Goals:

• to form a concept in children - not only who to be in life, but also what to be!
• continue the formation of character, its positive traits: what kind of person is a worthy person, a person with a high sense of duty.

Form: Class hour - debate (grade 5)

Food for thought:

The advantages are precisely that
What elevates a person most is what
Gives it to his activities, to all his
Aspirations of the highest nobility...

K. Marx

The strong are not the best, but the honest ones. Honor and
Your own dignity is the strongest.

F. M. Dostoevsky.

Immense pride and conceit
Not a sign of self-esteem
Advantages.

F. M. Dostoevsky.

PROGRESS OF THE CLASS HOUR

Teacher's opening remarks:

My friends, there is such a concept in the world: human dignity, which, in fact, determines what a person is worth, what is he like?

What does it mean to be a worthy person? How does Dahl's old dictionary interpret this concept?

The children had homework: they would go on a scientific trip to the library to work with Dahl's explanatory dictionary.

Word to the student:

Worthy, says Dahl’s old dictionary, is worthwhile, deserving, proper, due, decent, consistent with the requirements of truth and honor. In other words, “worthy of respect”, “worthy of trust”, “worthy of attention”, “proper - what a Man with a capital M should be”, “due - having a high sense of duty, meeting the requirements of his time”, “decent in behavior ”, “ consistent with the requirements of truth and honor”, ​​not deviating from the rules of truth and honor under any circumstances.

Teacher:

You see, guys, how much meaning there is in one single word, which we sometimes don’t often remember. Meanwhile, our whole life consists of worthy and unworthy actions, corresponding to the laws by which our society lives, and not only in the laws adopted by the state and written down in the chapters of our constitution, but also in the so-called unwritten laws of human relations.

After all, it’s impossible to write in the constitution that German Filippov should not tell Seryozha Sadovnikov in class or that Dasha Lomovtseva, having accidentally heard someone else’s secret, should not tell it to everyone she knows. This is not written down anywhere, but we know that it is indecent to do this. And a person with self-esteem will not allow this to happen, because he respects the dignity of others.

Think, guys, and give examples from life, from stories, books you’ve read, where you encountered actions worthy of respect.

The student gives an example from the life of the Irkutsk writer Mark Sergeev, which happened to him during the war:

During the war, children from families evacuated to Irkutsk appeared at the school in Irkutsk, as in many others. One of them, a Muscovite, was named Vitya. He was very knowledgeable, told a lot of interesting things, none of the guys were in the V.I. Mausoleum at that time. Lenin, did not see the Exhibition of Achievements of the National Economy, its amazing pavilions filled with literally miracles, no one walked along Red Square, no one listened to opera at the Bolshoi Theater. And Victor knew all this, and how! And he was a good storyteller! The girls all fell in love with him, the boys all wanted to be friends with him.

And suddenly everything turned upside down: the girls were perplexed, the boys despised the newcomer. What's the matter? But the fact is that he, knowing mathematics and the Russian language perfectly, never let anyone, not even his closest friend, copy off his completed homework. He used to say: “I respect you, so let me help you, you come to me or I’ll come to you, we’ll decide together.” And the kids laughed: “Wow - “I respect you, I respect you”, but he won’t let me write them off.”

And the girls grew cold towards Victor, and the boys shunned him, and his stories no longer seemed so interesting.

But if you think about it, Victor was right. He had undoubted talents: even in Moscow he was the first student at school, and the homework completed by him could be immediately distinguished, especially with a teacher’s glance. But the guys didn’t know, or rather, didn’t understand, that he wasn’t being greedy, but was taking care of their human dignity. Of course, it’s embarrassing to stand at the blackboard and say: “Sorry, Maria Vasilievna, I didn’t solve the problem.” And then from the level of honesty: one will tell the truth that he forgot, got carried away by playing hockey (back then they used to kick homemade rag balls with crooked sticks), the other will come up with excuses for himself, weave a hundred boxes, just to make it look like the truth. Yes, it’s embarrassing to stand at the blackboard like that. But it’s a thousand times more shameful when a teacher accuses you of taking advantage of someone else’s work. He will say “wrote off”, but in the subtext of this word one hears “stole”. What kind of theft is this? After all, you don’t tear out a page from a notebook, you just copy it?! But what to do, things must be called by their proper names. You copied someone else's work. Just imagine that this is not homework, but, say, poetry written by your friend. And you submitted them to the editor under your name. The truth will come out sooner or later. And for such an act a person will not be patted on the head, he will be brought to justice. What if it’s not poetry, but a drawing of an invention? You see how far discussions have taken us about whether it is worthy or unworthy for a person to copy off someone else’s HOMEWORK. Victor understood all this and even tried to explain it to the guys, but not everyone understood him. Each of us does not immediately develop this very sense of human dignity; we have it, but we do not yet know what it is.

