Why many of us, from the earliest childhood dreaming about a lush wedding and an endless family happiness, in the end become permanent mistresses of married men? Oddly enough, but for a fairly large part of the representatives of weak gender, such a fate is predetermined by the fate. Of course, they are not to blame for the fact that by the time of the meeting the beloved man was already married. Sometimes the potential mistresses do not know about it, but sometimes they know, but, fully captured by their feelings, give the fact of marriage. And without resistance, they take the status of the "lover of a married man," throwing in love, as in Out. They decide to live today, and then - if it will be! And it happens any. After all, a man is married, and hence, he is not free, and the relationship with his mistress is usually trying to build not to the detriment of his family. It can withstand far from every woman. So how to behave, if suddenly (or not suddenly), did you manage to become a mistress of a married man?

What does it mean to be a mistress of a married man

Why does a woman become a mistress? After all, the novel trap with a married man is very cunning. After a romantic, thoroughly noting, any sober reasoning of the period of relationship comes a bitter insight: "I have nothing to dream about, because he has another." And wakes up burning, unbearable painful jealousy. Otherwise it can not be. Yes, usually married men are told mistresses that the wife has long been lost and physical, and spiritual connection. But except that a very naive lady believes that there is no intimate relationship with his wife. And the rights to these intimate relationships, his legitimate faithful has much more.

And also - there are holidays that a married man spends with his family. There are calls of his wife during your meetings and his little to blame and rather gentle in response: "Yes, dear, I will soon!". There is a nervous glance at the clock at the most inopportune moment and there is a lot, much more ... It's all shouting from all sides: "He is not yours! You are just a constant mistress, but not a wife! ". This fact becomes painful, and rare meetings no longer bring that satisfaction that was at the very beginning of the acquaintance. Somewhere inside first quietly ripens, and then it grows up to gigantic sizes, the resulting all thoughts of the question: "He divorced or not? He loves truly or just playing with me? ".

It would seem that there is no need to be seven spans in the forehead to envisage such a development of events, risking to become a real mistress of a non-free man. We will not talk about temporary, for one night, we will not talk about such men, - such a relationship of suffering if they bring, then in exceptional cases. And how promising are not considered at all. So why a woman so complicate your life, comforting yourself with ghostly dreams and often understanding that all its hopes are no more than illusions? And that the mistress of a married man is unlikely to be confident in the happy future with him?

Are married men from the family go to mistresses? Happened. But quite rare. And the point here is not that they do not have any feelings on the side of women. It happens that they are experiencing, and even very strong. But even extremely loved in such a woman, representatives of heavy sex turn out to be weak, if the question about divorce with his wife gets very acute. For many men, cardinal changes in life are equivalent to a natural disaster. And they do not want to arrange him with their own hands. Therefore, in order for them to have a thought, to marry Lee on his mistress, the thought of divorce should appear before. In other words, a married man to divorce should be ready before meeting with another woman. Otherwise, the question is "Will the mistress go to the mistress?" It stands in front of him not immediately, but perhaps never stand.

So why are the women so thoughtlessly thrown into the arms of a married man, if in the depths of the soul understand that the novel will be difficult, and often and unpromising? Causes are different.

Types of lovers of a married man

In general, there are several types of mistresses:

1. Mazohistka's mistress is a woman who impresses the position of the victim. In a relationship with a married man, she understands everything, everything takes and agree on everything. Masochistus with sympathy, tenderness and love listens to the outpouring of a man about how he is unhappy in the family, perceiving him at the same time as a noble and strong person. This is the perfect mistress of a married man who sincerely believes that the beloved does not divorce with his wife and tolerate "this mumper," because he feels obliged to children (parents, sick wife and so on).

   She is convinced that "in someone else's misfortune you will not build" and is not going to destroy someone else's family. A man with such a woman really likes to play nobility, and he leaves her from time to time, so she finally arranged her personal life. Being an ideal mistress, a dedicated masochist in such periods is very suffering, but does not even think about trying to create his own family. And when the beloved returns, she again takes him, shining happy eyes. These are very convenient types of mistresses, relationship with which men can continue over long years.

