, have your own "unique uniqueness". Do not ruin it under the "masks of incorrect ideality"!

• Fourth:

Before making plans that include a man, make (in your head) a list of questions that will help you find out if he has any personal affairs that “intersect” with the plans that you have for him. Men do not like such "surprises".

• Fifth:

Praise the man if he shared an achievement with you. And in that case, praise if this achievement seemed to you a trifle, stupidity, meaninglessness or insignificance. Such is the psychology of communication with men, which will certainly benefit you.

• Sixth:

Do not drive a man into the "paint of shame"! Otherwise, you run the risk of developing an inferiority complex in a man, and you will “ensure” a complete loss of trust and the person himself. Shame is something that greatly humiliates men.

• Seventh:

Try not to use such phrases as “I feel”, “I believe” or “I think” in dialogues with men. Use, for example, "I think". So you are more "imbued" with the understanding of you as a man.

• Eighth:

Be silent if a man is wrong, but he is trying hard to prove his innocence. Speak, but don't argue. Men do not like to argue, because they are afraid of being losers as a result. It's hard to be silent - agree with the man (for him, not for yourself) and smoothly transfer the topic of conversation to another. The one that can really interest a man.

• Ninth:

When you are talking to a man, do not react painfully to his pauses. If he fell silent somewhere in the middle of the conversation, he thought. Men talk aloud, but very rarely. When you finish saying something, lower the tone of your voice, rather than keep it "high". And then a man may decide that you are unhappy with something or think that he said something wrong.

• Tenth:

Do not build a conversation based on solid questions. This will annoy the man, and he will look for any excuse to run away on business (which, perhaps, is not on his agenda).

• Eleventh:

Never start serious conversations in the evening. The man came home from work, tired, dreaming about rest. And with your conversation, which is so important to you, you can scare a person. Knowing female talkativeness, he will think (with horror) that you will talk about something until dawn.

• Twelfth:

Men "close" in themselves if they feel female intellectual superiority. Mask the "tops" of your mind so that the man does not feel awkward.

• Thirteenth:

If you need to urgently interrupt a man, interrupt him with skill: say what you went to such “impoliteness” for and immediately say some compliment to the male address.

• Fourteenth:

Would you like to ask for something as a gift? Go shopping with a man, tell him what you are going to buy. Gentleman will understand. No - do not insist on gifts. Never humiliate yourself with the famous capricious "well, buy it." Men get very angry when they watch it.

• The fifteenth:

Never look for something unsaid in the words of a man. If he asked to feed him - he just wants to eat. He has no desire to reproach you for not feeding him.

• Sixteenth:

Do not ask a man what problems he has at work, why he is not in the mood, and so on. Men prefer to share "grief" on their own, without questions or interrogations. When a man sees fit, he will come and tell you everything!

• Seventeenth:

Do not put crazy emotionality into words, as a man will not like it at all. As well as your constant "chuckle" after every word. Irritation, in this case, acts on a man in the same way that a mat would act on you through every word (if you are against obscene swearing).

• Eighteenth:

Don't be offended by the brevity of the answers. Laconicism in them is adored by many men. Especially those who consider themselves to be uncommunicative. Generally speaking, men find that a simple "no" or just a "yes" will be more than enough. No man thinks about how much women love detailed information.

• Nineteenth:

If you are late for a meeting with a man - do not spend a lot of effort and diligence on various excuses. A man knows perfectly well how any girl is going anywhere. Being late doesn't surprise him. If you want to cause surprise - come on time (second per second) or come early!

• Twentieth:

Do not command a man. The psychology of communication with men is such that if you want to manipulate him, do it in a cunning way, covertly, unobtrusively. They do not like men of commanding tone. It's not that they don't like it... They do not accept! But they manage to be offended. And offending a man is not worth it: they will remember if something gives a reason for this.

• Twenty first:

Call the man by name more often (you can use a diminutive - affectionate form of the nominal). A man will respect you, understand that he is not an empty place for you. “Nameless” communication repels, alienates and alarms all men.

