Every woman wants to be loved and admired not only in the first year of marriage, but also after 20 years. No, of course, over time a habit comes, and your husband will accept you for who you are. But you want to be not only accepted, but loved and idolized. Moreover, there is nothing difficult about becoming an ideal companion; the main thing is to start changing.

1. You should definitely cook for your husband. No one, of course, will ask you for the delights of French cuisine every day for dinner, but you must learn to cook borscht and cutlets to perfection. The ability to cook truly delicious food can come with time and experience. So practice every day. Now the Internet is in almost every home, read recipes, experiment, try it. You can buy a multicooker, it makes cooking easier, and a booklet with recipes comes right away.

2. Your home should always be clean. Of course, there is no need to “lick” the house until it shines every day. It is enough to do a little cleaning every day, and then do a thorough cleaning on the weekends. By the way, you can involve both children and husband in daily activities. Let them help put away the toys, wash the dishes, and wipe the dust. Eventually, you too will get tired and need help.

3. Laundry must be washed in a timely manner. So that both the husband and children always have clean things. You should also always have a couple of clean sets of bed linen available.

4. You are a mother and you must be able to calm a raging child. If a child screams without doing anything, sheds tears, demanding a toy or not wanting to go to bed. It is you who must calm him down, no, not indulge him just to keep him quiet, but convince him through conversation to calm down. You must also ensure that the child behaves decently at a party and on the street.

5. You must know which pill to give to your husband or child, who has a fever or a toothache and you should always have medicines available in your medicine cabinet at home.

What should a wife be like?

1. Even if you are a housewife, you must have your own interests and hobbies. You don't have to live only as a husband. While he is watching football, there is no need to nag him or try to watch it with him. Mind your own business, show that you are also an individual and you have your own interests.

2. Don't stay at home all the time. You should have your own circle of friends. Leave home sometimes, let your husband get bored. At the same time, dress nicely and put on makeup.

3. No matter how meager your wardrobe may be, you should always have a beautiful dress that fits your figure for going out in public. Let's say your husband has a bonus and he invited you to celebrate this event in a restaurant, to which you answer him that you have nothing to wear and you just stay at home. It is for such occasions that you should always have something to wear.

4. Always engage in self-development. Read books, interesting articles on the Internet, no, not gossip about the stars, but educational articles. When your husband comes home, show off your knowledge and at dinner tell him some interesting fact that he doesn’t know about.

5. Be nice and friendly to others, try to smile and behave decently. His friends must like you and always be a hospitable hostess. The same applies to your husband’s relatives; try not to conflict with them and not nag your husband about them.

Intimacy

In order not to be jealous of your husband and not to be afraid of his cheating, you need to behave correctly in the bedroom.

1. There is no need to punish your husband for misconduct, lack of intimacy, or, conversely, reward him for something with intimacy.

2. Don’t act too shy in bed, because you have nothing to be shy in bed with your loved one.

3. But, of course, there is no need to act unnatural and behave like a worker in the Dutch sex industry. When asked how many men were before him, answer with a smile that everything that came before him does not matter.

4. Be ready to try something new and somehow diversify your intimate life.

5. Do not discuss your intimate life with your friends, this is only your personal and others do not need to know about it.

10 rules in appearance

A wife should remember that men love with their eyes. Therefore, you should always look decent under any circumstances.

1. You should always have clean teeth and no bad odor coming from your mouth.

2. It is not necessary to dress according to the latest trends at home, but clothes should be clean, neat and in size. Therefore, eliminate oversized faded robes from your wardrobe. You can wear, for example, tights, leggings, shorts, t-shirts, tunics and shirts.

3. Your face and body should be free of hair.

4. Don't forget about proper nutrition and sometimes remind your husband that a hamburger is the wrong food.

5. Hair should always be clean and smell nice. There is no need to do your hair while at home and cover it with a layer of varnish to fix it. If your husband wants to run his hand through your hair, he should not get tangled in it.

6. Watch your gait, it should be smooth and graceful.

8. There is no need to cover yourself with a layer of foundation and cosmetics at home. Simply apply face cream, tint your lips with gloss and mascara on your eyelashes. And that's it, you are beautiful.

9. Keep your nails clean and beautiful. Forget about extended nails, this has long been unfashionable. If the varnish begins to peel off, remove it immediately with liquid. Clean them regularly from dirt and shape them with a nail file.

