None of the relationship do not fail without tickling two people. Starting love relationships, a guy and a girl first are interested in each other on the basis of what they already see, hear and understand themselves for themselves. It is already the first wipging that does not require special efforts. However, there are still many situations in which the trigger is manifested ..

Men tend to think that their relationship should not take them a lot of strength and emotions. If women are loaded with something, then you need to part with them. However, this approach simply leads men to the idea that they are never destined to find themselves the second halves with which they will be happy. And indeed it is. After all, difficulties in relations that make people make efforts, to compromise, to put up and negotiate with something and agree, and are the wisest that we are talking about.

What is triggering in relationships?

Under the lapping in the relationship between people, we will call the need for two adult personalities so unite your life so that they do not interfere with each other, while it was possible to peacefully coexist together. In other words, the trigger is the need to apply two gears in such a way that they can contact and spin, helping, and not interfering with each other.

Pritting in relationships is the need for partners to organize your contact so that both of them were comfortable in this union, they could quickly achieve their goals and meet the needs. If the trigger does not happen, then one or both "gears" begin to interfere with each other. And it can be observed in many situations:

1. When a man prohibits a woman to work and engage in its development.
2. When a woman prohibits a man to communicate with people and spend time with them, as it is jealous of him.
3. When parents control their children in everything and almost all forbid them.

No wipes are a feeling that you are degrading. If your relationships fold so that you are only degrading, do not have happiness, you must give up all your desires, then you do not get stronger, but become a victim of your love.

Why do you need trigger?

Absolutely all people in must try to each other. Otherwise, they simply cannot coexist together, which is why they part. Why do you need trigger? In order for two adults of a person who are already enough formed and holistic, they could unite their lives so that they live comfortably.

Usually, the issue of association of people becomes relevant in the business world when an entrepreneur hires employees to work places and wishes them to not conflict, but they went to one goal - the development of his business, and love relationships. Everywhere, where there are at least two people, a similar question arises. In order to create a family, a man and a woman need to be united. And here you can see how people are ineptly doing it, gradually moving towards conflicts among themselves, which destroys relations.

How to combine people? We are talking about any group consisting of both two and from hundreds of people.

People unite two things:

1. Understanding that everyone has a place and it is preserved regardless of whether it is good or bad. People wish to know that their comfortable position is saved for them and no one will select it.
2. Achieving a common goal that will benefit all participants in the process. Not someone must defeat others and get the same prize, and people unite for the common goal, which will benefit everyone who participated in the process of achieving it.

Lack of competition, fear of loss and sacrifice leads to the fact that partners agree and agree to act together.

People unites the understanding that their interests, desires, goals and social status that they occupy or want to occupy, remains behind them. There is no competition, there is no fear that someone can take away what is important to have. For example, when a woman understands that her opinion will also be taken into account by a man in making a decision, she stops fighting with him and even gives him the right "last word". A man can become the main one in the family, if only remains for the woman the right to manage and influence the development and formation of a comfortable atmosphere in relations.

The second, which is important - for which people are united, should benefit all participants in the process. Achieving a common goal can give each participant to different benefits. But everyone's benefit gets - this is the most important thing! For example, no worker gets to work for the achievement of a common goal with other employees, if at the same time he will not pay wages. No one will work for free for a common goal if she does not give a person what he wants to get for his works.

How to combine people? It is necessary to allow them to retain those rights and comfortable living conditions that they already have or wish to have, while have a common goal, to which everyone will strive, each participant of the process will benefit for their efforts. A man and a woman wish to officially register relationships. This is a common goal. At the same time, a man wishes every evening to come home and eat tasty, and a woman is to use her husband's money. If one of these conditions is broken, then the goal itself becomes meaningless. Sooner or later someone will give an application for divorce into the registry office, because those benefits that were welcome are not given. So, marriage becomes unnecessary.

Women's checks - the way of wrecking

Now let's try to consider the most common ways of lapping, and let's start with the most popular method - women's checks. Many men get tired of the fact that at the beginning of a woman's relationship as if they are going crazy, they constantly control them, they ask for something, do not trust, behave like hystericals, etc. Specialists call men calm down!

Everything is good with you. Just women should understand with what men they start relationships, so they create certain situations that they should show it.

Women can arrange various checks, jealous to your long-standing friends, demand your limited communication with them, lifestyle shifts, a lot of attention, reporting for each perfect step, etc. Of course, it specifically tasks and strains, especially when you understand that your Relationships just started.

