How to teach a child to dress?

How to teach your child to dress:effective techniques for teaching dressing, games, poems, a “dressing learning calendar” by age of children, the secrets of quick and easy dressing for the little ones.

How to teach a child to dress?

Dressing- this is a difficult process for a child, which consists of different actions: you need to distinguish between the front and back of clothes, the front and back of a dress or shirt, correlate the movement of the hand, "trying on" an object, compare. Remember how we - adults - find it difficult to learn how to work with new tools, for example, weaving, wood carving, stitching on a sewing machine and others. A little child experiences about the same when he learns to dress. But it is in this seemingly simple dressing that a very important quality of the child is born - his independence.

In this article, you will find a detailed, simple step-by-step guide to teaching children how to dress:

- why teach a child to dress on his own, if it is faster to dress him by himself?

- "dress learning calendar" - at what age what and how easy it is to teach a child to dress,

- successful "smart" self-dressing techniques that even the smallest child can master,

- game techniques and poems,

Why teach a child to dress?

If the child is not taught how to dress, then he often experiences difficulties, he has to do the same thing several times. As a result, dressing can become a "stumbling block" and cause unpleasant emotions in the child. What are these difficulties and troubles:

What difficulties can a child have in dressing?

- the child gets confused in the sequence of dressing (for example, he first puts on trousers, and only then remembers that trousers are put on tights),

- the difficulty of fastening (laces, tight buttons, complex fasteners on clothes),

- the difficulty of determining where is the front and where is the back of the clothes (if these are panties, trousers, then the child often puts them on the other way around, you have to change clothes again),

- the kid confuses paired things, for example, puts on shoes the other way around: the right boot on the left foot, and the left boot on the right,

- the child puts both legs in one leg of the trousers or puts them on backwards,

- clothes that are unpleasant for the baby (the collar of the T-shirt is too tight, in which the head gets stuck; spiky blouse, too tight a hard jacket),

- Difficulty in determining the front and back of the garment. The kid can put on the blouse "inside out", that is, with the seams out.

As we can see, dressing that we are all used to is not an easy process for a child. It develops thinking, speech, fine motor skills, and sensorimotor coordination. And the child in mastering this process requires the help and support of adults.

Why is it bad if the child cannot dress on their own?

First. The baby develops a habitual life position of a dependent on adults, a helpless little man... In contrast, a child who knows how to do a lot on his own and proudly demonstrates this, feels completely different - independent, successful, independent, confident.

A sketch from life. I rode in a train compartment on the top bunk. On the lower two shelves are a mother with a boy of 8 years old (he is finishing the second grade). Immediately I noticed that my mother herself pulls off boots from such a large child, unbuttons and pulls off his jeans, takes off his jumper, folds this jumper herself neatly on the shelf. And the boy just silently stretches out his arms or legs to her. I was very surprised, but I thought that the boy was sick and could not do it himself.

Then we got to talking with them. It turned out that the boy is healthy and goes to the gymnasium. But he cannot and does not want to do anything himself. Mom complained that she had to do everything for him and that she "was already exhausted with him." She even put a handkerchief to his nose to get him to clean his nose. The picture looked like the son was 1 year old. But the saddest thing was to see his son, who did not have a living spark or enthusiasm in his eyes - the boy looked very downtrodden and insecure, very lethargic, he did not go to talk with me, was clearly completely dependent on his mother, hiding behind her back, in the conversation did not enter. I was amazed that as soon as my mother got out of the compartment, the boy began to cry and whine like a baby, he could not even open his bag to get his things on the road. And when my mother returned, that he cried and was offended by her, that she did not get him his toys. He was clearly already used to waiting for his mother's help and not doing anything himself.

What is the reason for the boy's unwillingness to do something himself? The reason was very simple and immediately apparent. As soon as the boy tried to do something on his own, his mother immediately said: “I knew what you would spill. So clumsy! You cannot give anything into your hands. Let me do it myself. It will be faster than suffering with you "or" Why are you digging for so long! You can't do anything yourself! And how much you will be so slow! You can’t do anything ”. These words rained down on all of us in the compartment every minute. I think it is understandable why the boy did not have the slightest desire to do something himself. Yes, and there was no need for this either - his mother did everything in advance at first sight.

When a kid learns to be independent, he learns independence not only in dressing, but also in life. This must be understood by all of us - adults. Of course, it’s faster to do everything for the child ourselves and “pack” him into a set of clothes. But what do we put into the baby? If we put into the child's mind with our remarks the thought “It's difficult to dress” or “It annoys mom,” then, naturally, he will not want to dress himself.

If from an early age you inhibit the desire "I myself" in the baby, do not give him the opportunity to show independence, then the child can grow up passive, unable to overcome difficulties in life and waiting for others to do everything for him, feeling dependent on others. Therefore, the rule for all of us adults is always the same - “Everything that a child can do himself (in dressing and not only), he does himself!”.

Second. If we dress the child ourselves, then we lose the opportunities in the intellectual and speech development of the child, which our daily life generously provides us. Household processes are what gives us "developmental tasks" that are repeated from day to day. This is the development of fine motor skills and gross motor skills, and the development of thinking and speech. For instance:

— When dressing, it's time to talk to your baby, naming body parts and clothing details: “Where is your left pen? Let's stick it up the left sleeve. Where is the right hand? What are we going to wear next? That's what Katya's blouse is - blue, fluffy, warm! " And this is a contribution to the development of the baby's speech, which takes place in the course of ordinary affairs in the family!

— Draw or lay out pictures of the dressing sequence (first, then),

— Learn to tie a bow and lace, and for this you need to remember and understand the sequence of actions.

— Dressing and undressing the child's handle becomes stronger, his fingers become more dexterous and skillful,

— The kid learns to control his actions, to distinguish the right action from the wrong one, to analyze, to establish the relationship between the action and its result. For example, in order to put on tights correctly, the baby needs to know where they have the heel, toe, right and left stocking, where the pantyhose has a seam - one seam and two seams, where is the elastic, be able to determine where the front of the tights is in order to put them on correctly ( not backwards). That is, this is a task not only for the little child's pens, but also for his mind! This is a real workout, which very often adults themselves "take away" from children, dressing them quickly themselves.

— Dressing and changing is also a contribution to the physical development of the baby. This is the work of all joints - shoulder, elbow, knee, hip, the development of the muscles of the arms and legs, the development of coordination of movements.

Third. It is in such simple self-care that the child first encounters the need to make an effort to solve a problem to achieve the goal. In dressing and other household processes, kids first learn to set a goal (for example, put on a T-shirt), find and master ways to achieve it, analyze the result (whether it worked or not), and correct mistakes if it did not work out. This means that control and verification skills are born here that the child will really need in any productive activity (drawing, modeling, design, etc.) and later in school.