10. Don't worry about your weight. Believe me, your husband won’t notice 3-5 extra kilos, but if you constantly remind him of it, he will start to take a closer look and think that there is really something wrong with you. You don't have to refuse to eat in front of him because you're on a diet. Don't talk about it. Say that you don’t just want fried chicken today, you want a light salad.

1. There is no need to educate your husband and talk to him in a commanding voice. You are not raising a shepherd, but communicating with your loved one. Often women complain that they are tired of carrying everything on themselves and being the man in the family. Don't take on too much, be a woman. Always ask your husband for help, even if you can drive a nail yourself, he must do it.

2. Do not constantly criticize your husband for what he did not do or did, but not so. Don't spoil your nervous system. Well, it doesn’t matter that he stained the bathroom with toothpaste again or didn’t take out the trash.

3. Take an interest in his work and affairs. Even if you don’t understand anything about his profession, still ask and listen.

4. Don't swear or argue with your spouse in public. No one should know what is happening in your family. Besides, there is no need to humiliate your loved one in the eyes of other people.

5. Thank him for the gifts he gives you, especially if it is not a holiday. He will have a desire to give them to you further. Mark any piece of mammoth that he brought into your “cave”.

6. Don't give reasons for jealousy. Yes, I want my husband to somehow demonstrate that he cares about you. But this is not the most successful way. Especially if you try to make him jealous with the help of his friend. You and your friend can quarrel with him and in the general company everyone will seem like a flighty lady. And then you’ll get the first number from your husband.

These are just a few basic rules of what a wife should be like for her husband. Yes, at first glance, it seems that being an ideal wife is not easy. But no one promised that everything would be easy and smooth. The main thing is to start changing yourself; at first it will not be easy, but then it will become a habit.

“I have the perfect wife!” I wonder how many men can boast of such an asset in a narrow circle of friends? And is it generally customary for representatives of the stronger half of humanity to talk about their legal spouses with admiration and undisguised delight? After all, such sincerity is often considered a sign of weakness, and men are called henpecked. But the majority of women who are in a truly happy marriage consider themselves to be just that - perfect life partners.

A popular and rather hackneyed expression that defines what an ideal wife should be, according to a man, sounds something like this: “In bed - a slut, in the kitchen - a goddess!” Well, not only is this narrow, mundane and primitive, but it is also somehow humiliating both for the stronger half of humanity and for us, beautiful ladies. After all, according to this slogan, our real and potential husbands are not interested in anything except two animal passions - sex and food.

Is it really possible that in the millennia that have passed since the transformation of man into a rational being, absolutely nothing has changed in the male consciousness? Is it possible that lust and the desire to eat delicious food still determine the whole meaning of their existence? What then should we do? From school, master the intricacies of home economics, and then look for ways to liberate yourself in bed in order to live up to the title of super-wife in the understanding of your future spouse?

Results of sociological surveys among men

To find out what an ideal life partner should be like through the eyes of a man and what exactly is the key to a happy marriage and strong family relationships, German sociologists, together with psychologists, conducted a survey among representatives of the stronger sex of the country aged 25 to 50 years. In the course of processing its results, experts found that for the average man, three main qualities are usually important in a future chosen one:

1. The ability to cook, it’s not for nothing that there is a folk wisdom that the way to the heart of the chosen one is through his stomach. With this, the representatives of the stronger sex only once again confirmed the well-known truth. Therefore, dear ladies, you should not rely on a wide range of semi-finished products and an abundance of fast food restaurants. Cook at home!
2. Sexuality, because attractive appearance and an ideal figure, combined with a certain kind of emancipation and willingness to experiment in bed, deprive the stronger sex of the desire to look for something new on the side. So, girls and women, feed your spouse various goodies, and run to fitness and strip plastic courses!
3. Admiration for your man. Yes, here the stronger sex did not show its best side: they, like selfish children, need constant admiration for their person. In addition, any man, regardless of his age, wants his wife to compliment him, show him motherly love and take care of him. And if you don’t know how to do this, then immediately go to public speaking lessons, where they will probably teach you the art of flattery.

And there is no point in making “scary eyes” at the sight of stale socks scattered everywhere or hearing naive questions in the morning on the eternal topic of lost trousers, T-shirts, and so on. Of course, the ideal wife always knows where and what lies, even if for this she needs to comprehend in detail the deductive method of Mr. Holmes.