Many men think that since such control arises at the beginning of relations, he will increase in the future. Let's not refute this fact. However, we do not exclude those cases when the tests of the girl and women do only at the beginning of the relationship, and after a few months the relations calm down and weaken the grip.

Psychologists call for men only for patience. Women simply want to figure out only one thing: will they be happy next to those men with whom they started to meet? They already probably had a bitter experience of past relations. And now, new men simply must prove that they will not make the most insulting actions that were committed by former partners. Here you just need to suffer and give yourself time until a woman holds all its checks and is convinced of the fact that you can trust.

Permanent quarrels

It can be understood that many guys and men are already tired, scandals, clarifying relationships with their loved ones. But here, psychologists are ready to reassure the strong floor: permanent quarrels are a way to eliminate those non-unhealthy faces that prevent your relations to be comfortable and harmonious.

By and large, problems and scandals are just an attempt of two people to solve the question. Here you need to realize men here that women are not dissatisfied with them, but certain aspects of situations that have developed. What led to this situation, then it is necessary to eliminate. And in general, men continue to remain their loved on their own women.

Filming up relationships is just a trigger that has become necessary because there was a certain question that prevents the comfortable existence of a person with his partner. Can be outraged both women and men. Here you need to understand that the quarrels arise not in order to think about parting, but simply to eliminate the circumstance that does not like one of the partners. If you decide the question, then the trigger will take place, and everything will be fine.

What is not a wipe?

We can say that partners are beginning to get from the very first day of their acquaintance. At first they just choose who they already like the parameters that they can see and hear. This trigger does not require effort and voltage. However, as relationships are built, people periodically face disagreements among themselves. It is normal that is the next stage of wipes. However, not all disagreements should be attributed to the wipe. What is it not?

1. Pathological when the partner is jealous of absolutely to everyone. It takes 2-3 months, and the partner continues not to trust and jealous, despite the fact that he is proved by the opposite.
2. Permanent soldiers for any little things. It can be outraged by individual aspects in the personality of a person. But if a woman quit for you every time anyone, then, most likely, she is unhappy with you at all.
3. Problems that are not solved and are not eliminated. If your relationships are disagreements that you are not able to solve together, they constantly arise and make you quarrel with your second half, then this is no longer triggering.

How as a result, create a comfortable love relationship?

Women are more interested in creating strong and long love relationships. However, there are both men who also need to be at home they have a reliable rear to which they can trust. When a person finds the value of love relationship, then begins to see the need to build an alliance with long and happy, deprived of various slices, intrigue and change, and asks a simple question: how to do it?

What does anyone need to feel calm? Regardless of the floor, everyone needs comfort. To become happy, a person must possess the things that are desirable to him. But to be simply calm and peaceful, you need to feel love, respect and acceptance. This needs both men and women.

Accordingly, to build a long and happy relationship, learn how to create comfortable conditions when calm and confidence feel. Already being in such a comfortable union, a person will think and do what he will make it happy. By and large, no one needs to be made happy. Just build up with people such a relationship when they will feel respected, valuable, loved ones or significant.

No couple do without conflict. People are not perfect to each other with puzzles, so the man is often unhappy and the woman is outraged by some manifestations of the partner. I want to change, return the comfort when calm and good! People begin to solve the questions that have arisen, frequently pass onto Rugan and screams.

Faced with conflict situations - this is normal. But go to screams and insults - this is already a sign of the inability of partners to respect each other when they are bad. How to solve conflicts not to break the comfort that you have created a long time with your loved one, while not to close your eyes and do not become blind, when something starts to go wrong?

Learn to solve conflicts, following the following rules:

• Do not condemn, do not criticize, do not hang labels. Speak only that the partner really did, without affecting the topic of which he is. All people remain good, whatever bad actions do neither. Change the actions of a person, and not himself.
• If you want to show an example, then say "Look", and not "Be others." Comparing the partner with other people with the aim of showing how you can do so that you feel good, offer your beloved person to look at that example to which you refer, but to make a decision, repeat it or not. Speak: "Look, as Luda comes. I myself would like you to hug me the same. " Do not say: "Why aren't you like Luda? Here it is - a woman, and you ... ". We remember that we change the actions of the partner, and not in full.

To create comfortable for both relationships, you need to make a lot of strength. At the same time, it is good when both partners are engaged. Remember the main rule: everything you do in the relationship should not take into your sense of dignity. If you feel that you are humiliated or you humiliate, making certain actions, it means that you have chosen to ensure comfort is harmful. Pick up other ways to create comfortable conditions when you and your partner retain your advantages.