2. Lover-hysteric this woman likes the thrill. Usually, tantrums include bright, confident, independent ladies that can easily arrange a personal life. If they want. But they do not want. They are adventurous and not think of their lives without risky situations, therefore choose the passion of married men, and those who are able to constantly create these risky situations. The psychology of the mistress of this kind is based on a high level of aggression, and she holds his chosen one in his eyes all the time, then flirting with someone in his eyes, then disappearing for a few days, then calling his wife ... Fantasy at the hysterical lover does not have borders, And throw it away anything.

   Roman with a similar lady not every man on the shoulder. Relationships develop quickly and rapidly, without delaying and ekivov. The lady's maneuvers with the psychology of mistress-hysterical is not capable, "she needs a victory at all costs, and she goes to his goal on the heads. Rooms with a sense of duty and duties before children do not pass. And to keep married from her away, and run, breaking your head, but it does not come out! Attacks of aggression in mistress-hysterical are replaced by the attacks of incredible tenderness, and such a whip and gingerbread holds a man with a clearest of any waterfall of solid affectionate. But, since he stepped on the minefield, it means that he needed a powerful splash of adrenaline. And to such a woman, married will pull until he finally exhausted. When such a moment comes - unknown to anyone. The most paradoxant in the behavior of mistress-hysteries - if a married man suddenly assumes to put a family, they immediately tear with him all sorts of contacts. Because the object becomes uninteresting.

3. The mistress-eternal bride is a woman who has an exquisite nature that is not able to pragmatically perceive the world around. She is looking for only a prince, and detects all his features in a strong, bold, but, alas, a married man, who hardly plays the role of who needs an eternal bride. However, often he does not play this role at all. Just in a relationship with the mistress of this kind, any man involuntarily becomes indulgent. Otherwise it can not be. After all, she is so trusting and naive and so much to him in front of him that he always feels like her no other than a noble knight! The eternal bride, looking at him, is experiencing a serious delight: here he is her prince! And at the same time absolutely not thinking about the fact that he has a family. And, by and large, she doesn't care, because next to her such a reliable, experienced and sublime man!

   In fact, the situation in the relationship of this kind is somewhat different. Mistress-eternal bride is looking for someone who would take responsibility for her future. She can't and does not want to take some decisions on his own, therefore, as a protective wall and support, it is quite suitable and married knight. The main life rules of the mistress-eternal bride are the desire to prevent the devastating reality into their fragile inner world. She almost sincerely believes that once a loved one, hence, in front of them - only a bright future. About his wife, children "Eternal Bride" prefers not to think. And if one day this fact causes it to change his behavior and thoughts, the young lady is amazed, frightened and often begins to behave like a complete hysterium. She creates a man with reproaches, calls his wife, complains of her cunning surrounding, shifts and appeals to sympathy.

4. Mother's mistress This woman is a real mistress, next to which a man is resting and soul and body. Be careful from solving endless household problems and tired of the requirements of his wife, in the house of the Mother's Mother's house it takes peace. No one climbs into his soul, no one forces money to make money, take the garbage, nail the nail ... Having worried about care and caress, he seems to dissolve in the arms of his mistress, feeling in complete safety.

   The rules of mistress-mothers are based on the principle "not harm." It will not agree with questions about divorce, will not ask about where it was worn so long, he will not call his wife and will not reproach. Frequently and tasty feed, laid, will give an unforgettable sex ... It would seem, full idyll, divorce the same, settled here forever! After all, at home - a grumpy wife in a stirable bathrobe, serving the store dumplings and require regular attention to children. So no, no! Returns to his wife and children, in order to exhaust their nerves, and then again goes here to come to themselves. Why?! Yes, everything is very simple. Men understand that all this calm comfort can be a diligently built trap. And, they finally fall into the chain feet of the Mother's Mother's paws, who knows what her concern will turn into and attention to ... Perhaps the new family life will be much worse than the previous one. So why risk and divorce, if so good?

These are the most common types of women who, without special moral flour, are associated with married men. There are still unsatisfied family life of a woman, women who need only sex, women, thirsting money and so on ... But we are not talking about them now. We are talking about those who, anyway, pushes to novels with maritalics nothing but the desire of love. All of them in the depths of the soul cherish the hope of becoming his elected wife, and very often this desire does not come true.

The psychological population of such connections is usually different. Such a complex object of lust is selected by a woman, because she is subconsciously striving to overcome obstacles. Overcoming is accompanied by internal voltage, the voltage is removed by the meeting with the beloved and appears in the separation with them, then it is removed again, it is again injected and so on. And often the main role is played not even the attitude of a man to his mistress, and the fact of the prohibition of this relationship itself.