The guys show a dramatization of the French ballad “White Shawl”:

Characters:
Leading
Mother
Son
Executioner

Host: The ballad tells about a young revolutionary who was in a detachment of rebels fighting for the freedom of the people. He was caught by his enemies, the royal soldiers, he was sentenced to death, almost a boy, and in the morning in the large square where the scaffold was set up, his head was to be cut off.

At night, his mother comes to his cell, bribing the guards.

Mother: Early in the morning I will be received by the king, on my knees I will beg him to have mercy on you, because you are just a boy. If my request is heard by the king, and you are forgiven, in the morning you see me in the crowd - I will be in a white shawl. If the king refuses, the shawl will be black.

Host: And now - the morning of the execution, the crowd is raging at the scaffold, they are indignant that such a young boy is being executed. And everyone sympathizes with him. And he goes out to the scaffold with a smile and calmly lays his head down: words of forgiveness are about to sound, because his mother is standing in the crowd in a white shawl.

The executioner raises the ax, the execution is completed. A woman in a white shawl is sobbing in the crowd. She was afraid that her son would become cowardly when he saw the block and the ax and the executioner dressed in red, that her boy would begin to ask for forgiveness, humiliating his dignity, the dignity of a revolutionary.

And so he died calmly and with dignity.

Teacher: During the war, how many young men worthily, as befits soldiers and patriots, went through fire and death, saving the Motherland from the brown fascist evil spirits, how many boys and girls who fell into the hands of enemies had to endure torment more terrible than the hero of “The White Shawl” - interrogations, torture. And how many mothers, suffering from unbearable grief, thought that their long-suffering children would retain their human dignity and not show weakness to their enemies.

A student reads a poem by S. Mikhalkov

There lived three friends - comrades
In the small town of En
There were three friends - comrades
Captured by the Nazis.

They began to interrogate the first one,
They tortured him for a long time -
A tortured comrade died
And he didn't say anything.

They began to interrogate the second one,
The second one could not bear the torture -
He died without saying a word,
Like a real hero.

The third comrade could not stand it,
The third tongue was loosened.
There's nothing for us to talk about! –
He said before he died.

They were buried outside the city,
Near the destroyed walls.
This is how comrades died
In the small town of En.

Do you have to be a hero to be a worthy person?

Not every worthy person will necessarily become a hero. But not a single hero can be a person without a high feeling: it is dignity that underlies true pride, honor, and faith in a just cause.

Let's listen to what happened to Vitya, the hero of the story, evacuated from Moscow?

One day, returning from school in the evening, Vitya saw that in the twilight three rather strong “foreheads”, as they said then about big guys who prove to everyone that they are “right” with their fists, were beating a boy, he did not see who it was, as it turned out later - it was him classmates who had left school a couple of minutes earlier. Seeing the obvious injustice - three against one, he shouted to the guys to stop the meanness, they just chuckled, and then Vitya, thin, not very adapted, it seemed, for a fight, rushed into battle. Where did he get the strength from, apparently from this, his inherent sense of self-esteem and justice. After all, only the one who truly has a sense of self-worth is the one who values ​​the property of others. The most curious thing in this story is that Vitya beat up quite noticeably a boy whom everyone was afraid of and with whom everyone walked away from a fight, and he loved to show off his strength, to hit someone on the forehead or the back of the head. And then, beaten, with a heavy bruise, he came to school... with his mother. She, seeing signs of a fight on the face of her “baby,” was indignant, and, ignoring his request not to go to school, came to the director, and even caused him a scandal.

During the lesson, the principal and the victim's mother entered the classroom.

The director ordered him to get up, I don’t know who, but I felt the irony in the director’s voice. Of course, it was disgraceful that a student beat a student, but the director clearly did not sympathize with the victim. After all, that’s why he’s the director, to know everything in the world about the students.

So, said the director, whose job is this?

“Mine,” Victor stood up.

We imagined anyone in the role of a fighter, but not Victor. And in our opinion, he was not suitable for a fight, so at first we didn’t even believe it. But Victor didn’t even make excuses, but simply said:

He got the job done. Let him tell himself...

