If very think about a person often (that is, you direct your energy towards him) will it somehow affect him? maybe nonsense of course came to my mind, but now it haunts me, can he feel?
Yes, I myself get lessons for "thinking about a person."
There is such an understanding of "introduction", that is, when we think about a person or about a situation related to someone in the past or future, then we create our own phantom and place ourselves in a person or a situation. Called "be out of your mind “, That is, you are not really all in yourself. And thinking about one thing, then about another, you are all disassembled, scattered, you do everything mechanically. This is harmful first of all for you, namely "being disassembled". In a scattered state, you become weak yourself and your immunity to anything (not only viruses) decreases.
Secondly, it is harmful for that person, when you get into him, you distract him and for some reason he begins to remember you and already possesses you.
Plus, if that person has some kind of pollution, illness, you can pick them up.
Forbidding yourself to think about something or someone is devilish and even harmful, you will push the reason inside yourself even deeper and this reason will be embodied already in the body.
You just need to track how, when your brain began to think about someone or something unnecessary, tracked down means already stopped the flow of energy and messages of the phantom. All! The work is done! You practice and it will be easy to track how your brain is cheating and starts thinking ...
I do not urge you not to think about situations, about people, of course you need to plan and summarize, but not every day living and living situations, dreaming and dreaming, you have to be in yourself and in the present!
And then what to think about?
If the brain is used to constantly working, then think about what you are doing in the present tense. For example, when you wash yourself, think about washing, about cleansing, about purity, about water. You go to a stop - think about movement, about your legs, about the ground, fix what is happening around.
If you are thinking more often in the present, you will notice a very strong surge of energy, or rather, there will be no "ebb" and you will be full and as a result, high return on everything you do.
And what to do with daydreaming, especially for those who like to imagine how good it will be in the future?
Think but don't live the dreamfor example a trip to the sea! Leave this pleasure for the present. When you buy tickets - think about the sea, you are engaged in the selection of a swimsuit - think about the sea. You need to dream, but for example, when you fall asleep or meditate, but not ten times a day. This is a recommendation, but if it is difficult for you to fit in, then you don't need it yet.
And if you go by bus, then just go?
Yes, the situation on the bus is the same. It is best to live in the present, just be on the bus, you can listen to the signs (the people around you speak for you, they can talk about their own, but just for you, think about what is in you connected with this conversation). Better yet, feel the wind from the window or the sun warming or even billboards may be for you. All this will help you to be in the present, to be in yourself. And then in any situation you will be protected.
Try it all - and notice the difference!
Incredible facts
These signs will help you know if the person you're interested in is thinking about you.
At some subconscious level, we are all able to feel the emotional and physical state of a loved one.
This ability is called clairvoyance, and although most of us have it innate, many do not know how to use it.
Have you ever wondered why you can't get someone out of your head? This is because we physically and emotionally sense the mood, feelings and energy of another person.
When we emotionally attach ourselves to another person, an invisible bond arises between us. Even if you are no longer close or speaking with the person, you can feel if he is happy or sad. This kind of emotional communication exists outside of time and space.
How do you know if this person is thinking about you? Here are a few signs:
Does a person think about me
1. An unexpected surge of emotion
Imagine that you are having a great time and having fun, and suddenly, for a split second, an incomprehensible sadness seizes you.
These sudden rushes of emotion often make us think about a particular person. If something like this happens to you, there is a good chance that people who are close to you think of you. This could be your ex or an old friend.
2. You had a dream about this person
You may have never dreamed of your acquaintance or friend, but last night he appeared in your dreams. You can see what the person is doing, what they look like, and what they say. Since we are all energetically connected with each other, this can tell something about his current life and suggest what may happen to him in the future.
Most likely, his appearance in your dreams is due precisely to what he thinks about you, and that through a dream he is trying to contact you. Try to write or call this person and ask him about life, and you will find out whether your friend or loved one thought about you.