Fourth. When a child feels skillful, he has a desire to help others - sister or brother, parents, friends - peers. He has the opportunity to become caring! And such a desire should be encouraged in every possible way, offer to help to fasten a button on a jacket to a younger brother, to tie a scarf for him, to hold a jacket while a younger child takes it off.

As we can see, teaching children how to dress independently is a very important contribution to their timely full-fledged development, which we - adults - can either give to the child or take away from him, depriving the child of the opportunity to dress himself.

So, we firmly decided to start teaching the baby how to dress. How to do this so that the learning process is interesting and enjoyable for the baby and leads him to success? First, in this article, I will provide general guidelines for a child of any age, and then we will take a closer look at the “dress training calendar” for specific ages.

First. Clothing, which the baby wears himself and which we buy for the child should be comfortable and simple in cut. It should not have buckles, fasteners on the back, thin ribbons - strings, too narrow holes for laces and other elements that are difficult for babies.

For example, it is very convenient for the smallest to wear loose trousers with an elastic band, but it is very difficult to put on tight trousers made of dense fabric.

For small children, clothes with a fastener - Velcro or zipper, with very large buttons are desirable, for older children - you can and even need to use any kind of fasteners, including those with small elements. But in any case, children's clothes should not have uncomfortable fasteners - for example, too tight holes for buttons through which it is very difficult to push them, or fasteners on the back that cannot be fastened by yourself. One should always take care not only of fashion, but also of the baby's convenience and his ability to put on his own thing on his own.

Also look out for the collar of a dress, T-shirt, cardigan, or sweater. Very often on children's products the gate is too tight, the baby "gets stuck" in the collar, gets scared. And of course, then he does not want to dress himself.

Second - a very important "secret" of successful dressing for babies. Desirable for the smallest buy or sew clothes in which the back and front differ. For example, on the front of the blouse there should be an applique, pockets, trim with braid. This will help the baby not to get confused and dress correctly (otherwise, children often wear clothes backwards)

Third. The easiest way for a baby to learn dress while sitting. Then, having already mastered this skill, he will be able to dress and stand.

Fourth. When dressing and undressing yourself, you need closely monitor the condition of the baby. If he puffs, groans, strains, gets nervous because something doesn't work out for him for a long time, you need to come to the rescue in time. Otherwise, only unpleasant impressions will remain from dressing, and the baby will abandon his further unsuccessful attempts to dress on his own. It is very important for us - adults - to provide the child with success and joy from their achievements: "I did it myself!"

How to teach a child how to dress: a calendar of learning how to dress by age.

Dressing is a difficult process for toddlers, so it's impossible to teach it right away. And the baby will need your help for a long time. Divide this process into two parts - what you are doing and what is the child. Gradually, the proportion of what the child does himself will increase. In determining where to start teaching your child how to dress independently, the approximate "calendar" below will help you.

Please note that all children are different. And everyone will need their own time to learn. Do not rush the kid, walk in accordance with his individual pace, and he and you will succeed with joy and a smile!

What a child knows how to dress and what is useful to teach him: an approximate scheme for teaching dressing by age

Learning to dress. First year of life.

While dressing, talk to the baby, comment on your actions, name all the items of clothing, their properties and qualities (soft, warm, fluffy and others), name the actions, parts of the baby's body: “Where is Katya's handle? Here is a pen. Let's put on a blouse. The blouse is soft, warm, white. Let's put it on one handle, now on the other "). You can ask the kid to raise the handle when dressing or give you a handle. Here it is not important for us that the baby cannot do this yet and does not speak at all. It is important for us that he learns to perceive speech by ear, to understand our words, to focus on speech. You can use the hand-in-hand technique. For example, in response to the words “give me a pen”, it is most affectionate to take the child's pen and slip it into the sleeve of the shirt. So gradually the baby will begin to understand your words and requests and fulfill them himself.

It is important that your words - comments when dressing include three stages:

1) Preceded by Your actions, as if warning the kid about them: "Now we will dress Katyusha in a beautiful shirt",

2) Commented Your actions in the course of dressing (naming actions, body parts, properties and qualities, items of clothing),

3) Summed up - conclusion: “Katya changed her clothes! What a beautiful Katyusha we have! "

Naturally, the words here are given as approximate - they will be different depending on the specific situation, here, in communication with the baby, “living speech” sounds, which is born “here and now,” and not memorized.

Such commenting will help the baby in the future to learn how to do actions according to the word, understand words and begin to actively speak himself.

Learning to dress. 1 to 3 years old (early age)

First. What a child can do by himself:

After a year, the baby can, when dressing: give mom the right thing, give a pen when putting on a jacket or blouse, raise your head when putting on a hat. We always comment on all our actions in dressing the baby (as it was before the year), we attract the baby to the conversation. We say what we are doing now and what we will do next: “So we put on our socks. Now let's put on our boots. Where are our boots? Show me. These are the warm beautiful boots Dima has. The legs will not freeze in them. Where is Dima's right leg? "

At about 1 year 6-7 months the toddler can undress with a little help from an adult. He can pull off his hat, felt boots, socks (pull off by the heel), take off shoes or boots unbuttoned by adults, take off shorts, leggings, tights.

Closer to two years old, a baby can:

- raise both arms when mom puts on a sweater, jumper or dress,

- put your hands in the sleeves of the jacket or coat that mom is holding,

- put your feet in tights, pants or socks that an adult is holding,

- take off your socks, tights, boots (laces unlaced), a scarf (which an adult had untied before), an unbuttoned coat, trousers,

- take off and put on the hat yourself,

- take off the unbuttoned coat and jacket,

- self-fasten and unfasten the zipper.

After two years the child wants to do everything himself and requires it from adults. “I myself” - these words we often hear from a child in the third year of his life. Here comes a very favorable time for him to learn how to dress himself (of course, clothes should be simple to dress and undress). After all, the baby wants it! He wants to, and he is interested, he wants to button up buttons, examine clothes, try to put on a jacket himself - in a word, learn how to dress! If we now take away this opportunity from him, and we ourselves dress and undress him, then later it will be very difficult to teach him to dress himself. Praise your baby for independence, teach him how to dress, and very soon he will delight you. At the age of five, the child will no longer be interested, and teaching a five-year-old child to dress will be much more difficult than a toddler.

By 2.5 years the baby can learn to take off the dress, put on pants and tights himself.

