And whether a man is experiencing such about this? - Women will ask. After all, the strong floor is so strong to steal the love tests.

The opinion is very popular, but no less mistake. Science confirms - a strong half of humanity transfers the rupture of love relationships is harder than the weak floor. And if you delve into the analysis of family psychology, another fact will open - the psyche of the guys in general is weaker than the psyche of the girls. And it turns out, the strong floor is also crying, only within himself. They are also capable of sublimation: remember the first meeting, touch, kisses. The only difference is that they do not share with anyone.

Well, and if it's just a novel "on the side" and there is an alternative option - to return to the spouse and live as before - do men break off relationships in this case? By logic, there is no place for suffering. After all, a person has a blow - a legitimate wife and, probably, children on which you can immediately switch. In addition, there is always a chance to have a new partner for sex.

All this is true and, it seems, it should be, but in reality it does not happen. We agree immediately that we are not considering a one-day romance with a friend, whose name is forgotten the next day. We consider the long-term connection of lovers, in which feelings have already appeared. So, for any normal person, however, he did not have anything, parting with his beloved will always be something unpleasant, often associated with pain and depression.

What stages are a person after parting with his beloved? The loving relationship is considered by psychologists as a kind of loss. Therefore, a lover who decided to stay with his wife and for some reason to quit the second beloved, to get into the usual rut quickly will not succeed. Here you will have to endure some emotional (and not quite pleasant) stages. Some of them can observe a wife nearby.

First stage - denial

The partner does not believe in what was able to lose his mistress, or rather, in the irreparation of this event. In his head, all the plans about joint pastime are also built, and hope is worse, that this is just another quarrel after which reconciliation comes.

Second stage - anger

She comes after aware of the fact that there is no more relationship. Under the influence of anger, the behavior of heavy halves is not always predictable: emotions can manifest itself open, and can be raged inside and be invisible to others.

This stage is characterized by hidden charges of a friend in her passivity, the range for the fact that she could not prevent his care. Then the charges fell on themselves. Often the sacrifice can be a spouse. Especially if she is aware of what happened and the couple had a conversation on this topic. Often, the husband can hide anger and mentally leading to his wife "Cold War" or to openly declare his indignation, picking racing every little things.

Third stage - bargaining

He trades himself with him or comes to contact with the former beloved and arrange a bidding with her. What does bargain mean? When a man is experiencing a gap, he is trying to set some time to determine the time interval required for the return of the beloved. And this is normal, because the psyche is trying to cope with negative emotions and get used to the thought of parting.

Fourth Stage - Depression

At some point, awareness comes that it is too late for anything, and it is meaningless to deny it. The person comes indifference, sadness and depression.

Fifth and final stage - new life

Depression goes into understanding that all this time you did not live, regret myself and was in finding something uncertain. Then a man has a "reboot". He takes himself in his hands, begins to build new plans and again feels the strength and desire to implement them.

Actions and actions of men

How do men worry a gap? If a married man breaks up with his mistress, and if the point in the novel is put on the female initiative, he feels a terrible emptiness - a vacuum, as psychologists called the phenomenon. It is especially acute that it manifests itself when everything collapsing suddenly, darkless, as if on an empty place. Even more aggravates the situation of the existence of emotional dependence on the former Passia. This case implies all bases for stress to which the body is exposed at all levels.

One of the reasons for such a reaction is secretive. Holding emotions in yourself, the reluctance of their splashes leads to the excavation of adrenaline in the blood. How does a man behave when it is experiencing like? He rushes in all serious. For example:

• It goes into alcoholic drink. Sometimes it turns into dependence.
• It goes to the gym and expels there anger (usually, breaks hands into the blood).
• Sit into the car and rushes at a huge speed.
• Finds an active physical activity, followed by all day. So not only splashing aggression, but also comes the state of physical exhaustion, which helps "turn off" the thought process.

According to the study of the same psychologists,

heavier is experiencing a break with her beloved dependent partners.

Such people are advised to immediately contact the psychotherapist, otherwise, trying to switch to something other, from one dependence easily fall into another (for example, alcoholism).

Dependent people confuse their feelings with love. In fact, the dependence is inherent in those who do not like themselves. That is why they are desperately trying to find love in another, believing in the illusion that he will make it happy and protected. But reality proves the opposite - if there is no love inside the personself, it will not be outside.

An abandoned person needs to realize that his salvation is only in respect and love for himself. If he is also afraid of losing, it will definitely happen. This is the law of the universe.

But there is another breaking option - by mutual agreement. Here the situation is a little easier, and farewell, most likely, will be painless. The time spent together will leave a pair of pleasant memories and light sadness, and instead of regrettable and pain people will experience mutual thanks. In this situation, the representative of the powerful sex will be easier if a loving spouse is nearby, ready to forgive betray and start everything from a clean leaf.

Proper parting - Psychologists consider - this is when the emptiness formed after a break with a partner is filled with something nice, new. So, in some cases, the married man himself introduces his girlfriend with a new cavalier (someone from his acquaintances) and unobtrusively drives them together. This method is called "leave imperceptibly."

How to get a difficult period?

How to survive parting with a mistress? Is there a recipe, how easier to survive a break of relationships with a mistress? If the event is experiencing hard, psychologists advise you to find "pros" (and they certainly have) and concentrate on them. For example:

• Put the goal - to forget about what happened once and forever - and relentlessly follow it. Try to provoke yourself: Cause Sports interest, tie a competition with yourself, experience your inner forces.
• You need to forget about SMS, conversations on the phone and letters of a man to his mistress. Remove previous correspondence, do not go to the social network in order to check when it was last online, and do not hold the phone to yourself for yourself for the long-awaited call. Believe me, the less time you pay such actions, the less pains will experience.
• Think about your wife. Stop pity yourself and try to imagine what she feels. If the spouse knows about the campaign "left", believe me, it is even harder than you. If he does not know, it probably noticed according to your atypical behavior that something happened and is no less.
• Think about what sooner or later it should have happened. And rejoice, what happened right now, and not later, when the situation would be sharpened before the peak, and your spouse would know about treason. Or you would have to take responsibility and make a choice between women.
• It is wonderful that now you do not have to break between two lights and sophisticated in lies and tricks.
• Leaving leave. Do not discard calls and SMS, how you would not want.
• Take your wife, children (if they are) and wrap on a two-week journey. Men after such a test, as never need a convergence with their family, to change the situation and new impressions. Perhaps after all the storm emotions, you and your wife will begin a new stage in marriage.