The majority of the representatives of the stronger sex surveyed claim that if the chosen one has all these advantages, then not a single man will ever part with her. I wonder if such qualities of an ideal wife do not frighten German Frau? True, the men there are much more pedantic. Perhaps they don’t throw away dirty socks, but neatly put their things in the closet. Therefore, being a dream woman is somewhat easier for Germans than for us. Judging by the findings, they don’t even need to have intelligence. But let's not take such conclusions at face value and rather turn to the images of ideal women of the past, described in detail in fiction.

Transformation of men's ideas about perfection

In Margaret Mitchell's bestseller, such a life partner is described quite clearly. A southern lady of that time was obliged to eat like a bird, perceive any stupidity of a man as the ultimate truth, always look at him with admiration and admiration, demonstrate her own helplessness in every possible way and carefully hide her existing intelligence. Only in this case could the girl count on a happy marriage.

But on her fragile shoulders fell the worries of maintaining a huge estate and a large number of slaves, and to do everything right required ingenuity, quick wits, the ability to instantly navigate in any circumstances and strength of character. After all, it was considered impermissible to involve a spouse in such “unmanly” matters. Indeed, why bother him with women's problems? By the way, even when giving birth to a child, a southern woman had to do it as quietly as possible so as not to disturb her husband’s peace.

And remember our literary compatriot, Natasha Rostova. At the end of the novel, the author turned a lively, spontaneous and charming young girl into an overweight lady, concerned about the health of her numerous offspring, completely dissolved in household chores and the interests of her husband. Yes, yes, this is exactly what, according to Leo Tolstoy, an ideal wife should have been. But he expressed the opinion of his male contemporaries!

But don’t rush to sigh dejectedly, dear girls, and hastily hide smart books away in the closet, preparing for the arrival of the young man who is to become your husband. True, it’s also not worth greeting him with thoughtful conclusions about the meaning of existence instead of a delicious dinner. The good old truth about the golden mean is also appropriate in the case of the concept of “ideal wife”. In addition, there is a clear transformation of this image in the minds of today's men.

So what has changed since that distant time? Firstly, representatives of the fair sex won the right not to hide their own intelligence, reached enormous heights in all spheres of social life and received the opportunity to develop. Secondly, most of us have learned to properly balance career growth and family. So how can we adapt reality to what modern men call the concept of “ideal wife”?

Let's still move away from stereotypes and not take seriously the statement about a lecher and a divine cook rolled into one. Representatives of the stronger half of humanity, fortunately, are not at all as simple as they might seem based on such an interpretation of the image of an ideal life partner. If we take into account the results of numerous sociological surveys, then the dream spouse through the eyes of a man should:

• to be a beauty, to have intelligence and intelligence, not to chatter like a magpie, not to have problems with nightly migraines and critical days that come completely inopportunely;
• be able to inspire and serve as a source of inspiration, support the husband’s belief that he is the smartest, the most beautiful and the most successful;
• to embody the true feminine principle in the form of purity, kindness and endless patience.

Here they are, the basic rules of the ideal wife. As you can see, something has changed in the male consciousness since the days of Scarlett and Natasha Rostova. It is gratifying that the stronger sex recognizes that we have intelligence, but cooking skills are completely absent from the list above (unless, of course, they are hidden under the general phrase “true feminine principles”). It pleases self-esteem and the pleasant need to serve as a muse for a beloved man in all his endeavors. But in fact, there are many generalizations in these three rules, and if you look at each of them more specifically, you will get a whole set of unspoken laws of behavior, containing at least ten main articles.

Commandments for an ideal life partner

And no one said that becoming the woman of his life for your chosen one would be so easy! The path to perfection is thorny and difficult, but it is still possible to overcome it if you have a great desire for this, supported by sincere love. Remember a simple truth: only a wise woman can find true family happiness. So, maybe it’s time to take the first steps yourself, and not expect them from your companion? But the 10 commandments of an ideal wife will tell you where to start.

1. Learn to be different, because being able to surprise a man even ten to fifteen years after the wedding is the “aerobatics” of marriage. Don't be afraid to change both externally and internally. Hairstyle, hair color, makeup, style - all this should not remain in a static state, even if the chosen image suits you very well.

In addition to appearance, it is necessary to change internally. Don’t remain for a long time only in the role of a super-housewife or mother of your children, don’t put family happiness on the altar of work, even if it brings good income, don’t become just an inventive mistress, languidly waiting for your husband in bed and offering sex for dinner. Act, play and transform, be unpredictable, a mystery woman, if you want.