Let's hope that you managed to learn something interesting and new, which you will learn for a reason.

Happy learning process!

At an interview in our agency, women often ask me questions about how to properly communicate with a man, or how to avoid mistakes that lead to aggravation and complete destruction of relationships? Learning to manage relationships after the first meeting with a coach-psychologist is as problematic as, for example, learning to play the piano by taking one lesson in playing the instrument from a world-famous maestro or lifting a record weight in weightlifting competitions without hard training. Here, I am sure, my coaching sessions and trainings that I conduct for our clients will help you, but this is not the plot of my article.

Without any doubt, your internal restructuring in the field of personal values ​​and views on the development of relationships with men requires some work on yourself. Nevertheless, I will try to reveal to you a few secrets that will help you take a fresh look at relationships and protect yourself from the old mistakes that have destroyed hundreds and thousands of seemingly strong unions between men and women.

Secret one. Women want a man to change over time, and men want women not to change.

Developing relationships, women unconsciously want a man to change in the process of living together, gradually coming into line with the image that women have formed in their heads under the influence of social and parental programming. Of course, women want a man to change, abandoning the way of life to which he was accustomed to before marriage or family life. Most women want him to talk less with friends, drink less beer and watch football? Yes, they are absolutely right.! A loving man, of course, changes under the influence of his wife or girlfriend, but not all men are able to do this at the same speed and as it seems right for women.

Ask yourself the question: was the young guy you once married or with whom you started a life together always been a good and sympathetic family man who knows how to properly raise children, preferring to spend time with his family? Of course not, but you sincerely hoped that he would certainly become so, from the very beginning turning a blind eye to his shortcomings. Unfortunately, many male habits become systemic with age, and it is not for nothing that Mark Tullius Cicero wrote in his work “On the Limits of Good and Evil”: “ Consuetude est altera natura(Habit is second nature.)

From men I often hear: “When I first saw her, she was like an angel descended from heaven, she was witty, athletic, beautiful and sympathetic. She supported me in everything, knew how to dress with taste, never argued with me and did not ask unnecessary questions. I was the envy of all my friends! And what happened then, after ten years of marriage? Then this angel turned into a “bitch”, constantly quoting her mother and constantly harassing me with her endless remarks and remarks. She “fell down”, and instead of a beautiful, young girl, I saw in front of me a unkempt ninety-kilogram something with an unchanged cosmetic mask on her face.

A man, creating a family or entering into a relationship, DOES NOT WANT a woman to change. This is, of course, stupid, not far-sighted and naive, but it is exactly so! He wants the woman to remain the same girl in ten and fifteen years, whom he once saw for the first time at the bus stop a long time ago. He unconsciously wishes that you do not grow old, do not gain weight, and, as for the first time, have selfless sex with him!

What does a woman want? A woman wants a man, on the contrary, to change in accordance with her ideas about an ideal husband, father and just a man. The woman wants him to leave his hobbies, earn money for the family, come home on time and spend all his free time with his family.

Summary: a man needs a woman who was nearby to NOT CHANGE, and a woman, on the contrary, so that her companion CHANGES and corresponds to her ideas about the ideal. Try, if possible, to return more often to the image of the same girl that he once met for the first time in the park.

Second secret. Prioritize or why am I doing this?

There is a well-known phraseological unit, "Pyrrhic victory". The expression "Pyrrhic victory" is used in the sense: a dubious victory that does not justify the sacrifices made for it. The origin of this expression is due to the battle of Ausculum in 279 BC. e.
Then the Epirus army of King Pyrrhus for two days attacked the Roman troops and broke their resistance, but the losses were so great that Pyrrhus remarked: “One more such victory, and I will be left without an army.”

In order not to repeat the mistakes of Pyrrhus, in relationships with men, and in everyday life, it is very useful to ask yourself the question: “ For what?". Why am I expressing my opinion now? Why am I giving him advice? Why do I demonstrate to him my superiority and thereby humiliate his manhood? Why am I telling him how to drive properly? Why do I speak ill of his mother, friends, etc.?