3. Desire to be closer
Many people believe that fate makes us fall in love with someone. In fact, we fall in love because we subconsciously feel that the person who thinks about us is able to satisfy our deepest needs.
This explains why we are looking for ways to attract him into our lives and close the distance between us. Therefore, if a certain person is often around, this is a sure sign that he thinks of you and subconsciously reaches out to you.
4. Long smile
Pay attention to what you do first when you meet an old friend you haven't seen in a long time. You smile and the smile stays on your face for more than 10 seconds.
Your subconscious mind tells you that you like this person. The same thing happens when someone thinks about you. When a person meets you, he experiences the same feelings as when meeting an old friend, and his smile does not leave his face for a long time.
The person who is thinking of you will not speak to you in their usual neutral manner. If he thought about you, he will experience an inner feeling of happiness, and this feeling will manifest itself in an outer smile while talking to you.
5. You are often in a person's field of vision
When someone thinks about you often, his subconscious will always strive to ensure that you are in his field of vision. Deep down, this person will want you to be closer and become a part of his life.
For this reason, the interested person will want to know what you are doing, who you are spending time with, and who you are communicating with. He may not even look directly at you, but always desire to see you in his field of vision whenever possible. If a person thinks about you all the time, they probably really like you, or they have deeper feelings for you.
6. The person's legs are pointing towards you.
Our legs naturally swing in the direction we are heading. There is a subconscious connection between our intentions and the direction our feet point to.
When you are in the company of people, your feet will always be directed towards the person you sympathize with the most. If you notice that a person's legs are looking at you, then this is a clear sign that this person likes you, and he thinks of you.
7. Interested in your friends
You will know if a person is thinking about you if he tries to talk not only with you, but also with your friends. Friends have a big impact on our lives, and therefore, when we are interested in someone, we try to be closer to the person's friends, trying to please them.
If you are in a company, and your interlocutor, having talked with your friends, is the last to speak to you, you can be sure of what he thinks of you.
8. Comes to you for no reason
When a person is interested in you, their subconscious will look for ways to attract you into their life. He will want to approach you, even if there is no objective reason for this. Perhaps this person is constantly thinking about you, and he has more serious feelings for you.
9. You often think of this person
Of course, when we are attracted by someone, our thoughts are completely absorbed by the object of our desires. However, if all of a sudden you began to think about a person, then it is likely that he also thinks about you.
This is especially true of situations when the thought of him arose from scratch, and nothing portends its appearance. If something like this happens, you are most likely engaging the person's thoughts. Perhaps you should even expect a message from him.
How to find out what people think of you
10. Your ears are burning or itchy
Many consider this to be a simple sign, but it cannot be denied that our body and brain are closely related, and we are not always able to understand this connection. If your ears suddenly start to burn or itch out of the blue, someone is clearly thinking about you.
Of course, if you are allergic or sunburned, you can rule out this symptom. But if there are no objective reasons, then most likely you have aroused someone's interest.
It is believed that when your left ear itches, someone discusses your shortcomings. If the left ear is itchy and reddened, the person may speak disgustingly about you.
On the contrary, the right ear, which is burning or itching, says that someone loves you, speaks well of you and believes in you. If both ears itch, then you may need to clean your ears.
11. Sudden sneezing
Many will consider this an old belief, but it has some truth.
If you suffer from allergies or colds, then this symptom cannot be considered reliable. However, a sudden sneeze out of the blue can mean that people think of you. It is believed that a sudden sneeze not only indicates what people think of you, but is also a sign that someone misses you a lot.
If you sneeze only once, people think and speak of you well. A double sneeze means just the opposite, and someone speaks badly of you. Three sneezes are considered a good sign. If someone says the phrase "Be healthy" after you sneeze, then everything will end well for you.
12. Cheeks are burning
We often blush when we feel ashamed or embarrassed. However, if your cheeks start to burn when you are not in an awkward situation, it may indicate that someone thinks of you and speaks bad of you.