1. Perceive your man exactly as he really is, because being able to correctly assess real opportunities is much more important than loving ephemeral prospects. Therefore, do not expect that a stamp in your passport will open up unlimited opportunities for you to make adjustments to the image of your spouse. Instead of trying to correct his shortcomings, focus on his strengths and cultivate them.
2. Become for a man that reliable rear and quiet haven that he so dreams of. Lending your shoulder in time and steadfastly facing business failure, health problems or some other crisis moment - this is what the proverbial “for better or for worse” means. The hardships experienced together incredibly unite the family and force a man to take a special look at his wife, who was nearby at a difficult moment.
3. Learn to love yourself. Find time to take care of your own appearance and figure, grow spiritually, and comprehend new horizons. After all, a wife-cook or wife-housekeeper is very convenient, but unbearably bland. And men love the feeling of flight, so they are quite capable of going in search of it to another woman.
4. Do not try to avoid quarrels and conflicts with your family. After all, your compliance in the desire to maintain the appearance of peace can create a tyrant in your spouse. Therefore, it is necessary to be able to sort things out, but do it in a civilized manner and not in front of children. Remember, in any disagreement you should avoid categorical statements and excursions into the history of your spouse’s past sins.
5. Don't make sex an optional role. Of course, over time, the old passions will subside, but if you approach the process in a non-trivial way and diversify it somewhat, then it is still possible to rekindle the flame of love. Do not forget that for a man, satisfying sexual needs is a vital necessity and does not depend on how many children you have and the worries associated with them.
6. Don't try to replace your husband's best friend. Of course, over time, spouses, so to speak, “grow” into each other and become family. But you shouldn’t lose yourself entirely in the interests of a man. Don't forget about your own individuality and always emphasize your femininity and sexuality. And if your husband invites you to have a tete-a-tete in the kitchen, then ask him to buy champagne, not beer. After all, a glass of sparkling drink in the thin hand of a beloved wife can excite the imagination with the prospects of a passionate night.
7. Do not neglect the role of homemaker. Always greet your spouse neatly dressed, smiling and in a good mood. Don’t leave your apartment cluttered with children’s toys and piles of dirty dishes in the sink. Feed your husband a delicious dinner, and this should be done every night, because he has the right to replenish his strength after a hard day at work. Remember that you always want to return to a house that smells like pies and is filled with a sense of peace.
8. You need to be able to listen to your spouse and be attentive to what he tells you about. And don’t be shy to talk about topics that concern you. Dialogue, especially flavored with a cup of aromatic evening tea, helps to get rid of the tension accumulated during the day and makes it possible to better understand each other. Spiritual intimacy promotes harmony in sexual relationships.
9. You should not constantly cultivate in a man the feeling that his wife is sacrificing herself to the family. In the end, he will want to free you and himself from such a yoke. But you shouldn’t just take from a man everything he can offer you, without giving anything in return and demanding another star from the sky. This approach will soon tire and embitter your husband, which will lead to scandal and divorce. Therefore, try to give yourself easily, but also do not forget to take what is due from your loved one, in other words, look for balance.

Here they are, the 10 commandments of the ideal wife. As you can see, this is not only a guide to achieving harmony in the family, but also colossal work on oneself, a path to improving the inner “I” and a kind of restructuring of self-awareness. The emotional side of relationships is a purely female prerogative, so what the “weather in the house” will be depends on you. But everyone knows that for a good harvest you need both sun and rain. So in the family - a few whims, a few tears and a sea of ​​warmth, together and in the right dosage, will give excellent results in the form of strong and reliable relationships, generously watered with sincere love.

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Natalya, one of my friends, recognized in our group of girls as “the smartest of the smartest, the wisest of the wisest wives,” once said in a conversation:

“Do you think your husband married you so he could eat delicious cutlets every day? No! My husband got married so he could throw leaves with you in the autumn park and fool around in the bathroom.”

What started after this phrase!..

Disputes about what a wife should be like, lasted until 3 in the morning, until the excited husbands “dismantled” their beauties to their homes.

Let us also think about this burning topic.

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No matter how much one would like to talk about the kinship of souls and the special “chemistry” between spouses in a dispute about what kind of wife a wife should be, in family life one cannot do without:

Cooking skills for husband(at least at a basic level).

Of course, no one will demand stewed rabbit with bechamel sauce every day, and perfect tiramisu for dessert, but you will still have to learn how to make soup.