By asking yourself these questions, you will be able to look at your relationship differently and, as a result, correctly set goals and priorities in your life together. If the main thing for you is truth-seeking, self-affirmation and awareness of your own momentary rightness, continue to argue and constantly humiliate him, continue to find fault with trifles and inflate conflict situations out of the blue.

However, if you prefer to be far-sighted and wise, and the main thing for you is the harmony of relationships, peace in the family and love, try not to do all that is described above. Always prioritize: do you need Pyrrhic victories over your beloved man or harmony and happiness in the family?

Third secret. Let the man assert himself.

From early childhood, and this is due to the psychophysiological characteristics of men, boys are trying to assert themselves by all available means and ways. They constantly compete with each other and constantly argue about which one of them runs faster, pisses further and whose dad is stronger. With age, little changes, it would seem that adult, educated and accomplished men are constantly competing with each other, finding out which of them is “cooler”, who has a more expensive car or a more respectable title of their position. Older men also continue to play, but with adult toys.

This is both good and bad at the same time. It’s bad because men often “don’t see the forest for the trees”, but it’s good because the spirit of competition and the desire to assert themselves made them make great geographical discoveries, defeat the enemy and achieve something in life.

I remember how one of my college friends married a student from our course, not because he loved her (as he himself thought at first), but because most of our classmates agreed that she was the most beautiful girl in the institute. Naturally, life put everything in its place, and they, unfortunately, broke up. Here is a demonstrative and vital example of male self-affirmation. One way or another, it is useless to fight the karmic need of men to compete and assert themselves, but this can be perfectly used to strengthen your relationship.

Summary: let a man show off in front of you and others, support his opinion of yourself, tell him more often that he is doing something cool, and most importantly, better than others!

Fourth secret. A woman thinks intuitively, and a man logically. Negotiate!

A woman often draws conclusions without a preliminary analysis of the situation. The conclusions of men are formed on the basis of the analysis of cause-and-effect relationships and logic. This is the main obstacle to mutual understanding and reaching agreement. Very often, women want men to guess something and make the best decision themselves based on intuition.

Very often, it is not clear to a man why his wife, girlfriend or female colleague has an unreasonably bad mood. They are painfully looking for a reason, often blaming themselves for what happened, trying to find a logical connection in such a striking change in the mood of their beloved. But a woman in a similar situation wants him to guess all the reasons for her poor condition, and if he does not, then he is just a callous and inattentive person who is only concerned about his own problems.

Do you know the situation when a wife scolds her husband for bringing bad potatoes from the store? The husband was instructed to simply buy potatoes, which he does not know much about. But, according to his wife, he had to “guess” himself what kind of potatoes, at what price and where to buy.

Summary: Be specific! Clearly and simply convey to men what you want from them in a joint relationship, in sex, what gift you would like to receive for your birthday and what kind of products he should buy in the supermarket. The ability to speak with a man in the language of logic will help constructively solve many problems that arise in life together.

Fifth secret. Give the man the opportunity to experience his problem himself and make a decision.

As paradoxical as it sounds, men from the Neolithic period have remained "cave" people. The caveman always solved his problems alone with himself, having rolled a basalt boulder to the entrance to his dwelling.

Sometimes it seems to you that you are able to help a man in solving his problems, based on the best of intentions, of course, however, this is not always the case. When a man is faced with a problem and, having come home, is in a bad mood, it seems to you that it's time to show participation and support him with advice as a life partner. Take your time! A man needs to “roll a stone” and be alone with his problem. Don't worry, he will tell you about his problem when the time comes. Let him experience his emotions and feelings! By the way, this is another significant difference between male and female psychology.

Summary: If your man is preoccupied with a problem, do not pester him with questions, advice, or an offer to participate. Just gently ask if he needs your help? If he needs to consult with you, he will turn to you for help, remember this!

Sixth secret. Never undermine the authority of a man, especially in front of outsiders.