Second. What are “microprocesses” in dressing and why it is very important for us to know about it

From 1 to 3 years old, the baby learns to dress specific things. He is not able to completely change clothes himself after sleep, but he is quite able to put on tights, trousers and other things completely on his own or with a little help from adults. In preschool education, this is called mastering "Microprocesses". That is, if dressing for a walk is a "holistic process", then putting on trousers or putting on a T-shirt is a "microprocess". Having mastered the “microprocesses” up to 3 years old, the baby will be able to master the “whole process of dressing” / changing / undressing after 3 years, and dressing and undressing independently with a little help from adults - easily, quickly and correctly.

How can you help your baby to learn these "microprocesses" of dressing and undressing, and what can he do himself at this age? In order for such a little kid to dress himself, you need to know some pedagogical "tricks" and "clever methods of dressing and undressing", which I will now tell you in great detail.

Third: tricks and secrets of teaching children up to three years old to dress

By 3 - 3, 5 years the baby is able to dress himself! If an adult helps him to master dressing and undressing.

What is needed for this:

First. Give your baby very simple ways of doing things that are guaranteed to lead him to 100% success in dressing and undressing (Note: We adults can use different ways of dressing the same thing and usually do not pay attention to them, but the baby needs one effective and very simple way of dressing - the "smart way", which ensures success and joy for his achievement . It is in this way that we will teach the child), These methods of dressing and undressing are given later in the article.

Second. To accustom the baby and ourselves to a clear sequence of dressing and undressing, which is constantly repeated. While undressing, the baby, together with you, puts things in a certain order on the highchair. Then he does it himself. Then, dressing, he can easily put them on himself in the reverse order. That is, if the child, when undressing, was the last to take off the tights and put them on the highchair, then he will put them on first, because they are on top of all the other things on his chair. And will not confuse anything! This is how we teach the "smart" organization of our life.

Another example: the tights are removed and immediately placed on the seat of the chair so that one seam is at the top and two seams are at the bottom (ie in front of the pantyhose "looks" up, the elastic of the tights is at the back of the chair). The main thing here is not to twirl the tights in your hands, but after taking them off, immediately put them on the chair. We explain to the child the rule: "One seam at the top, elastic band of tights to the back of the chair." Then when he dresses, he will immediately take the tights in his hands correctly and put them on correctly: the right leg will be in the right stocking of the tights, and the left leg will be in the left.

Third. Introduce a baby in 1-2 years old with parts of clothing. For example, to put on tights, you first need to find with your child where the tights have an elastic band, a sock, a heel, two stockings, where there is one seam (in front), where there are two seams (the back of the tights). And for this you need to consider tights with the baby. Other items of clothing are considered similarly - for example, a dress (sleeves, cuffs, collar, hem, hangers, pockets and other trimmings).

Fourth. Clearly define what you will do yourself and what you will start teaching your baby now. You cannot start teaching all the ways of dressing all garments at once. You need to choose one thing first. For example, first teach you how to put on a T-shirt yourself. As soon as the baby copes with this, you can move on to another micro process, for example, putting on pants. And the fact that he himself knows how to put on a T-shirt will be a matter of course. Gradually, the baby will become more and more independent, as he will gradually master all the skills.

Fifth. It should be taken into account that adults should always show the child the same method of action, otherwise the baby will get confused. For example, we will teach a child, when undressing before bedtime, to hang a dress on the back of a chair with the pocket down (i.e. the front of the dress is down and the back is up). This will be done so that the baby can put on a dress after sleep without our help and without mistakes and not confuse the front and back. This means that when an adult undresses a child, he hangs his dress on the back of a chair every time in this way. And then he will teach this to the kid. The rule is: "What we demand from the child, we do it ourselves, we give the child a sample."

This is how we ensure the guaranteed success of dressing the baby and praise him for this success! At the same time, a complex process is broken down into easy understandable steps (microprocesses), and therefore everything seems easy. Remember the effective "time management" trick for adults - eating the "elephant" piece by piece (ie breaking down a difficult task into small accessible steps). Very similar, right? The basics of such an organization of one's life and work are laid here - in such simple everyday phenomena as dressing and undressing.

"Smart" dressing without unnecessary time and effort is just the beginning of the "smart organization" of our life and work!

Of course, all readers of this article are very interested to know - what kind of "smart" and at the same time simple and accessible to children methods of dressing and undressing can and should be shown to the baby? We - adults - can develop them ourselves. And we can use the methods already available in the domestic preschool pedagogy.

Here I will present several ready-made options for such methods of dressing and undressing for the smallest children under three years old. I am citing them from a wonderful program for raising young children in kindergarten and in the Krokha family (Prosveshchenie publishing house). I strongly advise you to get acquainted with this program not only for teachers of young children, but also for parents.

Self-dressing and undressing methods for the little ones

A task. Take off your tights.

Consider tights with your baby first. Find where they have the sock, heel, stockings, elastic, where there is one seam (i.e. in front of the pantyhose), where are two seams.

What the child does:

- stands up near the chair with his back to the seat (show how to get up), takes the tights by the elastic with both hands and lowers them below the knees,

- sits on a chair,

- with one hand grabs the heel, and with the other hand the toe of the same stocking (show how to do this), pulls one stocking of tights. To guide the child's hand, you can take his hand in yours — hand in hand — and act together.

- then also pulls off another stocking,

- puts pantyhose on his chair so that the elastic is at the back of the chair, and there is one seam at the top. We explain to the child: “Where is our rubber band? Show me. Here she is! Place it against the back of the chair. Where is one seam? Is this one? It's two - let's count - one, two. Where is one seam? Here it is! Place so that one seam is at the top. Here is a clever girl! " If the kid was wrong, then we correct it, we remind the rule. You will have to remind it many times and every day, since new skills and abilities are not formed immediately, but gradually. Never change this order, and the baby will easily learn it, and later grandparents will also be taught that “we have to do it differently, my mother taught me how to do it right!”

Task: take off your coat (fur coat, jacket).

What the child does:

1. He unfastens the buttons - first the lower one, then the upper ones (that is, we go from the bottom up), in unbuttoning the upper buttons, the help of adults may be required - they are often very tight.
2. Lowers a coat or jacket from the shoulders. First, your baby will need your help - hold on to your coat or jacket.
3. Pulls one arm out of the sleeve.
4. He pulls on the other sleeve of his coat and takes out his other hand.
5. Hangs a coat or jacket on his hook or in his locker (you need a special children's hanger at the height of the children). Your help may be required first - help your baby find a loop for hanging a coat or jacket.

A task: take off a dress.

Consider the dresses that the baby has. Find the hem, sleeves, cuffs on the dress, determine where the fastener is - at the back (on the back) or in front (on the chest). It is better for young children to buy clothes without a back closure so that they can dress and undress themselves. And it is very good when there are pockets in front of the dress or beautiful trimmings (applique, braid, lace) so that children can easily determine where the back is in their clothes and where is in front.