Well, if you were lucky enough to be born into a family where you had three nannies, two governesses and a personal chef, then it’s time to master cooking using the Internet and buy a slow cooker.

The main thing is to remember to clear your search history in your Internet browser so that your spouse doesn’t inadvertently find out that the vaunted family recipe for cabbage pie was taken from the Internet.

Let him remain blissfully unaware!

“My husband and I have been living together for 35 years, and I still remember my first borscht, which looked like porridge for piglets, and I wonder how he ate it and even praised it?

This, probably, is love for your wife in its purest form.”– says housewife Alla with a laugh.

Do you feel sad and sad because you have to spend half your day off in “Cinderella mode” (washing, scrubbing, scrubbing and vacuuming)?

Catch two simple, as five kopecks, but effective “life hacks”:

• divide the entire home “hard labor” into weekday evenings,
• don’t be shy about giving your household “magic kicks” towards the bucket and mop.

After all, it’s not just the wife who’s playing tricks here?

Timely “laundries”.


Believe me, the absence of a pair of clean socks from your husband will not contribute to family harmony and spiritual kinship.

Especially if in the morning he is in a hurry to an important business meeting, at which there is an opportunity to earn money for his beloved wife for a warm fur coat.

The ability to calm a raging child.

Yes, we understand that you are still far from Makarenko and Sukhomlinsky, and no one expects your child to resemble a robot or a well-trained soldier of the American army.

However, the husband has the right to count on the fact that his wife will be able to stop his son’s hysterics in the toy store, will not allow him to yell on the train and saddle the neighbor’s dog.

Basic medical knowledge.

A good wife should not be seized by panic when someone in the household has a temperature of 37.3 and thrown into a stupor by the need to prepare a chamomile decoction.

And sometimes a strong kiss from his wife and a drop of sympathy will be enough for a husband. Well, isn't she a pet witch?

What a wife should be like outside the home: 5 traits of a real socialite

Reveling in each other’s company 24 hours a day is, of course, very romantic, but this crazy world also talks about what a wife should be like when she flies out of her husband’s arms:

Have your own interests and social circle.

At least in order not to die of boredom when the husband goes fishing. Show that you are not too bad!

Let`s go to the theatre, swimming pool, exhibition or just for a get-together with your girlfriends! Then you can argue about who had the best weekend.

“When I told my husband that the girls and I decided to organize a book club, that is, read the same books and then discuss them, at first he laughed like crazy.

And now, the cunning one, asks for advice on reading “something like that” and, puffed up with pride, tells his friends about his book-reading wife.”– Muscovite Svetlana shares her experience.

A great wife should have a wardrobe for all occasions.

And for this it is not at all necessary to have a closet the size of half of Africa and a lot of money, like the wife of an Arab sheikh.

Suffice it to recall the unforgettable secretary Verochka from “Office Romance”, who declared: “The main thing is combinatoriality!”

Strive to be educated and/or constantly engage in self-development.

At least in order not to bat your beautifully painted eyelashes at a party when you hear the phrase “android collider” and not to faint when other wives mention Martin Scorsese’s films.

Maintain “human” relationships with your husband’s parents.

In order for Shakespearean passions to bypass you and your mother-in-law, you should not be sarcastic about her crazy eggplant hair color, and in the kitchen claim that “you, Uncle Fyodor, are eating a sandwich wrong...”

Must be nice to others and know basic etiquette.

Who knows, maybe you live with the future mayor of the city or even be the first lady of the country?

Do you want your neighbor to tell reporters about how the president’s wife 5 years ago grabbed his hair by the cigarette butts scattered around the entrance?

Sex without drugs, but only with rock and roll: what kind of wife should she be in bed?

Bed specialists (sexologists) suggest what a wife should be like in the bedroom so that the thought of a mistress does not even enter her husband’s bright head:

He does not skimp on his marital duty without reason and does not punish misdeeds by “excommunication” from the body.

It’s the legal wife who sees the bald spot in her hair and the beer belly, and the “sworn” friend who sees your husband as “a man in full bloom.”

You don't want someone else to warm him up, do you?

A good wife should not behave in bed like a captured German during interrogation, but should be moderately relaxed.

This is your dear little man! Who should be embarrassed? Whom to fear?

The wife should not behave like an experienced worker in the Dutch sex industry.

Have pity on your husband!

With thoughts about your “combat” past, he will likely give himself a heart attack.