This feeling is similar to the fever after a slap in the face, which, in fact, occurs when a person strikes with "words".
13. Discomfort while eating
If you choked while eating, started coughing, or started to tickle in your throat, this could be a sign of an impending fight. The sudden feeling that you might choke is due to the tense atmosphere around you.
Your subconscious mind feels tension from the other person, and your body reacts to it. If you are sitting alone and almost choked, then perhaps you are trying to unconsciously build such a situation in your head.
14. Itchy eyes
Itchy eyes may simply indicate that you have allergies or very sensitive eyes.
If suddenly your eye began to itch, then this may indicate that there is a person whose thoughts you constantly occupy.
It is believed that if a woman's left eye itches, someone praises her and thinks well of her. If the right eye itches, the person's thoughts are negative. The opposite is true for men.
“Out of sight - out of mind” - it's good if a person could be forgotten so easily. In fact, the more you want to not think about someone, the more difficult it is to do it. Thoughts persist in returning to the unwanted object.
One eastern parable tells about a young man who asked Hodja Nasreddin how to find out the future and become immortal. The sage replied: "It's simple: don't think about white monkeys!" "Only?" - the young man was delighted. But from then on, he could think of nothing else but white monkeys.
Having given free rein to such thoughts, it is easy to "think out" of obsessive states when the help of a psychotherapist is required. Therefore, it is better to try to get rid of them at the initial stage, while they are not yet entrenched in our head. But first you need to figure out:
What prevents you from forgetting another person?
Psychologists talk about three types of such reasons. These are emotional, attitudinal and behavioral.
Among the emotional
1. Suppressed emotions... A person tries to seem strong, to "hold on", therefore he suppresses what parting caused him. This is especially true for men, because they were taught from childhood by their parents: “A man must be strong. It's a shame to cry. " But then the pain sitting inside will constantly remind him of the person he wants to forget. You need to allow yourself to give vent to emotions, grieve, cry;
2. Unexpressed ... After parting, many continue to mentally sort things out, argue, prove their innocence and make claims to the person who left them. To stop this mockery of oneself, one should state all unspoken grievances in the form of a letter to him, but not send the letter, but burn it;
3. Remorse, guilt. For some people, friends and loved ones easily become exes, while others cannot calm down that someone else is suffering through their fault. They are not going to return the former and at the same time reproach themselves for the harm they have done, willingly or unwillingly. Mental excuses turn into obsessions. How to get rid of such exhausting conversations with yourself? See point 2.
Among the installation reasons
1. Enduring convictionthat this person is the only one, he is our destiny, we never we won't meet anyone better... Or maybe you should take this chance to make sure of this?
2. Confidence that together with him we lost the ability to love and a bleak existence awaits us. Let's check?
3. Linking your hopes and plans with this particular person... On the one hand, this is natural. On the other hand, these were probably only our plans, and he himself doubted the strength of the relationship. We have already come up with a honeymoon route and names for future children - and suddenly loneliness, melancholy, emptiness. Everything will have to be canceled - meetings, walks, trips. We do not do this: the last thing we need now is to isolate ourselves from people and immerse ourselves in memories.
The main behavioral reasons that prevent us from forgetting a person
1. Forced communication with him... We work, study together, we have mutual friends and one company. There is only one way out - to change everything. Otherwise, obsessive-compulsive disorder - hello!
2. Separated man and woman continue to have sex from time to time... This is often the case in divorced couples with common children. At the same time, if for one partner it is just sex without obligations, the other revives the hope of restoring the old relationship. However, here you need to follow the rule: "She died so died";
3. Diving into a depressive state... Despite the desire to withdraw into oneself, not to go out and not see anyone, he should not be indulged. Alone with ourselves, with masochistic pleasure, we will dig into the wound, not letting it drag on. Thus, we will only strengthen emotional attachment to a person who should be forgotten with minimal losses to our psyche.