Line up to count to ten, take a deep breath and exhale if you have an irresistible desire to scandal your man in a store, at a party or in any other public place. Even if your man has done something indecent in your opinion, please talk to him about it at home, but not in public. Moreover, a man perceives such a manifestation of "educational" work as a betrayal on your part and a blow to his own authority. Remember that everything that happens between you concerns only the two of you and it is not at all necessary to “cleanse dirty linen in public”.

Also, men are extremely negative about addressing them in public places with the use of family nicknames and diminutive pet names. In public, just address him by his first name. I remembered a good anecdote in the subject. The personal driver of the CEO of the company came to work and the following dialogue took place between them:

Good afternoon, Nikolai Pavlovich. I am your new driver, my name is Vasily.

Basil? Well, you have a last name. I want to know your last name!

You see, Nikolai Pavlovich, it will be inconvenient for you to call me by my last name when addressing me.

It's up to me, Vasily! What's your last name?!

If you insist so, Nikolai Pavlovich, my surname is Beloved.

Summary: Apply the knowledge of the fourth secret. Discuss the problem, negotiate and find compromise solutions, but only tete-a-tete, without prying eyes and ears. Avoid diminutive epithets when you are not alone!

Secret #7: The devil is in the details.

Over the years, the vector of male tastes and preferences shifts from quantity to quality. A man begins to pay great attention to trifles and details. This also manifests itself in personal relationships. If an ardent eighteen-year-old boy filled with erotic fantasies does not notice the primitively made makeup or carious tooth of a girl he liked at a disco, then a mature man will immediately pay attention to some little thing that can at first sight cause rejection of you as a person.

Why am I talking about this? .. Everything is very simple! Mature men, on an unconscious level, like impeccable details. This is well known to marketers who professionally use the design concepts of cars, watches and business suits to increase sales. There is a saying in Russian culture: “They meet by their clothes”, and this is true! Take a look at the "beauties" from glossy magazines for men. Nothing special? Photo stylists are well aware of the advantage that they emphasize in their models, these are the details!

All models have “no” acne prone skin, white teeth and impeccable make-up. Of course, this is largely the merit of the Adobe Photoshop program, but, nevertheless, this is exactly what attracts men. We are well aware that time takes its toll, and it is difficult to compete with your man's eighteen-year-old secretary if you are for ...

However, there is a recipe! Watch yourself. Eat right (this is a rather interesting section of my coaching sessions) and monitor the condition of the skin, avoid unpainted gray hair roots, visit the dentist regularly and make sure that your manicure (pedicure) is always up to date. Young girls do not always attach importance to this - a reasonable one, let him hear!

Summary: Pay attention to details, not to the global image. Look after yourself! You will be out of competition, regardless of age. Little things rule the world!

I look forward to seeing you at my coaching sessions and trainings.

Your success is my pride!

Sincerely yours, Konstantin Ryazantsev.

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In the previous article, you learned what annoys men in women. This article will tell you how to properly communicate with a man in order to keep him constantly interested in you. Compliance with these simple rules will help you when communicating and make you "the one" with whom it will always be interesting to meet again and again.

The long-awaited acquaintance with a man happened, you start talking and ... immediately make a mistake in trying to please him, trying to impress him literally from the very first minute of your acquaintance. You don’t have to do this, understand - you have a lot of time ahead of you (if the relationship starts to develop as it should). It will be enough to show him that you are quite a sociable, friendly young lady with whom you want to meet again and again. Your main task when meeting is to create a pleasant atmosphere conducive to communication.
To do this, you need to smile sincerely, breathe relaxed and calm, keep your back straight. During the conversation, ask the man questions on the merits of your conversation, looking into his eyes. And the questions should show him that you are sincerely interested in what he is telling you about. Sincerity is one of the most important conditions for your communication!

Tip: Give him some compliments. Do not say any pretentious and abstruse words. It is enough to sincerely praise his taste in choosing the clothes in which he came. He will be pleased to know that he has good taste and this will increase his self-esteem. And you, thanks to the compliment, will show your interest in his person, defuse the tension (which is always present in the conversation of unfamiliar people) and show that you are ready to continue communicating with him!