The perfect answer to the question “How many men have you had before me?” sounds something like this: “It doesn't matter at all. All the real things in my life began with your appearance!”

Combine with a smile and innocently downcast eyes.

An “advanced” wife should be ready to experiment.

And we are not talking about putting into practice all the knowledge gleaned from the Kama Sutra and 50 Shades of Gray, but don’t you want to diversify your usual “sandwich” sex with a couple of new positions?

A wife should not discuss her intimate life with anyone.

The only exception may be a doctor or psychologist with whom you decide to sort out the problems of your and your husband’s sex life.

10 “musts to by” in a wife’s appearance for her husband to love with his eyes

Even if 20 years have passed since the wedding, the husband still dreams of what a wife should be like in order to seduce him “breathing perfumes and mists”:

Healthy teeth and no bad breath from the wife are welcome.

And you probably wouldn't want to kiss the reincarnation of Shrek.

The wife should be dressed in neat and fashionable clothes.

Send robes of dubious colors and styles to Sharik's bedding or turn them into floor rags.

Lack of hair on the face, bikini area and armpits.

Hide your hair removal products.

Let the husband think that he lives with a fairy whose skin becomes smooth, like a baby’s butt, with the wave of a magic wand.

And let the whole world wait with its boom in natural beauty.

The wife should eat more or less right.

Hair should be of natural structure and color.

What if your husband, in a fit of tenderness, puts his hand through your hair and gets stuck in the curls “cemented” with foam and varnish?

All romance will disappear in the blink of an eye!

A wife should have a smooth gait.

You shouldn’t move at a marching pace or mince, pretending to be Marilyn Monroe.

In order not to laugh like a hyena who has found carrion, you should practice with a voice recorder.

And even when arguing with her husband, a wife should not lose her voice during an ultrasound!

Healthy skin, not hidden behind layers of cosmetic “plaster,” will become a real decoration for your wife.

You're not performing in the Japanese Kabuki theater, are you?

For daytime makeup, all you need is a little powder, a little mascara and a couple of drops of lip gloss - voila - and you are a real beauty!

A normal wife should have natural nails.

No overgrown blades, chipped rainbow-colored varnish, or rims of dirt!

It’s better to wear regular French or delicate pastel shades.

After all, you yourself then complain that your husband has stopped kissing hands.

A wife shouldn’t worry too much about being overweight, but should be satisfied with herself and her life.

No, one and a half centners of fat or protruding bones are, of course, too much.

But it’s unlikely that 3-5 kilograms will lead to a divorce from your husband and maiden name.

And if the wife is not satisfied with something, it is better not to “blow out” her husband’s brains, but to sign up for a fitness class.

What a wife and any woman should be like in terms of cinema: 15 amazing films for you and your husband

Many interesting films have been made about what a beloved girl, wife, a real Woman with a capital W should be like.

No.	Name	Country, year of release
1	"The Stepford Wives"	USA, 2004
2	"Desperate Housewives"	USA, 2004
3	"Amelie"	France, 2001
4	"Breakfast at Tiffany's"	USA, 1961
5	"Home Sweet Hell"	USA, 2015
6	"Road of Change"	USA, 2008
7	"Mona Lisa Smile"	USA, 2003
8	"The Right Wife"	USA, 2015
9	"Mr. and Mrs. Smith"	USA, 2005
10	"Pretend my wife"	USA, 2011
11	"The Time Traveler's Wife"	USA, 2008
12	"Window Opposite"	Italy, 2003
13	"The Artist's Wife"	Denmark, Sweden, 2012
14	"The Astronaut's Wife"	USA, 1999
15	"The Iron Lady"	USA, 2011

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No.	Author, title
1	H. Brown “Ladies' etiquette. A guide for the modern woman"
2	E. Shatskaya “School of a real bitch”
3	V. Sheynov “Woman + Man. To know and conquer"
4	L. Alcott "Little Women"
5	D. London “Woman’s Courage”
6	A. Golon “Angelica – Marquise of Angels”
7	A. Blok. Diary of a Woman Nobody Loved
8	Ch. Bukowski “Women”
9	D. Austin "Pride and Prejudice"
10	M. Kundera “The Incredible Lightness of Being”
11	F. Fitzgerald "Tender is the Night"
12	L. Alcott "Good Wives"
13	P. Rakov “50 rules for a smart fool”
14	O. Novoselov “Woman: a textbook for men”
15	A. Sviyash “90 steps to a happy family life”

Men themselves will tell you what an ideal woman should be like:

6 excellent tips from psychologists on what an ideal wife should be like

A wife should not speak to her husband in a commanding voice.