What the child does:

- The child is standing behind the back of the chair. He takes the dress by the collar with both hands, pulls it forward - downward, freeing the head. Takes off her dress from her head.

At this stage, the help of an adult is needed:

a) in unfastening the buttons (if the buttons are very tight or the fastener is on the back of the dress).

b) to direct the baby's head and her arms in the forward-down direction when pulling the dress and freeing the head (you can take the baby's arms in your hands and direct the movements forward and down)

- Pulls by the sleeve (by the end of the sleeve, by the cuff, i.e. below, not at the shoulder). Removes one sleeve. Show how to do this - you can take the child's handle in your hand and together make the necessary movement - pull the sleeve down.

- Then he removes the second sleeve in the same way.

- Hangs the dress on the chair. The hem should be at the bottom. The back of the dress "looks" upwards - at the ceiling. (Then when the baby is dressing and comes up to the back of the chair, she will definitely not mix up the front of the dress and put it on backwards).

Show the baby how to take the dress by the shoulder seams (“Let's take it by the shoulders like this”), then, with a wave, gently and carefully put the dress on the chair. Explain that the loan should not be thrown away, but beautifully hung on the chair - “Now the dress will not wrinkle while Katyusha is sleeping. Katya has a beautiful dress. " It is very important to do this not casually, but very carefully, emotionally, because children very well feel your mood and your attitude, including towards things. And we educate, first of all, not with words, but with our attitude.

Task: take off your shirt.

For boys, the order in their actions with the shirt remains the same as when removing the dress from girls. First, the top buttons of the shirt are unbuttoned, and the rest of the steps are the same as for girls (remove through the collar, pull off the sleeves, carefully hang on the back of a chair).

Task: take off your shoes and put them in place (slide them under the chair on which clothes are folded when undressing).

What the child does:

1. Puts his feet in the shoe together.
2. Leans over and unfastens the shoe. If the fastener is difficult, help the baby.
3. Takes one foot out of the shoe and places it next to the shoe on the outside. Then he similarly takes out the other leg. A pair of shoes stands between the feet of the child.
4. With his hand (leaning forward) he pushes a pair of shoes under the chair. Show the kid how to do it - push it in with one movement of the hand. (Please note: the pair of shoes is now under the chair correctly, the shoes “look at each other.” And the baby will not be able to confuse the shoes when putting on.

Objective: put on shoes.

Child actions:

1. The child sits on a chair. He pulls the shoes out from under the chair (both shoes or sandals at the same time), puts a pair of shoes between the feet. (The shoes are already standing right! It is impossible to confuse the right and left shoes or shoes) When we put on, we say: "Each leg has its own house!"
2. The child puts on his shoes, zips them. In the case of difficult fasteners, an adult helps the baby (laces, buckles, etc.)

Objective: Put on a dress or shirt.

Child actions:

1. The child stands behind the back of the chair, bends over and, without removing things from the back of the chair, sticks his head into the collar of a dress or shirt. An adult helps and holds the hem of the dress.
2. Then the child straightens up, puts one hand into the sleeve. Then in the other sleeve - the second hand. An adult helps the baby "get" into the sleeves.

It is very important: all these methods are designed to ensure that the baby is as independent as possible in dressing and undressing. An adult only helps him if something does not work out. Joint actions "hand in hand" are needed to direct the movement in the right direction, but not to replace the child's activity with the activity of adults.

By analogy, you can explain to your baby the rational ways of dressing other items of clothing. For instance:

To put on panties yourself, a child needs:

- take them by the elastic band so that the mark is in front,

- find a hole for each leg,

- put one leg into the hole, then the other ("Each leg into its own window"),

- pull the panties up so that the elastic is on the belt.

By analogy - to take off the T-shirt:

- grasp the bottom edge of the shirt with your hands,

- pull the T-shirt up to the neck,

- remove one hand (release it), then the other,

- take off the shirt over your head,

- fold it neatly on the shelf (or hang it on the back of the chair).

It is very important that the baby is not only required to dress himself, but taught him these correct methods of action - mini-steps that will ensure his success and allow him to control the correctness of the execution.

The teaching of methods of action proceeds sequentially:

Stage one. Show adult (demonstration and explanation to the kid of the method of action).

Stage two. Joint actions with the child. The adult acts together with the baby (sometimes guiding the child's hands, holding them in his palms), reminds, repeatedly shows and demonstrates. As soon as we see that the baby has understood how to act, and he has begun to succeed, the child begins to perform the action on his own. And an adult comes to the rescue only if there are difficulties, giving the child the opportunity to do it himself. We will definitely praise the kid for his attempts to do it on his own and for everything, even small, successes.

Stage three. The kid performs the action completely independently. No adult's help is needed. So, it's time to move on to mastering a new action. The "old" action is mastered and will soon be performed correctly automatically, without effort.

So, what can a child be able to do by the age of 3, if he was taught to dress independently:

- put on and take off clothes, shoes, a hat on your own, hang it neatly,

- do not confuse the right and left boots, in case of wrong putting them on, notice the mistake and correct it yourself,

- to distinguish clothing and footwear for the home from clothing and footwear for the street. When entering the house, change into slippers,

- to fasten buttons on a shirt or blouse, without missing holes (each button - in its own "house"). In case of a pass and skew, see it and correct your mistake.

- to distinguish the front and back sides of your clothes, in case of an error, correct it yourself,

- see problems in the clothes of loved ones and help fix them (help the brother put on shoes, button his buttons correctly, notice you have an unfastened button, etc.)

We teach a child to dress: from 3 to 7 years old (preschool age).

From the age of 3, the baby no longer masters the "microprocesses", but the "holistic process" of dressing. So, you need to explain to him the sequence of dressing items of clothing. The best way to do this is with a model.

How to make a picture - model:

You paste pictures of clothes in the right order. The kid can always refer to the picture and check himself - whether he is dressing correctly, as well as determine from the picture what to put on next. In preschool pedagogy, this technique is called "the use of a subject-schematic model."

An example of such a model for children 3 years old (demi-season clothing):

Picture number 1 - tights. Picture №2 - socks and boots, Picture №3 - jumper. Picture number 4 - a hat. Picture number 5. Jacket and scarf.

How to use the model picture:

First when dressing, you will discuss with your child what to dress for. Then the kid will be able to use the picture - the model and with the help of the picture-model he will be able to control himself. This is how the foundations of elementary self-control are laid.

Very good help to remember the sequence of dressing games such as: "Teach Dunno", "Help Mishka get dressed for a walk." The hero of the game - the toy does not know how to dress, makes mistakes all the time, and the kid corrects them (you can look at the picture - the model and "teach the Bear" to use it). And then the baby goes for a walk with this toy. In such games, children very easily learn and remember the sequence of dressing, see what mistakes lead to (Mishka first put on a sweater, but forgot his shirt) and see how to correct mistakes, understand why a sequence is needed (what first, what then).