But the victim did not have enough courage. He remained stubbornly silent, staring at the floor, then began to squeeze something out of himself. And his mother kept repeating: “You see, you see!” And this is called education?”

But then two boys taking part in the fight stood up and told everything themselves. And the victim’s mother blushed and began to apologize.

And it turned out that the one for whom Victor stood up did not stand up because he acted dishonestly towards his comrades, and for this they decided to “teach him a lesson.”

And all the same,” said Victor, “three against one is mean.”

And everyone agreed with him.

This is a difficult and ambiguous story.

But the girls all fell in love with Victor again, and the boys wanted to be friends with him, despite the fact that he still wouldn’t let them cheat.

Children, please remember the wonderful words of the great teacher Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky: “Spiritual wealth is unthinkable without self-esteem... Without self-respect there is no moral purity and spiritual wealth of the individual. Self-respect, a sense of honor, pride, dignity - this is the stone on which the subtlety of feelings is honed.”

“The sense of humanity is insulted,” writes Vissarion Belinsky, “when people do not respect the human dignity of others, and it is even more insulted and suffers when a person does not respect his own dignity.”

And finally, Nikolai Ostrovsky:

“If the discord between the higher and inner worlds is very great, then you need to think and ask yourself: what kind of person are you if you are ashamed even to admit something to yourself?”

Three different people, three different eras, three heroic - each in its own way, unique and wonderful destinies, three masters who left us their eternal creations, so different from each other. And how equally they speak about the enormous role that plays in the fate of every person, and in your fate, my friend, a feeling that cannot be bought or borrowed, but only cultivated in oneself, grown in one’s heart - A FEELING OF OWN DIGNITY, making a person truly human.

I offer the guys questions for discussion.

1. What does it mean to be worthy? Is it necessary to be a hero?

2. Where can you show dignity in our time? To whom should we behave with dignity?

3. Is it worthy to give advice?

4. Is it worthy to refuse to write off or to ask to write off?

5. What else, in your opinion, should be included in the concept of dignity?

6. How do you understand the words: “At the heart of human existence, human existence, human life is kindness.”

7. Do you agree with me:

Living with dignity means living according to the commandments. I think how appropriate the commandments of Jesus Christ are anywhere (there are 10 of them). Here are some of them that correspond to our topic today:

Love your neighbor as yourself.

Honor your father and mother.

Thou shalt not kill.

Don't steal.

Do not bear false witness (i.e., tell the truth).

You shall not covet from your neighbor (i.e., do not ask).

Honor Sunday.

So, the basis of human existence is kindness, a kind attitude towards each other, which is why I would like to end our class hour with a poem by Gulchekhra Juraeva (I read it by heart).

They say I'm proud.
Well, I’ll answer: yes
Proud before baseness,
I'm proud of vulgarity,
I always.

If petty revenge
I want to get into my soul,
If they weigh it with gold -
They want to drown out conscience -
Before that I'm proud
I answer: “Never.”

But kindness is with you,
I'm trustingly simple
Pride melts like snow
On a fine spring day...
How I search, how I wait
Beauty and kindness!

So I want you to carry these best qualities through life: kindness, mercy towards people, and then they will say about you: this person has self-esteem and respects the dignity of others.

Bibliography:

1. V.I. Dahl. Dictionary.
2. M.A. Amoeva. Class hours in grades 5-7 Phoenix, Rostov-on-Don, 2003.
3. M. Serdeev. Let's talk V-S. book publishing house, 1987.
4. B. and V. Mattelmäki. Children's Bible, Russian Bible Society, M., 1994.
5. The indestructible union, Poetry of the peoples of the USSR, Art. Literature, M., 1982.
6. The wisdom of education, Pedagogy, M., 1987.

Manifestations of self-importance:
Manifestations of self-esteem:
1
Demand for self-respect, Desire for
recognized authority
Respect and authority are gained naturally
way through hard work and good deeds
2

boasting
There are much more real achievements than they say
about them, modesty
3

anger
Reaction to comments - interest, desire to learn
details
4
Rivalry, win-lose strategy,

winnings
Justifying oneself, while condemning and criticizing
others
Collaboration, win-win strategy,
the desire to achieve something and let others express themselves
6

get high in life
The truth seems healing because of the thirst for development
7
To seem, not to be. Creating external effects
to the detriment of the essence
Be, not seem to be. Striving for everything external
see the essence
8
Seeking admiration and support externally, adjusting
based on social approval
9



acquired meanings. Search for an objective assessment
myself
The pursuit of freedom without compromising the freedom of others
10
Achieving goals, wanting to prove something to others
Achieving goals, Wanting to reveal yourself and learn about
what is capable
11
The desire for possessiveness and possession
The desire for love and creativity.
12
The desire to consume
The desire to create
5
Demanding on oneself, while striving to understand
motives for others' actions