Maybe, of course, you can train him like a German shepherd, but we doubt that this will bring you the notorious family happiness and the feeling of a reliable shoulder.

Let your husband feel like a man next to his fragile wife.

A wife should not criticize and reproach 50 times a day, even if her husband regularly plays tricks.

Your husband brought toothpaste with fluoride instead of calcium, forgot to feed the cat and filled your favorite flowerpot with water half to death?

Relax, this is not a reason to ruin your nervous system and your relationship with your significant other.

Take at least a little interest in your husband’s professional activities.

Even if he repairs cars or sells securities.

Let him pour out his soul about work troubles to you, and not to the secretary with the fourth breast size.

A good wife should not argue with her husband in public.

Our grandmothers also knew that they shouldn’t wash dirty linen in public.

An excellent wife knows how to sincerely enjoy attention, gifts, money and, in general, any piece of “mammoth” that her beloved man brought into the “cave”.

Otherwise you won’t see your ears, beads, shoes, or that charming red dress from the sale.

A wife should not give reasons for jealousy, no matter how playful she might want to feel.

Dying at the hands of a jealous husband is a beautiful but sad end for a wife!

Oh, how difficult it turns out to be to be a wife, the legal custodian of the heart, hand and credit card of your beloved husband! But who said that the road of family life is strewn with pretzels?

But the correct approach to solving the issue “ What should a wife be like?? guarantees that after the end of your wedding fairy tale (“They began to live and live and make good things”), a real horror film will not begin...

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What is the real purpose of a woman? Keep your hearth, give birth to children, love, create, create an atmosphere of comfort and warmth around yourself... Perhaps these are just stereotypes. Yes, women know how to create a spiritual atmosphere and guess the state of other people, but these qualities are given to her by nature. She has strong intuition, flexibility, the ability to compassion and feel deeply. Yes, it is important to continue one’s family line, but by giving birth to children, a woman fulfills the purpose of a mother. So what does it mean to be a real woman and what should an ideal wife be like?

German philosopher Bert Hellinger states: “A woman needs a man, because without a man she is not a woman.” Men and women are polar opposites, they think and perceive reality differently, but at the same time they complement each other. Women cannot exist without men. And men have no place in a world without women. The whole world is built on paired opposites and people are no exception.

Nature has endowed the fair sex with tenderness and care, which men so lack. Sometimes women should consciously step into the background, allow a man to be strong and active, to reveal his potential.

You may object: “Why should a woman be behind a man, constantly making concessions?” But this is where her wisdom lies. If a woman understands her man, trusts him, and most importantly, believes in him, he will do everything to make his companion happy with him. Men don’t need anything, they wouldn’t do anything for themselves. Only female strength and charm motivates them to exploits!

Modern ladies increasingly want to be on an equal footing with men. But no matter how free and independent a woman is, she always wants to remain weak and feminine, stand behind the strong shoulders of men and know that she is not afraid of any difficulties in life. Every woman wants to get married and build a strong union.

The word "marriage" has no connection with lack of quality. It was formed from the word “take”. A man takes a woman as his wife in order to reunite with her into one whole. Give her his strength and receive in return the feminine energy and tenderness that he so lacks. But the union of two people will be strong only when it is based on love, respect, understanding and trust. And if a man is the material and protective basis of marriage, then a woman is its spiritual center. Whether we want it or not, the responsibility for maintaining a warm atmosphere and love in the house lies on the fragile shoulders of women. And if there is a chill in the relationship, then the woman will again be to blame for this, no matter how sad it may sound.

Sometimes it seems difficult to maintain harmony in the family. Life presents us with problems and unpleasant surprises that need to be solved. Of course, life is not ideal, but every woman can become an ideal wife and create a strong family. Nobody says it’s easy, but the main thing is to know what an ideal wife should be like, or rather, what to strive for.

What should an ideal wife be like?

The ability to keep the house clean and tidy, to know household tricks, to adapt and guess the desires of your companion is the height of skill. And preserving love for a lifetime is a real art! A woman should remember the simple commandments of what an ideal wife should be like to create warm relationships and a strong marriage.