Don't forget to laugh!

First of all, laughter is very contagious and he will also laugh with you (well, at least smile). And it brings people very, very close!
Secondly, you will show him your beautiful smile (all smiles are beautiful if they are sincere).
And thirdly, and most importantly, you will show him that you have a sense of humor. And this quality is highly valued by men at any age!
But do not go too far - if you laugh at everything he says, it will not expose you from the best side. Simply put, you then run the risk of seeming like a fool to him.
In general, start a conversation with a light joke about something around you and have a genuine laugh about it.

Become an attentive listener

The importance of being an attentive listener is known to many young ladies who ask themselves the question “How to communicate with a man?” But even knowing, for some reason, very few observe this rule .. I really want to, because of the female nature, talk, talk, talk ... About myself, my beloved, of course.
If you are absolutely unbearable, speak, but at least sometimes take pauses to allow the man to insert at least a couple of words.
When he speaks, look at him, not around, without giving him a reason to think that you are not interested in his story. Focus on his words, get to the point.

Tip: do not try to create the appearance of attention to his words with monotonous acknowledgment, hooting and nodding your head with the frequency of a Chinese dummy. A quick nod is even worse - it is perceived as a signal that a man should round off. Show sincere interest in the conversation (sincerity and once again sincerity always and in everything!) And the man will appreciate it!

Develop topics of conversation

This will show your interest in the conversation, as well as help the man show his knowledge and abilities. For example, praise him for understanding so much about music (painting, history, etc.). And ask him to tell how and where he learned this?

Don't talk too much and too often

Men, even the most patient ones, are very annoyed by female chatter incessantly, jumping from topic to topic. If you are completely unbearable, speak at least more slowly. And be sure to leave time for the man to at least insert a word into your monologue.
By the way, think about what you will talk about with him during the next meetings, if you tell everything about yourself at the first one? Keep at least a small secret for intrigue.

Truth and only truth!

How to properly communicate with a man so as not to get into an ugly situation after some time? Always speak the truth when communicating with him!
If you don't know something, just say it, instead of nodding your head smartly, creating the image of a know-it-all. If you do not want to answer some of his questions, do not come up with a non-existent answer, but rather just say that the question is unpleasant for you. These can be personal questions, questions about former relationships (although a smart man will not ask such a question to a new girl).

What to Avoid in Communication

There are things to which men react especially painfully. Here is their list:

-Discontent

One of the tasks of a man is to make his woman happy. The discontent on the face of the young lady shows him that he did not cope with this task ... That is, he did not take place as a man.
-Teachings

You are not a strict elementary school teacher, he is not a student at fault. By pointing out to him his mistakes (and who is insured against them?), you provoke a quarrel, and even a serious scandal, up to parting!
This does not mean at all that one should silently look at his “jambs”. In fact, almost all men are ready to listen to you, but if these are not teachings, but wishes in a mild form.
Not " I told you, don't do it! He did it anyway! And what is the result? »
A " Look, you didn't make it this time. Let's do it again next time and everything will be fine !»

-Criticism and command tone

I won’t even dwell on this, because both the first and second will lead you in a straight and short way to parting with a man. All. Topic closed.

How to communicate with a man (female types)

In any case, the result is important, right? So in communicating with a man, the result of this communication is important. A certain classification of women into several types will facilitate the task of communicating with a man. Determine which one you belong to and it will be much easier for you to contact the stronger sex.

woman friend

Such a woman will always support in difficult times, you can go fishing with her, to a sports bar, she can even help change the wheel in the car. Business matters in business are discussed with such a woman, counting on practical advice.
Such a woman rejoices at the success of a man in his career, tells others about these successes. She knows all his friends and treats them with respect. Easily forgives mistakes.