№ Manifestations of a sense of self Manifestations of a sense of self
importance (ASV)
advantages (DSD)
11
Respect and authority are gained
naturally through hard work and
good deeds
Embellishment of real achievements,
There are much more real achievements than
boasting
talks about them, modesty
Reaction to comments - indignation, resentment,
Reaction to comments - interest, desire
anger
find out details
Competition, win-lose strategy, Cooperation, win-win strategy,
thirst to feel superiority through
the desire to achieve something and let it manifest itself
winnings
others
Justifying oneself, while condemning and
Demanding oneself, while striving
criticism of others
understand the motives behind others' actions
The truth seems painful because of the thirst
The truth seems healing because of the thirst
get high in life
development
To seem, not to be. Creation of external
Be, not seem to be. Striving for everything
effects to the detriment of essence
externally see the essence
Looking for admiration and support outside,
Living according to your feelings
adjustment to the social
values ​​formed by beliefs and
OK
acquired meanings. Search for an objective
self-assessments
Seeking power and controlling others
The pursuit of freedom without sacrificing freedom
others
Achieving goals, wanting to prove something
Achieving goals, wanting to reveal yourself and
others
find out what you can do
The desire for possessiveness and possession The desire for love and creativity.
12
The desire to consume
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
Demanding self-respect. wish that
recognized authority
The desire to create

№ Results in life from development
ChSV
Results in life from the development of CSD
1
Lots of fears, concerns, concerns
Basic deep calm
2
Distrust of others, expectation of tricks from them
The ability to trust and subtly sense intentions
of people
3
Lack of openness, real intimacy,
love
There is a strong base to build strong
relationship
4
Situations of uncertainty cause
tension and stress
In situations of uncertainty it intensifies
intuition
5
Inability to distinguish lies from truth,
Staying in illusions
Sober thinking and a clear vision of the essence of things
6
No strong inner support in life
Finding a strong inner foundation
7
Limited usability
its natural potential
Knowing the limitlessness of your possibilities

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What is honor

• Honor is a category that means the moral assessment of an individual by society, as well as a person’s self-esteem. Honor is one of the goods that belongs to a person from birth; it is inalienable and intransferable. (Large legal dictionary)
• Honor is a complex moral, ethical and social concept associated with the assessment of such qualities of an individual as fidelity, justice, truthfulness, nobility, and dignity. (Wikipedia - the free encyclopedia)

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• Honor is the willingness to defend one’s interests and the interests of one’s state, while neglecting even a threat to life.
• Honor is an internal guard that does not allow not only low actions, but also unvirtuous thoughts.
• Honor is one of the main virtues of a person, determining his entire life.
• Honor is the inviolability of the body, the strength of the soul and the purity of thoughts.

Slide 4

Shows of honor in everyday life

• Hostilities. Military honor is the main quality that should be inherent in a good warrior, both a private and a commander.
• Everyday situations. A person who stands up for the weak or insulted is a man of honor.
• Extreme situations. A person who, in an extreme situation, thinks not about how to save himself alone, but about how to save himself together with everyone is a man of honor.

Slide 5

How to cultivate honor in yourself

• A person should have honor from birth. If a person does not feel honor in himself, he will have to make significant efforts to become a man of honor.
• Fulfillment of obligations and promises. A person who trains himself not to make impossible promises and to always keep his word becomes a man of honor.
• Psychological trainings. The fewer fears and concerns a person has, the more likely it is that in a difficult situation he will prove himself to be a man of honor. Psychological training helps to get rid of many fears.
• Self improvement. If a person is able to soberly evaluate himself, see the negative sides of his character and set a goal to overcome them, he is on the path to becoming a man of honor.

Slide 6

What is dignity dignity

• Dignity is a moral category that means respect and self-respect for the human person.
• Dignity is an inalienable property of a person as the highest value, belonging to him regardless of how he himself and the people around him perceive and evaluate his personality. Dignity is one of the intangible benefits that belong to a person from birth; it is inalienable and intransferable. (Large legal dictionary)

Slide 7

The benefits of dignity

• Dignity gives respect – to oneself. Only those who respect themselves know how to respect others.
• Dignity gives confidence in one’s own mental strength and strong-willed qualities.
• Dignity gives freedom - from criticism and slander of ordinary people.
• Dignity provides choice - the higher a person values ​​himself, the more potential opportunities he has for applying his strengths and talents.