Respect each other

A real man doesn't need to be treated like a child or girlfriend. It is important for him to feel his dominance, to know that his wife respects him and the last word will always be his. Now there is no question that a man is always unquestioningly right and a woman should poke him in everything. Respect should be built on mutual understanding, the couple should be able to talk to each other and tactfully express their opinions. If you learn to restrain your emotions and discuss any issues in calm tones, then in the future you will not have unresolved issues. After all, everything will be built on mutual respect.

Make concessions

It is usually not difficult for a man to give in to his woman. Why don’t we sometimes give in to our husbands? For you, watching hockey or fishing seems like such a small thing, but for your husband it is important to open the summer fishing season or “cheer” for your favorite team. Give in to him even in small things - this will make him appreciate you even more.

Help your husband achieve his goals

A woman can realize herself quite well. But it’s so arranged that a man is usually engaged in visible activities and his contribution to the family budget is noticeable, while women’s work is practically invisible. But if it weren’t for you, would your husband have reached such heights? You take care of household chores, make sure his shirts are clean, he eats, etc. He certainly wouldn’t have been able to do everything on his own!

A woman helps men’s talents to reveal themselves and encourages her husband to take action. You don’t need to think that you are devoting your life to him, wasting time that you could use to achieve your career growth. You are a family, you are companions and you make a common income. If a man is doing well and is rapidly moving up the career ladder, why not help him with this? Be on the same team with your husband, so you will achieve your goals faster.

Learn to control your emotions

Women are sensitive by nature and sometimes find it difficult to restrain their emotions. There are times when it is difficult to maintain a calm tone. But the sooner you learn not to argue, but to talk, the sooner you learn to take your man’s opinion into account, the sooner he will appreciate your wisdom. And even if you categorically disagree with your husband’s opinion, you should not issue orders. You are, first of all, a woman, weak and defenseless. Your orders should look like sentences. It is worth noting that when a man feels his authority, most often he agrees with the opinion of his wife.

Praise your man

Everyone loves to be praised, especially men. This does not mean that you should constantly give compliments with or without reason. But why not thank your man for specific deeds, help, and note his talents. Praise inspires men and gives them an incentive to move forward. Start praising each other and you will realize how wonderful it is to start and end the day with praise and kind words.

Don't humiliate your husband in public

Sometimes you can notice a situation when a husband wants to say something, but his wife has dissatisfaction written all over her face. She begins to interrupt him in public and express her “correct” point of view. This is complete disrespect for a man! Yes, sometimes our defenders do not always know how to express their thoughts beautifully and they are not always right, but any person must be listened to completely and his opinion taken into account. If you interrupt your husband in public, you will spoil the opinion not only of your husband, but also of yourself.

Don't compare your husband to anyone

Of course, family life is not always ideal, but you should never say, “I gave you the best years of my life, and who am I now?”, “But Lenka’s husband got a promotion a long time ago!” and the like. For men, such phrases are not just humiliation, it is almost defeat. It turns out that you regret marrying him. It turns out that he could not make you happy. Both of you are responsible for family happiness, and often both of you are to blame for the troubles that arise.

Your man should be confident that you will be by his side in wealth and poverty, sickness and health. He needs to know that you value him. It is the wife who can elevate her man, give him an impetus to new achievements, and direct him in the right direction. With a wise and loving woman, a man can discover new potential in himself and reach unprecedented heights.

Don't wash dirty linen in public

Many women like to gossip with friends and mother about problems in family life, and complain about their husband. Thus, of course, you will receive support, but what kind? Are you even more convinced that everything is bad? You will most likely soon cool down, the quarrels will subside, and your husband will again become dearest and kindest to you. For you, but not for your relatives and friends, for them he is already the “tormentor” of their beautiful friend or smart daughter. Now, with every quarrel, you will be “added fuel to the fire” with bad memories. The husband's reputation will be ruined. Why do you need this, leave all the bad things behind you.

Let's sum it up

What's the conclusion? So what should an ideal wife be like? First of all, to be your husband’s assistant, comrade-in-arms, his right hand, like-minded person and ally in any battle. Both spouses must be confident in each other's fidelity and devotion. How great it is to know that there is a person next to you who, under any circumstances, will be for you and next to you.

Only a wise woman is able to consciously step into the background and give her man the role of leader. For some, this is not an easy task at all! But remember, behind female weakness and humility lies enormous strength and power. After all, when a man feels his importance and believes in his masculinity, he is ready to be your breadwinner, breadwinner, helper, protector.