However, there are among the mistresses and women who managed to seriously love a married man and very much to count on the fact that someday he will be fully belonged only to her. In the event that it refers to the category of mistress-masochistrics, dreams can come true only if the legitimate spouse itself leaves her husband. The hysterical mistress on a prosperous outcome of relations to count almost can not. What kind of man in the right mind agrees that his life will turn into a day hell? Even if he is divorced, it will be trying to find a quiet harbor, and does not throw, breaking his head, in the storm sea! Will there be on mistresses eternal brides? Only if love for a man is one of the vital priorities. What, you must confess, is quite rare. But the mistress is a good chance of becoming a legitimate wife, if she can prove that her dedication and care sincere.

Conclusion: In order for the novel with a married man to end with marriage, you need to make a lot of effort. What? Here are some tested tips to mistresses.

How to behave with a married man to reduce suffering to a minimum and increase the likelihood of marriage with him?

1. If we try to unite the devotion and undemanding of mistress-masochistrics, the emotionality of mistress-hysteric, the naive romanticism of the mistress-eternal bride and the reliability of the mother's mistress, the chances of marriage with a married man will increase. Such a cocktail is truly a charming effect.
2. If we do not try to replace a man to my wife, his interest will grow and, in the end, can turn into a very strong feeling. This means that we do not wash with it, do not cook and do not remove. A man comes to the house of his mistress to relax from domestic problems. And to meet him should be a beautiful loving woman who can give a minute of happiness.
3. If we do not arrange a hysteria when a favorite suddenly noted the meeting due to the fact that it was necessary to urgently solve some family questions, - we knew what they walked. Therefore, exposure, exposure and exposure once again! It will be an excellent assistant in the construction of the foundation, on which a serious relationship is based.
4. If we do not allow you to whine when the surrounding friend does not be able to appear on the anniversary, a birthday, some celebration or hang around next to the weekend. If he holds all the weekends and holidays with his family is normal. The fact that the family (so far) has a loved one more rights is indisputable fact, and you need to accept him.
5. If we are not accustomed to a man, considering it the only thing in your life. He will go to his wife. And if you allow the idea that this person is fate, and cultivate it, as a result, the habit will make parting very hard, and the separation will agrees with the flour of jealousy. Do not forget about yourself, suffering alone when your favorite is not. We find an interesting lesson, we meet with friends and girlfriends, having fun in some companies and in no way torment the phone, calling him for no reason.

All these tips mistresses, of course, do not guarantee that a man is divorced. But, in any case, he will not scare off excessive obsession, the hysteriousness and demanding of a woman, meeting with which should be a holiday. The most the main board is lonely women - do not fall in love with married men! It is quite possible that they sincerely love their spouse, only feelings stumbled over time and no longer whose former heat. Often a married man is not aware of this. But then, when the divorce becomes real, he suddenly feels unbearable sincere pain, he understands that the wife is more expensive, and chooses it. And the mistress, tormented from hopelessness and longing, again remains in complete loneliness.

Whatever it was, the fate of the mistress is an unenviable fate. Even if as a result she turned into a wife, from the past, a man is not going anywhere. It happens, of course, that it remains the past and over time is forgotten. However, this is quite rare. Usually the connection with the former family does not stop, especially if children remained in it. A woman who has become the cause of the divorce, you need to be ready for a loved one will spend time with them, renowned, help. And to the fact that the former spouse will not leave him alone. It will ask for help, interested in the affairs of the ex-husband, to ulce about his new family and so on. And if the lady is still unprincipled, it will start pouring the dirt at all angles. I must say that she will have many to sympathize. And you have to be patient, wise, understanding. But whether enough forces?

So perhaps, it is better to find someone who is free and create our own world, deprived of foreign interference with him? After all, whatever the statistics, worthy bachelors have enough. We just need to look at them and reveal the heart. Further everything happens by itself. If you think about the thought of thinking about what to find my man is now impossible (they say, all the normal are busy and in general they are a rarity), it will certainly be found. Let and with some disadvantages, but a good husband need to sculpt. He does not fall from the sky. After all, the family lover before his marriage was another. It is likely that if the spouse did not try, we would not pay attention to it, who knows ... Yes, the heart chooses itself. If he is allowed. And if you apply for myself taboo on family men, the heart will obey. And it will also be drawn only to the one who is intended only to us.