Slide 8

Displaying dignity in everyday life

• The willingness to sacrifice one's own interests for the benefit of others is a manifestation of human dignity.
• Fulfillment of duty. Fulfillment of duty - to the Motherland, to parents, to children, military duty; duty in the most general sense is a sign of a worthy person.
• Judicial system. “Claim for protection of honor and dignity.” Only those who are aware of their dignity are capable of defending their civic dignity.
• Competitions. In sports, a person often has to overcome obstacles and overcome physical discomfort. A person with self-esteem is able to withstand all tests without losing face.
• Extreme situations. A person who saves people during a fire, explosion, or in any other extreme situation proves himself to be a worthy person.
• Charity. A worthy person will not miss the opportunity to quietly, without sticking out his own “I,” help those who really need help.

Slide 9

How to develop dignity

• Sports activities. Struggling (both physical and mental) with heavy sports equipment or heavy loads builds self-respect in a person. Self-respect is a manifestation of self-esteem.
• The acquisition of knowledge. With the acquisition of more and more new knowledge, a person has an increasingly reliable platform for developing self-esteem.
• Household relations. By not encouraging or allowing derogatory treatment of oneself by others, a person gains self-esteem.
• Controversy (dispute). By practicing debate, a person gains self-confidence and, consequently, self-esteem.

Slide 10

• You can be an honest man without being great; but you cannot be a great man without being honest. (from the Encyclopedia of Aphorisms)
• A person should be honest by nature, not by circumstance (Marcus Aurelius)

• Once a party of captured Spartans was sold into slavery. One buyer asked a prisoner he was about to buy:
  - Will you, if I buy you, be an honest person?
  “I won’t matter to them whether you buy me or not,” answered the Spartan. From the collection “Worldwide Wit”

Slide 11

Homework assignment

• Choose 2-3 proverbs that talk about honor and dignity.
• Remember and talk about the actions of heroes of books, fairy tales, and films you know, corresponding to the concepts of honor and dignity.

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“Additional professions” - 03/29/2011. Faculty of Additional Professions. Organisation management. Creation of websites. General professional courses. Journalism. Instructor of children's and youth tourism. Computer courses. Culture of the Ob-Ugric peoples. Organization of leisure time for children and adolescents. Basics of 3d studio max. Organization of public holidays and corporate events.

“Person and Profession” - Specialization. 1. Household micro-climate. PVC of professions of the “man-technique” type. Characteristics of work: content, nature, process and working conditions. The concept of professionalism. PVC of professions of the “person-to-person” type. I. Personality psychology. Doctor. Assembly and adjustment of equipment. Unusual conditions. Exploratory.

“Professions and choice” - Do I WANT to be a professional in this field? Necessary. External social factors. Elective course “FUNDAMENTALS OF CHOOSING A PROFESSION”. "The image of a profession or professional." Is your chosen profession really NEEDED in the city? Success. Self-esteem. Level of aspiration. “Self-image in the profession.” Will I be able to get a job later?

“Students’ Hobbies” - 6. Studying literature, observing classmates, questioning classmates and parents, analyzing the results. Mathematician and writer. Methods: Cheboksary - 2010. Hypothesis: 1. 10. Passion is a great interest in someone, something. Completed by: student of 3 “B” class Sophia Britvina.

“Mistakes in choosing a profession” - Research topic: Choosing a profession for the company. Quote: Identification of an academic subject with a profession. Passion only for the external or private side of the profession. What reasons lead to mistakes in choosing a profession? Quintus Horace Flaccus. Conclusion: Focus immediately on highly or highly qualified professions.

“Profession choice” - ? "Want". What should you consider when choosing a profession? Secrets of choosing a profession. When choosing a profession, it is necessary to take into account the following factors: Personal desires; interests; inclinations. "Can". Factor CAN: Problematic question: Factor MUST: Factor I WANT: “I must.”

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Let us recall that man is an Extraterrestrial Immortal Essence, which, when materialized on Earth, lost its divinity due to the intoxication of the mind by evil viruses, the only cure for which is the conscious counteraction to each of them by scrupulously following the rules of ethics and morality.