Ways to help you forget a person
The question of how to stop thinking about a person has been relevant at all times. Our ancestors relied on magic in such cases, in particular on:
1. Conspiracies and rituals
They need to be performed on the waning moon: feelings should also wane with it. It seems that there is a rational kernel here, because with their help a person gives himself a positive attitude, programs himself for a positive result. In any case, there is no crime here, and the attempt is not torture.
All we need is a spring of clean water, lemon balm leaves, privacy and a little imagination. Let's focus on our emotions - resentment, mental pain, which prevent us from forgetting another person. We will mentally transfer them to lemon balm leaves, imagining them with our tears, and we will tear them off one by one and throw them into the water. Leaves float away - memories float away. We leave when we feel peace and tranquility, having previously washed our face with water from the spring. This ritual can be repeated every week.
There may be a problem finding the source. In its absence, we will use fire: we set out our obsessive thoughts on paper, and then we set it on fire, imagining how they forever fly away from us along with the ashes.
These methods are harmless and will not harm anyone. However, it is strictly forbidden to seek help from fortune-tellers in order to bring damage or love spell to the departed.
2. We give ourselves the installation: "Everything that is done is for the better"
It may very well be that life has closed some doors for us, having previously opened others. But we are struggling with all our strength, clinging to old relationships, trying to revive what has long died. Ahead - discoveries, surprises, new people and new acquaintances.
And, as the old song says, "If a bride leaves for another, it is not known who is lucky."
3. Let's clear our living space for new relationships
Apathy, devastation, disappointment, loss of faith in a long lasting relationship, unwillingness to make new acquaintances - you should not let these feelings take over. Breaking free from their captivity will not be easy. Let's fill the resulting void with interesting things that we always wanted to do, but did not find time for them. At first, it will be difficult to completely switch to them, but gradually we will get involved and will think less and less “about the former”.
It can be a renovation - even if you have to get into a loan, but your head will be occupied not with fruitless thoughts, but with the search for new earnings. At the same time, we will remove it from our eyes, give it away or throw away things that we bought together or evoke memories.
They say you can't run away from yourself. Nevertheless, after a month or two we will notice that the pain, if not gone, has dulled. However, this is not yet a reason to relax - we do not lose our vigilance, we are not yet ready to meet this person. The slightest reason is enough for the memories to play out with renewed vigor.
4. We do not discuss the ended relationship with everyone in a row
Discussing the current situation, we want to hear words of support, our own righteousness, and condemnation of the person who has left us. Talking about it creates the appearance that it is still present in our lives.
At the same time, we are doing ourselves a disservice - the people with whom we have been so frank will now remind us of what we would like to forget about by their appearance. Perhaps some of them will begin to be constantly interested in our personal life, believing that they have the right to do so.
It will not be possible to quickly erase from the memory of the person to whom they managed to get used to, with whom bright events were associated, plans for the future, who became family and friends. It takes some time to heal from emotional addiction and attachment. How long the healing will take and how complete it will be depends on the effort involved.
Unfortunately, many people want this only in theory, without taking any practical action. One gets the impression that the mental pain of such memories gives them pleasure that compensates for the loss. Memories now seem to them to be the only thing that still connects them with the departed, and they are in no hurry to break this connection.
If a girl is abandoned by a guy, then she does not immediately forget her love. Thoughts about one person who is indifferent can constantly haunt, making it difficult to live a fulfilling life and move forward. There are some secrets of psychology that help get rid of thoughts about a person who no longer loves and does not want to communicate. Removing memories and destructive emotions will take some time, but the results of the effort will be worthwhile.
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How to stop thinking about your ex?