Self-control another play situation with a toy that “dresses” for a walk next to the child also “teaches” the baby well ( game situation - "we go for a walk with the Bear / doll, etc."). The toy indicates to the kid about dressing mistakes (for example, holes were missed when buttons were fastened, and therefore the blouse slid to one side, or the boots “look in different directions” or forgot to put on socks). But here's how to fix these mistakes - the toy does not know, although it sincerely sympathizes with the baby. This is decided by the baby himself together with an adult. And corrects the mistakes.

At this age we continue teach the baby to lay out his clothes in places, explaining why this is needed. We show children a relationship of cause and effect. For example: “We walk on the ground with shoes, on them there is earth, sand. You need to put them down so as not to stain other things. What happens if we put them up on the shelf? Sand and earth will crumble and other things will get dirty. " Or: “What a beautiful blouse you have. Let's hang it neatly so that it doesn't wrinkle "," Whoever takes care of his clothes, hangs it up neatly, he always looks neat, beautiful "," They didn't put the shoes in their place - we had to look for them for a long time, but we could have played at this time. Therefore, we put all things in their places. "

If we help a child to perform an action when dressing (for example, a three-year-old baby is still unable to lace up his shoes and asks for help), then while helping, be sure to talk with the baby and show - explain to him the way of action: “Look, I took the lace. I'll transfer it to the other side and stick the tip through the window. And now you help me further and tell me what to do. Where should the lace be moved? Where to stick the tip? What are we going to do next? "

Such a situation when an adult laces up the shoes of a child, and at this time he absolutely does not participate in the process, but instead looks out the window, at the tablet or at the TV, is unacceptable!

If we talk with a kid, then he gradually remembers what to do, in the end he will definitely want to try it himself, and learn! In addition, talking with the child while dressing and undressing, we develop his speech, teach him to conduct a dialogue.

By the age of 4, any healthy child, if he was taught to dress, can fasten all the buttons, zippers, buttons on his clothes (except for the fasteners on the back) and lace up his shoes by tying laces on them.

From 4 years old the child is already very independent, has mastered the process of dressing and undressing, and we begin to pay special attention to culture of appearance. For example, we show the baby what it takes to put on a dress, look at ourselves in the mirror, smooth the collar, folds at the belt, see if the belt is evenly tied, and whether the dress fits well. We teach to use polite addresses: "Help me, please, I can't ... Thank you for your help", "Let me help you" and others. If there is a younger baby in the family, then we encourage the help of the satrish child to the little one, bringing up care.

By about 4 years of age or later, a child may brush your clothes, take care of your appearance (notice problems and fix them yourself). For example, he may notice that he buttoned the buttons incorrectly (missed a few holes) and correct the mistake himself (without reminding the adult or his request). Children can themselves put wet shoes, mittens, hats to dry in the place that you have allocated for this task (in kindergarten, this is a special cabinet for drying children's clothes - a drying cabinet, at home - a battery or another warm place). We pay special attention to the neatness of folding our clothes, we praise the baby precisely for the quality of the action: “How neatly you laid out your clothes. It will dry well and will not wrinkle. "

From 5-6 years old children can wipe their shoes with a rag, brush them, keep order in their closet with clothes (put each thing in its place, wipe the shelves from dust).

Let's summarize what a kid can do himself at different ages:

You will learn more about the secrets of dressing in the continuation of this article - (part 2). In it you will find tips for solving specific situations: what to do if a child is slowly dressing, if he cannot distinguish between right and left shoes, does not know how to put on trousers and others. I will offer games and interesting tricks for solving these problems from my experience of working with toddlers - preschoolers.

- harmful and useful advice for parents

The older the baby becomes, the more problems in his upbringing parents have. For example, one of them is teaching a child how to dress independently. After all, a baby should master this skill at an early age, and he cannot do without the help of adults. Therefore, parents are faced with the question of how to teach a child to dress independently at 3 years old. Experts remind that this process does not always happen easily and quickly, in most cases the training is delayed for a long time, but the result will surely please the parents and the little one. All that is needed is patience so as not to discourage him from dressing himself.

Walking the steps of learning

Parents often ask at what age should you start teaching your baby this skill? The educators remind that dressing and undressing is a cultural and hygienic skill group. They are the main and practically basic precisely at an early age. It should be borne in mind that already at the age of 2, children become curious and active. They are eager to help mom with housework, they want to dress up and do everything like adults. You should not interfere with the acquisition of knowledge, because it is at this age that you can begin to teach babies how to dress. At the same time, adults should understand that training should proceed gradually, taking into account age characteristics. Then the child will be interested, and the parents will not be a burden

Important! If the crumbs can't get dressed yet, then you should help him unobtrusively and without irritation until he starts crying. If the baby experiences negativity when dressing, then further learning will become almost impossible.

Teachers insist that it is imperative to teach a child at 3 years old to dress independently. It is at this age that children begin to attend kindergarten. At the age of three, we teach boys and girls to put on and take off pajamas, panties, skirts, pants and tights. In a team, the learning process will go much faster, because the kids strive to gain credibility with their peers and educators. If the parents do not intend to give the toddler to a preschool institution, you still need to teach him the basics of dressing and undressing on his own. At three years old, the baby should do this for his own convenience and comfort.

Important! Even if the child already knows a lot, he needs to be constantly praised, supported and encouraged to strive to further improve the skill.

The most common mistakes parents make when teaching

• Parents are late in learning, it is better to start learning when they show independence, at about two years old.
• Further training is ignored when adults see that the baby knows how to undress and dress.
• You can't rush the baby so as not to discourage him from doing something.
• There is no need to provide help if the baby does not ask for it, it is better to explain in words or show by example how to do it right.
• You can't scold for failures, but be sure to praise for achievements.
• Parents pay little attention to playful moments, meanwhile, children perceive learning better while playing.

Dressing Learning Calendar by Age

The teachers have developed an age calendar when a preschool child should be able to put on and take off some things on their own. The chart will help parents determine the child's developmental level and self-care skills.