Muse Woman

This is the one that admires her man and inspires him to more and more new achievements! She never criticizes, does not condemn, does not whine .. She does not demand anything, the man himself offers everything to her. If she doesn’t like something, she will say it very tactfully and imperceptibly, without mockery and reproaches. Her voice, words, behavior serve as confirmation of the respect and admiration that she has for a man.

woman mistress

Such a woman remains romantic and playful no matter how long she has been with a man. Flirting, flirting, cooing voice and gentle indiscretions whispered in his ear - that's her style! And all this is done by her with one goal - to help a man relax and unwind after his
works of the righteous, to rest both morally and physically.

This concludes our "treatise" entitled "How to communicate with a man"

Nothing over the top, right? Just do not make mistakes and act according to the above. Then you will definitely be able to commit with “the same man”, and then quickly build a strong, serious relationship with a man.

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1. ) Either you get pleasure when you eat tasty and eat a lot.
2. ) Or you get pleasure when you stand naked in front of the mirror.

Maintaining interest in a relationship between a man and a woman is a more difficult task than winning a man's attention. And here, as in any dynamic process, the constant personal growth of the fair sex, the continuous development of her individual positive qualities and the ability to build a dialogue with her loved one play an important role.

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The psychological feature of all men without exception is the desire to hear their echo and see their shadow. This does not mean that a woman should turn into one and the other unconditionally, but the fact that you can win the attention of a loved one only from time to time copying his steps and speaking his words is an absolute truth.

What is the basis of male interest?

Male interest in a person of the opposite sex is not always dictated by the desire for a serious relationship. After all, the first assessment given by a man to a woman he likes is, after all, a tribute to visualization (the way a lady looks, how desirable and attractive she is). In second place in importance is the manner of communication, represented by two complementary processes:

• verbal transmission. This is what a woman says when communicating with a man in person or writes by typing text via SMS.
• non-verbal transmission. This is “body language”, which is perceived by naive men as a completely unconscious factor and which is not difficult for a woman to turn in her favor, having at least a minimum of knowledge about the psychology of communication.

In 9 cases out of 10, a man initiates an acquaintance and offers a woman further communication, obeying her invitation signals. And, on the contrary, only 5 people out of a hundred are ready to invite a girl on a date who is opposed to this individual with hidden hostility. All this speaks of the great power of the implicit, peeping through the framework of moral conventions, non-verbal communication.

It is important for any man to know that he will not be refused when trying to get close, so he will always wait for a sign from a girl that could be interpreted unambiguously. He will wait for exactly such signs in the future. If a woman understands this from the very beginning and does not reproach her partner for “rags”, but skillfully leads him in the right direction, the relationship can be considered strong and established.

But often even a stormy romance ends in nothing. The collapse occurs at a turning point in the transition of relations to a new stage, when both partners overestimate the mutual influence on each other and their own importance in the eyes of the satellite. The world of sensations ceases to bring novelty to relationships, the accumulated experience gives way to the first conclusions. And during this period, it is very important for a woman to learn how to build a dialogue, first of all, a non-verbal dialogue in which a man wants to participate.

The combat arsenal provided by default to every woman and which can turn any situation in her favor is:

• voice control (timbre);
• meekness and tenderness;
• patience and care;
• unquenchable passion for a partner;
• self-sufficiency.

As can be seen from the above, only the last item contains qualities that a woman will really have to develop in herself. The rest of the qualities are easy to learn and introduce them into everyday life as good habits, even if sometimes you have to pretend (and sometimes you have to).

Psychology of a man in a relationship with a woman male secrets

Voice control is half the success

If you can call our words and phrases addressed to a man the front side of communication, then the timbre of the voice, its color in warm or cold tones is the wrong side, which, as everyone knows, should be soft, comfortable and not prick. There is information about one old study, conducted back in Soviet times. The male subjects assessed their internal sensations by listening to the voices of different women coming to them from the telephone receiver. Within a few minutes allotted for the experiment, they managed to listen to several phrases from 5-7 women they did not know. Here are the conclusions:

• 95% of the subjects after 8 seconds of communication were ready to openly admit their sympathy for the owners of a deep, “velvet” voice. Such a timbre inspired them with calmness, self-confidence and pictured in their imagination a beautiful, slender lady with a whole nature.
• Almost all the men admitted that a woman's voice, slightly hoarse and breathy, aroused erotic fantasies in them. This affected not only the subconscious level, but also the physiological one.
• Girls with a sharp, shrill voice were considered pleasant only by individuals who unconsciously strive for the role of a child in the family. These are the men who welcome the supremacy of a woman in all aspects of life and are quite content with the modest position of "the husband of his wife."
• High, childish voices, on the contrary, attracted those who are not ready to put up with the equality of a woman and seek, rather, to “adopt” a life partner, giving her care and attention, and in return demanding unconditional submission.