In the lives of most girls, there was a case when a guy for whom great love was experienced ended the relationship due to lack of feelings. It's hard to forget the person who quit right away. Sometimes suffering can drag on for months and years, preventing a girl from living happily and building new relationships. In psychology, there are some methods to force yourself to be loved:
- 1. If the breakup happened quite recently, you need to give yourself the opportunity to get rid of the accumulated negative. A girl can give herself a limited period, during which she can constantly remember her past love, cry and complain about her beloved, to whom she is already indifferent to her friends. Feelings are useful to splash out on paper, and then burn such messages. But as soon as the time allotted for suffering is over, it is necessary to take control of emotions.
- 2. Thoughts about a former beloved are reinforced by constantly tracking that person on social networks or with the help of acquaintances. It is necessary to abandon such a habit once and for all, because the banal curiosity on the part of the girl and attempts to control the course of events in the life of the person she loves will never help to part with obsessive thoughts. The less information you have about your ex, the better. If a person is on the list of friends on social networks, then he is removed or any notifications about his updates are blocked.
- 3. A person is visited by dark thoughts when he has a lot of free time. Active work, hobbies, communication with friends - all this will help to get rid of the habit of constantly thinking about a loved one who no longer needs. You can also carefully analyze the flaws of your ex that annoyed you. This will allow you to soberly assess the situation and see positive moments in it.
- 4. Dating other young people will help to replace the usual communication with a guy, and the search for new friends can also occur on the Internet. Non-binding correspondence will help the girl open her eyes to the fact that there are other attractive guys in the world with whom they have common interests and hobbies.
- 5. If a familiar young man asks for a date, it is recommended to accept such an invitation, even if the girl still feels love for her former chosen one. Meeting with a friend will allow you to have an interesting time and get away from the problem.
- 6. Any reminders about a beloved man (letters, gifts, messages) are destroyed so that they no longer cause unpleasant memories.
- 7. Renewal of appearance perfectly helps to start life from scratch without relationships, which, apart from negative emotions, cause nothing.
The period during which a girl forgets about one person takes up to several months. If you follow all the recommendations of psychologists, the long-awaited "recovery" will come soon.
How to stop giving yourself bad thoughts
Stop thinking about someone who doesn't love
Love is not always mutual, and if a girl falls in love with a guy to whom she is indifferent, it is necessary to start getting rid of feelings that have no answer. How to do it:
- 1. It is necessary to analyze the personality of the object of love. In fact, this person may not be as ideal as it seems, since the girl could have invented many of the guy's advantages herself.
- 2. It is important to accept the feelings of the beloved and treat his choice with respect, even if it is difficult to do. A girl should understand that happiness with a person who does not love her is not expected.
- 3. The girl is recommended to stop following the guy on social networks and stop asking friends about his life. This will help distract you from thoughts of non-reciprocal love.
- 4. New acquaintances will increase the likelihood of meeting a person with whom there will be mutual sympathy and a happy relationship.
Alcohol abuse, promiscuous sexual intercourse, immoral behavior, overeating, disfigurement of appearance - all of this definitely will not help to balance your mental health. Such actions are highly likely to harm a person's health and reputation, so they should be resolutely discarded!
The question is - «» are asked by those people who suffer because of a particular person. He either annoys you, or left you, or simply does not want to be with you. He or she does not think about you, and you still cannot get this person out of your head. Constant thoughts about a person is like becoming addicted. You need to get rid of this dependence. Below are some very effective ways to help you stop thinking about the person.
How to stop thinking about a person?
In 100% of cases, we think about those things that cling to us, give us emotions, and it doesn't matter what, positive or negative. Where we experience emotions, there is our attention and interest. If you are not interested in something, you will not notice it. And it is not interesting because it does not catch you, does not give you any emotions. And if you think about a person, it means that this person has definitely hooked you with something. When we are in love with someone, we think about that person, about the reason for our emotional outburst. We mentally imagine ourselves next to this person. If someone pisses you off, then you also think about this person, only negatively. You want to break it, to put it mildly.