Age	Independent action	Adult help
2 years	Take off and put on: unbuttoned shoes, a hat, tights, shorts, pants, a skirt with an elastic band	Dressing takes place with the help of parents
3 years	Put on all clothes, fasten Velcro, zippers, buttons Fold or hang clothes Adjust clothes throughout the day, monitor your appearance	A little help from parents
4 years	Undress and dress yourself in the correct sequence Hang and fold clothes Be able to keep track of your appearance	Helping parents to tie their shoelaces
5 years	Dress and undress Tie shoelaces Take care of clothes Clean up the closet and shelves	Not required
6 years	Dress and undress quickly Follow the appearance Take care of clothes Put things in order	Not required

Features of early learning

We teach to dress in the first year of life

When dressing very young children, it is imperative to comment on the actions, say the names of all elements of the wardrobe, describe their quality and properties. The parts of the child's body should be named: hand, leg; ask to give the handle to the little one, explain that you need to put it in the sleeve of the blouse. It doesn't matter at all whether the baby can do it or not, whether he can speak, everything is memorized in a passive dictionary.

Dressing comments are divided into several stages:

• Warn the baby about your actions;
• Comment on actions and explain them;
• Summarize when a result is achieved.

You should not demand from the crumbs only self-dressing, you should show how to do it correctly. In such a difficult matter, games, joint actions with the little one will help. These may include helping to guide the baby's palms, demonstration on toys. As soon as it becomes clear that the child has begun to act and everything is working out for him, this becomes an additional incentive to continue studying. An adult can help only if the baby is having difficulties. If everything goes smoothly, then you should not discourage the child from independent actions. It is imperative to praise the baby for any achievements and successes.

Important! You can give your baby various items for the development of motor skills: buttons, lacing. Such manipulations help not only to develop logical thinking, but also form dressing skills.

We teach to dress at an early age 1 - 3 years

After a year, the child is able to independently serve the adult with the necessary things, stretch out his hands when putting on a blouse or T-shirt, raise his head when putting on a hat. You should definitely continue to comment on all your actions, involve the child in conversation with an adult. At a year and a half, the toddler is able to undress without the help of parents.

By the age of two, the baby raises two handles to put on a sweater or dress, puts his hands in the sleeves of a coat or jacket, legs in tights with the help of an adult, removes almost all elements of clothing. It is important for parents not to miss the moment when the toddler begins to demand independent actions for himself, he wants to do everything himself. At this time, you need to start active learning, the process will be easy and interesting. Naturally, you need to purchase the simplest clothes. It should be done as soon as possible, then it will be possible to notice significant progress by the age of three.

When teaching dressing, you need to take into account microprocesses. For example, up to three years old, a baby learns to put on specific items of clothing. He is not able to completely change clothes after waking up, but is able to pull on panties and tights, pants and socks without the help of adults. This is called mastering microprocesses. Dressing completely for a walk is a holistic process, and putting on individual items of clothing is a micro-process.

How to avoid whims?

Teachers advise: the main thing is to dress without tears! Small children need to constantly move, they have a lot of unspent energy, they cannot sit in one place. As a result, dressing and undressing seems too tedious and boring for them. They twist, twist, refuse to obey adults and do not want to perform independent actions. If an adult is impatient, irritable, tears are inevitable. It is important to translate training into a game form! For example, say that the pants are magic, the legs are a train that moves through the tunnels.

A very small child can be distracted by bright toys that will surely attract his attention. At this moment, you need to talk, read rhymes and nursery rhymes in order to keep the attention of the crumbs.

Don't make a problem out of dressing. As the baby grows up, he seeks to do something on his own, he cannot constantly refuse to obey. At 5-6 years old, preschoolers will definitely learn to cope on their own.

How a child grows up depends entirely on the parents. The ability to dress independently is not only a self-service process, but also an essential step in your future life.

Dear readers, you will be interested in this article if you are interested in how to teach a child to dress independently. Sooner or later, all parents are faced with this, so it is important to know at what age it is time to accustom the baby to independence and how to do it.

Optimal time

Two to three years is the most optimal time to acquire a new skill (dressing yourself)

Are young parents wondering when a child starts to dress himself? It depends on how much time you spend on your little one. If you do not deal with the baby, do not show him how to do it right and what to do, this process can be delayed. Naturally, sooner or later he will learn to be independent. However, you must understand that a late skill can affect certain difficulties in the overall development of the baby. Therefore, it is very important that the parents put in their efforts and begin acquaintance of the child with independent dressing no later than at the age of 3.

Do not forget that all children are individual and you can talk about their readiness for independence, having noticed certain manifestations in their actions, in behavior.

1. If you notice that the baby is trying to undress himself, this is a reason to think that the optimal time has come.
2. Pay attention, perhaps your little one, going to the pot, is already lowering his pants on his own. If he tries to get dressed later, do not rush, do not try to interfere, do everything for the child, let him try it himself.
3. If your little one is trying to put on a jacket on their own, do not forget to praise him, do not rush to stick your hand into his sleeve. The first time the little one will not cope, but he will try very hard.
4. Acquaintance with Velcro can be started as early as one and a half years of age. If your little one does it easily, then you can move on to the laces.
5. But acquaintance with the buttons is not recommended earlier than the age of about two years. The fact is that the child will have an underdeveloped wrist joint.
6. It is necessary to acquaint the toddler with lightning after two years. Here we are talking about the ability to independently insert the slider into the fastener, and not drive the dog back and forth (the last manipulation can be performed by a child and a younger age).
7. At two and a half years old, teach your child to button up.

Possible difficulties

Be prepared for the fact that the child will not immediately learn to distinguish between where the left and where the right shoe is

Parents should understand that in the process of learning, the toddler, most likely, will not succeed in everything. The following situations are not excluded:

• the baby is able to confuse the sequence of the dressing process, for example, he will put on tights, then he will only remember about the panties;
• toddler can wear a T-shirt backwards;
• it is not uncommon for the baby to start sticking both legs into one leg;
• the child may even start crying if you give him clothes with an uncomfortable collar, which will cause serious difficulties for the baby;
• it may be difficult for a baby to button up buttons or a snake, so it is recommended to start getting to know these objects in advance;
• your little one will certainly have difficulty not understanding where the left shoe is and where the right one;
• there will be frequent cases when the baby will mix up and put on things inside out.

Many of these difficulties arose during my son's introduction to dressing himself. In particular, we were faced with the problem of putting on clothes backwards, topsy-turvy, the little boy was confused on which foot and which shoe to put on. When I was very young, I managed to stick two legs into one leg.

Choice of clothes

You must understand that the learning process itself can be quite difficult for a child. Therefore, special attention should be paid to the correct choice of clothing items, which will greatly facilitate the fate of the baby.

1. Choose products with wide Velcro fasteners.
2. The buttons on the clothes should be easy to both fasten and unfasten.
3. If there are buttons on the product, then it is necessary to choose only round buttons, it is important that they easily enter and exit the loop. Also pay attention to the size of the buttons. It is important that they are large enough.
4. Make sure that the zipper on your garment stretches and closes easily without getting stuck. Also give preference to items with large details.
5. Choosing laces, go with those with metal or plastic ends. It is important that the length is optimal, not too short or too long.