Of course, there is a fan for every feature. But if we are talking about how to bind a man to yourself for a long time and remain invariably attractive to him, it is better to influence his predictable sides, which invariably respond with the “correct” reaction.

Compliments to a man

The psychology of conversational communication to maintain relationships

Not only the appearance of a woman is transformed after entering into a serious relationship, her manner of speaking also changes, and almost always not for the better. But such a mistake is worth many destroyed family or pre-family ties. Psychologists warn: if before the start of “close” communication with a man, a girl is still allowed to experiment with a shocking manner of communication, while the guy is so in love that he is “blind and deaf”, then the new period of “adult life” for both should be associated exclusively with pleasant emotions.

And in the first year of family life, and in the second ten, a man’s perception of the intonation of his partner’s voice will not be dulled. He will not like shrill cries if he initially reached out to the girl because of her quiet voice and laconicism. It is impossible to accustom to this, but to force a man to go through the point of no return, when the sound of the voice of his once beloved wife becomes hateful to him, is quite real. To prevent the fading of strong feelings, to control the love of a man, strengthening it at a momentary desire in the power of any woman.

To help develop this ability, here are some helpful tips that apply at any stage of a relationship: at the beginning of a pleasant acquaintance or after many years of marriage:

• The girl's voice should never sink to lifelessness, which will be perceived as indifference.
• Gestures and facial expressions must match the words. If a girl talks to a guy about pleasant moments, non-verbal language should not show hysteria.
• If a man shows uncertainty in some matters, the woman's voice should sound stronger, more emotional. This speaks of harmony, mutual support.
• A man needs to be listened to, no matter what he says, and all the time he is stimulated by manifestations of the most sincere interest.
• You should never criticize the interlocutor-husband, otherwise he will look for another grateful and understanding listener.
• When you are alone with your partner, you should at least sometimes talk like a catwoman - categorically, passionately, letting him read sexual desire in his voice. Such a “zest” slipping in communication with a man binds him stronger than the bonds of a long-term marriage.

An important point: the girl should be able to conclude all the important information that needs to be conveyed in the first half minute of her monologue - that is how much a man is able to keep his attention on the words of his interlocutor. If a woman believes that the conversation is not over, it is important to attract the attention of a partner in time with an unexpected compliment. Men can listen to praises for their person for hours without losing interest, so this technique - giving pills and gingerbread alternately - is very important to learn and not be shy to use it.

If a man says my girl what does it mean

The return of the interest of a loved one

Even the most passionate love relationship has a time to transform itself into a form of satiety. At best, such a rebirth leads to the foundation of even stronger, intimate bonds on a subconscious level. People become as if one whole. But in most situations, the couple is held back only by the fear of losing comfortable living conditions and sluggishly moves from one stage of the relationship to another, without knowing the target state of marriage - true love.

A woman, as a more flexible and sensual creature, should be the first to feel the cooling of relations and make sure that her husband stops taking her intimacy for granted. But for this you will have to make an effort, because the force of habit affects both equally, and one awareness of the problem is too small a step to achieve results.