It's all about attention. You have noticed that when we are interested in something, we plunged into it. But time passed, and it became uninteresting for us. It doesn't have to be any business. I say the same about a person. At first we like him or her, we want to see him or her, spend as much time as possible, we cannot fall asleep in any way because of the thoughts about this person, but time passes and all this disappears somewhere. We are no longer interested in this person, we stop thinking about him, and then we completely forget. Falling in love has disappeared somewhere. Either it just passed, or you fell in love with someone else, or something else.
Therefore, in order to stop thinking about the person you love - need time... They say it for a reason: time heals. Just know for yourself - it will pass. Soon you will find freedom and get rid of addiction. You just need to be patient and wait, and everything will be amazing for you. But this method is too long. Agree that you don't want to wait a month, you want to stop thinking about a person right now.
Therefore, you need switch your attention... Where there is attention, there are thoughts. This is the most correct way to help you get rid of unnecessary thoughts. But to get rid of unnecessary thoughts, you must be carried headlong into a new object of your attention. It can be a different person, an activity, and even (God forbid) a problem, the solution of which will completely save you from thinking about another person. If an activity, goal, problem or other person does not cause emotions in you, or causes weak ones, then you are unlikely to switch your attention. This means that you will not stop thinking about the person who caused a storm of either negative or positive emotions in you.
There is one rule here: stronger thoughts drive out weaker ones... Their strength is measured by their emotions. If the first object of desire has more emotional power than the second, then you will think of the first object. This is how we prioritize. What is most important to us is what triggers the greatest emotional response.
Hence the conclusion: Your passion must evoke strong emotions., they should be stronger than those emotions that are caused by the person you are thinking about all the time. Stronger emotions override weak ones. I think this is clear to you.
Fortunately, in this 21st century it is not so difficult to get distracted. You just need to go somewhere to forget about the person at least for a while. If you sit at home, then thoughts about the person will definitely not stop. Anyway, the house is the kind of place that is needed precisely for reflection. Want to stop thinking? Leave the house.
Dancing and acting classes help me to get rid of thoughts. This is what I love. In addition, it is difficult to think about something else during class. If you dance, then all thoughts are only about movements and body plastics. If you are playing a role, then all thoughts are only about how badly you are playing your role and what needs to be done to correct this situation. What do you like? What will help you to distract yourself from worries?
Other people help me to stop thinking about another person, or rather - communication with them. During communication, I do not focus on my own problems, but on the problems of other people. Yes, people love, but I have to listen to it, and then be surprised that everything is really wonderful with me. Therefore, when communicating with a friend or friend, do not start talking about the person you are thinking of. You better listen to other people's problems. Don't be selfish.
Try not to see this person. Do your best so that nothing reminds you of him. If you recently broke up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, then remove all photos and belongings of this person from your apartment. Their presence will only remind you of the old days. As they say: "Out of sight, out of mind"... Not comforting words, but what can you do. It may be better if you temporarily change your surroundings: go out of town or to another city.
Dream. Dreaming evokes strong positive emotions and helps you to change the polarity of your thoughts from "-" to "+". After all, when you think about a person, you feel a need, because of which you suffer greatly. Dreaming helps to get rid of want. You begin to feel a surge of energy and that you have everything in abundance. Start imagining a happy life.
Learn to forgive. I advise you to forgive the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is very helpful in clearing negative thoughts. Imagine the person who harmed you in your mind, say: "I forgive you"... Say these words several times. Be honest with yourself. I am sure that you have also made a lot of money in relation to this person. Imagine this person again and say: "Forgive me" repeatedly. This cleansing will help you forget about the person faster.
In general, as a rule, it takes time to stop thinking about the person... You cannot instantly forget the person with whom you have lived for several years. None of the ways will help you do this in minutes, unless you get amnesia.
I also advise you to stop blaming yourself for what happened. All people make mistakes, except those who do nothing. Sooner or later, you will 100% meet the only person with whom you will live a long and happiest life. Be sure of this! Be happy!!!
How to stop thinking about a person?
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