Dressing rules

To make it easier for the child to cope, it is necessary to explain all the stages of the process.

1. When starting your acquaintance with shoes, choose a pair with Velcro:

• give shoes to the child in hands;
• show how it stretches;
• ask to repeat your actions;
• be sure to praise the toddler for his success.

1. We teach the baby to untie the hat on his own. To do this, show that you need to pull on the extreme ends, not on the bow. Otherwise, the knot will only tighten more, and the child will not be able to get rid of the hat.
2. When you start introducing the toddler to the buttons:

• show on yourself, your jacket, how this process takes place;
• let the child hold the button base with one hand, and apply the other part of the button with the other handle (believe me, he will like the clicking sound);
• now show how to disconnect buttons. Just remember to say that too sharp movements can lead to breakage.

1. To explain how to zip up you need to:

• show by example;
• suggest yourself to try to drive the slider from side to side;
• when the child masters this movement, you need to pay attention to how exactly the zipper is fastened;
• make sure that the objects of his research have sufficiently large details.

1. To teach how to button up, it is necessary to start acquaintance not with clothes, but with a separate toy for development. Here you can use a simple piece of fabric on which the buttons have been sewn, and there will be loops on the other cloth. The first time show the child how to act, then he himself will cope with this task. Do not forget that this action has a positive effect on the development of fine motor skills.
2. When teaching to put on pants, show that it is most convenient to do this while sitting:

• have the child stretch out his legs in front of him;
• shoves each limb into the corresponding leg;
• when the feet show up, it gets up and pulls them up.

1. When your baby is learning to put on a T-shirt or sweater, choose products that have a wide enough neckline, without a neckline:

• show how you put on the T-shirt for the first time;
• then put on a jacket for the child;
• and only then offer to do it yourself.

1. Learning laces should also start with educational toys. Show how you can tie knots in different ways. When the baby can handle the toy on its own, you can move on to shoes.

In kindergarten, my son had a special shoe with laces of a large enough size, on which the children trained.

Let the child participate in the choice of clothes

If you want to know how to teach your child how to dress, then I suggest you heed the following tips.

1. The optimal time to learn how to dress yourself is 2 years. The baby already has an interest in everything around him. And the period approaching the third year, allows you to achieve high results, due to the fact that children are trying to be independent, and not obey their parents.
2. It is better to first start getting acquainted with undressing, only then proceed to dressing. Let the hat, socks, tights become the first things. Moreover, these attempts can be made as early as a year and a half.
3. Always the process of teaching young children should be reduced to play. If the toddler has Velcro and pockets on his clothes, this will also contribute to the development of fine motor skills.
4. You can not dress the baby when he is in no mood, all the more to try to teach him to do it. Also, do not study when the child is sick.
5. The kid needs to be motivated. If he loves or is looking forward to meeting his friends, perhaps he wants to go to his grandmother or the mall, hint that you need to get dressed first.
6. Become an example for your child. The option with distillations works well here. Just do not forget to give in to the baby, but not too clearly.
7. So that the little one does not get confused, with where the front and back are, for example, T-shirts, you need to buy clothes with an image or Velcro, pockets on the front.
8. When teaching your child how to put on shoes, wait with lace-ups. Velcro options are ideal.
9. Pay attention to the fact that not all clothes can be liked by your baby. Don't force your child to wear something they don't like.
10. At first, you can entrust some of the clothes to your mother, some to the little one. Let the baby put on the simplest things, but already actively participate in this process.
11. If your baby is confused with what and when to wear, in what order, then you can create a special poster on which the child or animal will first put on tights, then pants, a T-shirt, then a sweater, shoes, and then put on a jacket.
12. A child who goes to kindergarten needs to prepare clothes in the evening. Let the baby also take part in this process.
13. Pay attention to the fact that it is much easier for a toddler to put on more loose clothes, that is, too big than one that is right next to it.
14. Let the child take an active part in shopping, choosing clothes. So he will have a lot more interest in this process.
15. Be prepared for a lot of effort and patience. Some children manage to quickly acquire a new skill, others will need more time. Treat your baby with understanding, do not put pressure on him. Never shout or use force during parenting.

Parental mistakes

By continuing to dress and undress a child over three years old, you prevent him from becoming independent

Some parents, either out of ignorance or inexperience, manage to behave in an inappropriate way, which only procrastinates the time when the little one can put on his pants or a hat.

Let's take a look at the most common errors.

1. You can't forbid your baby to try on your clothes or just turn things over in the drawer. This will discourage the child's interest. But these are the first attempts to put on something, in most cases dictated by the desire to be like mom or dad.
2. You cannot continue to dress a child over three years old. At this age, the baby should try to serve himself.
3. You should not stop the learning process if you see that the child knows how to undress himself. This is not an indicator that now he will dress easily.
4. You can't push the kid, he is just learning. Of course, he is not yet quick, slow. When he gets the hang of it, everything will be much faster, but for now the main thing is not to discourage his desire.
5. Never try to button the little one if you see that he himself is trying to do it. If necessary, the child will ask for help himself.
6. If you see that the baby is not doing well, do not yell at him, it is better to explain what exactly he is doing wrong.

The main thing that parents should remember is not to rush the baby, everything has its time. Remember that the process of acquiring a new skill can be lengthy. Never yell at the toddler, take everything calmly. I wish your baby to quickly learn how to dress and this process will provide him with only pleasure.

You should start teaching your child how to dress independently from two to three years... From about this age, the child develops a persistent desire for independence, and if you respond in time and correctly, then you do not have to force the child to do something himself - he himself will strive for this. Therefore, if your baby is 2-3 years old, pay attention to several recommendations of child psychologists.

You cannot suppress the initiative of the child. If he wants to try to dress himself, don't bother him. But do not ask your child to immediately dress only himself. Very often, parents simply cannot stand the slow pace of dressing the baby and, feeling that they are already late, begin to dress the child in a hurry, not allowing him to dress himself. In this case, it makes sense to start training a little in advance, taking into account the time for a quiet mastering of dressing skills by the baby.

If he is stubborn, capricious, be flexible, know how to find a compromise. If he requires you to put on 2 pairs of socks, put on. Agree on the clothes you choose. Just prepare several options for him in advance, then it will be easier for you to agree with his choice.

Tell your child what to wear. For many children, remembering the order in which they dress can be a challenge. You can create a poster with your toddler that displays the clothes in the correct sequence. This will help the child to remember faster. In addition, so as not to confuse where in front and where the back of the clothes is, choose clothes with pockets or appliqués on the front, so it will be easier for the child to navigate.