Here is a set of simple "family laws", the observance of the points of which will not cause much trouble, but will help return the former passion and interest in each other to the relationship. It is very important to fulfill each item of simple rules at least once every day, and very quickly communication with your beloved man will rise to a new wave of mutual interest:

• Regardless of who escorts whom to work, every morning the spouses should meet together and exchange plans for the current day.
• Once again, you need to carefully but persistently force the man to speak out, just like in the first years of the relationship, when he excitedly hurried to tell all the events of the past day.
• During a conversation - no matter what - you should praise your loved one at least once, say how right he is. This will boost his self-esteem.
• Every day, you need to stimulate your partner with humble requests to perform some kind of “male” act, as if emphasizing his strength and his own weakness, even if you have to tear nails out of the wall with your own hands and drop curtain rods on the floor.
• A woman needs to learn to be immodest and periodically praise herself with “random” phrases: “to such a beauty as me ...”, “to me, with my appearance, everything is available ...”.

It must be remembered that guys quickly lose the habit of seeing a listener in their companion if they are not encouraged, so a girl needs to constantly be interesting in communication and always have a story in stock to maintain a dialogue. The absence of your own interesting stories in the present is not a reason to turn into a silent idol. You can always remember something from the past or even invent it, skillfully warming up the interlocutor's fantasy with reticence or excessive frankness.

How to communicate with a man by correspondence?

The growing modern tendency to start novels on the Internet by correspondence has already managed to form a separate area of ​​communication psychology, which has its own secrets. Such relationships, before moving into the stage of a personal meeting, or even without planning one, can last for years.

Interestingly, the statistics that already exist on this account claim that people who nevertheless decide to live together after long-term communication on the Internet, in 75% of cases create very strong and enviable ties based on complete understanding. This is due precisely to the long experience of maintaining interest in each other without a real sexual context.

The girls who found their other half on the Internet shared their personal experience on how to speak and respond correctly in correspondence with the interlocutor so that he always had an interest in the invisible addressee:

• No need to rush to write a message as soon as the guy appeared on the network. Let the guy write 5 times first, and the girl writes the 6th time. So a man is taught to take initiative in relationships and at the same time show him indifference.
• You need to write in your own words, but without building monologues in the form of "letters to an unknown reader." Guys get tired of long arguments.
• You need to forget about short one-word answers and try to build phrases in such a way that the young person can develop the topic.
• Men hate manifestations of depression, echoes of heavy thoughts, so the girl will have to become light as a butterfly, and splash out all the negativity on the dark screen of a turned off computer.
• No matter what happens, communicating with a man by correspondence, he cannot be blamed for anything. If there is a reason for this, reproaches can be replaced with “punishment” - citing fatigue, leave the correspondence earlier than usual and not appear on the network longer than always.

Most modern men are so lack of initiative that they are ready to be satisfied with one fascinating correspondence without bringing communication to a logical continuation. Therefore, if a girl believes that the limit of her patience has been exhausted, the interlocutor needs to be pushed to take decisive action. This can be done by arousing jealousy in him for invisible “rivals” or by hinting that hopelessness in various life situations is tiring and brings up unpleasant thoughts.

Receiving support from a girlfriend, a man asserts himself and can no longer do without the one who elevated him to this high level. And if the girl he loves also arouses his curiosity, constantly fueling interest in the relationship, such a union can be considered ideal.

What secrets will help you communicate properly with a man? How should a woman speak so that a man wants to hear her? What are the features of male perception of the conversation?

The well-known expression that women love with their ears can also be applied to men. It's no secret that verbal communication brings a couple closer. At the same time, mistakes in communication can cross out any even the most passionate motives in a relationship.

What better not to tell a man

Try to remove from your vocabulary addressing a man in the format “zaya”, “baby”, “baby doll”. Most of the time it just annoys them. Many women have a passion for horoscopes and astrology. Men are not interested in this, and no more than 7% pay attention to predictions.

Avoid platitudes when you want to compliment your loved one. Don't bring up your ex-lovers. Try not to criticize his family and his mother. There is no need to constantly ask if he loves you. You can't criticize his gifts if you want him to give them to you at all.

And the worst mistakes- to criticize a man in front of strangers, to speak herself, and not to listen to him, to take over leadership functions from the very first dates.

How to talk to a man

All men, without exception, are united by a sense of their own importance. To raise his self-esteem, encourage and support - this is the main task of every wise woman.