LESSON 4(self-esteem)

Never, under any circumstances, allow yourself to forget about self-respect and self-esteem.
But even in the most difficult living conditions, remember your unearthly origin and always act in accordance with this high status : Be nice and cleanly dressed, speak respectfully and calmly, do not cause the slightest harm to anyone, do not humiliate others, do not humiliate yourself and do not allow anyone to humiliate you.
And never commit actions that could cause you to be disrespected, humiliated or contemptuously treated by others, thereby cultivating your self-esteem day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment... For self-esteem, like any other quality of character does not fall as a gift from the sky, but is the result of everyone’s personal efforts.

WISDOM OF THE ANCIENT EAST...
They whip me, and I do mine again:
"Keep your honor!" What if there is nowhere to get it?
"Love the beautiful!" - I conjure.
But can this be ordered?
Ferdowsi

MAINTAINING YOUR OWN DIGNITY

When approaching this topic, first of all we want to explain the difference between pride, which is a direct product of selfishness, and respect for one’s own dignity.
When you despise someone and do not consider him your equal because he is stupid, poor, or does not have one or another quality that is valued by society or by you personally, this is pride.
If, after spitting in the face (natural or figurative - it doesn’t matter), you forgive the insult and pretend that nothing happened at all, this means that your self-esteem is zero.
Indeed, the Gospel says: “Forgive, that you may be forgiven.” However, forgiveness is nothing more than the unwillingness to take revenge.
Neither revenge nor responding with insult to insult should have a place in your life.
But you should also never tolerate a derogatory attitude towards yourself from anyone in any form or manifestation, communicate with those who allow themselves to offend, including allegedly as a joke, curse you or utter swear words at you (a state of anger, delusion, any emotional instability or intoxication cannot be an excuse for this).

People are quick to fight. Never allow abuse to be directed at you . If you feel that a quarrel may occur, prevent it with all your might: change the subject of the conversation, turn everything into a joke, take any steps to “put out the fire,” but never allow any rude word to be uttered or any action that insults you or degrades your dignity.

Never let anyone yell at you or simply raise their voice . After the first high notes, stop the conversation, make a remark and ask to speak calmly; if this does not help, say goodbye, leave during a personal conversation and hang up when talking on the phone. But it’s better not to provoke an explosion of emotions, be restrained in your speech and try to listen more and not talk, because, let us remind you, “ on the tree of silence its fruit grows - peace ».

If someone uses foul language in your presence and does not respond to your requests not to utter swear words, immediately stop communicating.

Never humiliate your dignity with repeated requests. Having made a request, remind about it no more than once and inquire about its fulfillment no more than once. If it is not fulfilled, do not say it again.

With a person who has insulted you or shown disrespect towards you in any way, stop communicating immediately (finally or before an apology, depending on the circumstances). We repeat, the state of anger or intoxication of the offender cannot serve as an excuse for him.

Never ask to visit even people close to you.

When you come on business, never accept treats unless you brought them yourself.

Never offer your services more than once. If you notice disdain for your actions (gifts, treats, help), never do them again in relation to this person.

Never, unless this is your main job, allow yourself to act as a servant and do not treat others with consumerism .
Any best intentions, the desire to bring joy or simply do something pleasant, when manifested once, as a rule, evoke gratitude, but when manifested constantly, becoming habitual and ordinary, due to the imperfection of the human mind, they are perceived as helpfulness. And helpfulness does not evoke reciprocal feelings, but on a subconscious level in those for whom (or instead of whom) actions are performed, it gives rise to arrogance, neglect, that is, disrespect in the broadest sense of the word, and sooner or later forms towards a person, including kind, sympathetic, caring, derogatory attitude, with all the problems that this entails for him.
So that this does not happen to you, under any circumstances and in any situation. don't let yourself forget about self-esteem , in particular:
- relationships with people close to you, both at home and outside the home, are built only on mutual help and mutual support;
- provide small services to strangers parity beginnings;
- for services subject to payment, it is mandatory pay(money, food, the same service).
And also don’t forget to say “thank you” to everyone and for everything.
Always remember what you know: They respect only those who respect themselves. And while demanding respect for yourself, do not forget to treat others with respect every hour and every minute. For all human values ​​(from family well-being to career success) are based solely on respect, self-esteem and mutual respect .

P.S. Let us add to what has been said that respect is a derivative of knowledge about the equality of all beings in the Universe - the eternal quality of the Immortal Essence, which Man actually is. On the material plane, it manifests itself in the form of the character traits “self-esteem” and “respect” and is one of the indicators of an individual’s recovery from evil, and the measure of manifestation is the degree of this recovery.

Start of the topic.
Lesson 10 (personal freedom, self-respect. Prevention of depression):
Never, under any circumstances, be a slave to your feelings.