How to button up

Children's clothing is not only with Velcro, zippers, but also buttons. Learning how to button up can be turned into an interesting game. Sew a few large buttons onto the piece of fabric, and loop through the other cloth. Kids play with pleasure and at the same time practice a useful skill. By the way, to develop fine motor skills, use whatever is at hand: wash buttons and Velcro on soft and some household items. So, the ears of a hare can be made snuggling to the head - fasten them with buttons, and fasten the curtains in the nursery with Velcro for the night.

How to put on your boots

At first, it is better to refuse from lace-up shoes and sandals with fasteners. The kid will not be able to unlace the boot himself before putting it on, and then lace up. Buy shoes with zippers or Velcro so that they open up well and the leg goes inside easily. You will see that unbuttoning and fastening zippers and Velcro will become the kid's favorite game, which means he will put on shoes without whims and with pleasure.

How to put on your pants

Explain to your child that it is more comfortable to put on pants while sitting on the bed, stretching your legs in front of you, and you can stand up after the feet have appeared from under the pants. Do not forget to praise your child even for his small successes.

How to wear a T-shirt

To learn how to cope with a sweater, a T-shirt, things should be loose, with a minimum number of buttons and buttons. It is important that the neck is loose and that the clothes pass freely over the head. Otherwise, not only will he not cope with the uncomfortable thing, but will also start to get angry, and then refuse to dress altogether.

Try to calmly and without irritation explain to the child that it is necessary to climb into the neck of the jacket with the crown of the head, and not with the face, which can get stuck in the neck. You will have to repeat this not once, but many many times, have patience.

You may need to rethink your child's wardrobe to teach your child how to dress. It is possible that some things must be abandoned for a while. And before you buy new clothes, mentally imagine if you can put on a new one yourself.

What to do if at the age of four the child still does not know how to dress independently?Teach: show how to distinguish the wrong side of the clothes from the front, the front from the back, how to better hold things so that it is more convenient to put them on, etc.

At three or four years old, the Shki, one way or another, already know how to dress, but they may refuse to do it on their own. Most likely, the reason lies precisely in the fact that they were not allowed to dress themselves when they really wanted to. Now you have to be more persistent and spend a lot more time so that the child still starts to dress himself. It is best to adhere to the policy of "soft adherence": do not scold or shame the child, recognize his successes, help him in really difficult cases, but in no case do his "work" for him.

By the way, many little stubborn people react very much to "weak". Often it is enough to say: "Yes, of course, you definitely can't cope with this T-shirt - it's a difficult, adult business!" But, keep in mind, this method can only be used if the child already knows how to dress well, but does not want to do it. And don't forget to provide emotional support and praise him for getting dressed.

Do not overlook another reason for refusing to dress yourself. Perhaps the child just doesn't like his clothes? She may be uncomfortable for him. Look carefully, is it easy for a child to wear the things that you offer him? Are there rough seams on the seamy side, rubbing labels, tight elastic bands and spiky collars? Some have an increased tactile sensitivity: a sweater, which, in your opinion, is very smart and warm, may be unbearably prickly for them - and this is not a whim at all! Finally, even toddlers of preschool age often have their own particular tastes and preferences in clothing, you should not neglect this.

Key points:

1.Fold home clothes in a place accessible to your child. At first, the baby will simply pull it out, wrap it up, hide in a pile of things. But by about one and a half years, he, following the example of his parents, will begin to put on hats and socks. And then other clothes.

2. If you try to put on something yourself (even not very well), fight your own impatience. Don't help him until he asks.

3. Often, the first things a baby puts on are dad's T-shirt or mom's socks. Firstly, it is easier to put on these things, and secondly, it is more interesting. And thirdly, they satisfy their need to be like their parents. Therefore, do not forbid such experiments, for sure you have clothes that can be donated for games.

4. Buy comfortable things for your child - Velcro shoes, sweaters with a wide collar and without fasteners, loose socks and panties.

5. Think of clever ways for dressing, interest them in the child. Here's a fun way to put on your jacket.

In the book http://www.fictionbook.ru/author/adler_bill/perehitrim_maliysha/adler_perehitrim_maliysha.html I found a piece of advice that allowed my three-year-old son to learn how to put on jackets, sweaters, shirts in a few minutes.

Lay the children's jacket on a flat surface (sofa, stool, floor), straighten the sleeves; the open zipper should be on top. Place the child facing the collar or hood of the jacket. Clothing lies as if “upside down in relation to the child.

Ask your toddler to bend over to the jacket and pass his arms through the sleeves. While in this position, grab the bottom of the jacket and quickly throw it over the baby's head. Such help is needed only at the beginning. then he will "dive" under the edge of the jacket while pulling on the sleeves.

6. If you dressed yourself, do not criticize him and, if possible, do not change clothes (even if all things are worn backwards and inside out). On the contrary, be sure to praise your baby. And for an older child, put tags on clothes and shoes so that there are fewer mistakes.

7. Begin also dressing exercises up to two years old to use the Self Period.

8. Do not forget that play, intellect and learning new skills are inextricably linked processes. Make sure your baby has suitable ones that will help him learn the art of dressing faster. First of all, these are, of course, dolls with their doll clothes. In addition, various kinds of developmental aids - lacing and everything that can be fastened and unbuttoned (fabric panels, rag books, soft with pockets and flaps, on which buttons, zippers, Velcro, ties are sewn) are very useful. But if you do not want to deal with such a toy, do not worry. Just develop his fine motor skills in other ways. And the time will come when, without any training, learn how to fasten buttons and connect the halves of the zipper.

9. When dressing the child yourself, try to draw his attention to the process. Speak all your actions, ask to hold something or do a simple action yourself.

10. Even if you think he already knows how to dress himself, do not deprive him of his support and attention. Suggest what to wear for what (this is a difficult task for many children), arrange clothes in order. You can dress at the same time as the child, offering him competition.

11. Plan your time so that you can feel comfortable learning the difficult science of dressing with your baby. It is better to get up in the morning half an hour earlier than deprive the child of the opportunity to master new skills in time.

12. Invite him to take off clothes that are really easy to take off.

13. You can hang a poster in the nursery with the image of different wardrobe items in the order in which they need to be worn. It's very good if you make this poster together with your baby: you will find suitable pictures in magazines (at the same time it will be a good memory and attention training for the baby - there are so many new names to remember), cut out and paste them on a sheet of Whatman paper.

How to teach a child to dress independently?

We teach the child

dress yourself.

As soon as you notice your child's desire for independence, then it's time to learn how to dress and put on shoes. The ability to dress independently is a very difficult skill for a child, since it involves fine motor skills. The best age to study is 2-3 years old. It is this period that child psychologists call "I myself!" At this age, children absorb everything like a sponge. The best example of self-reliance is you as a parent. The child will be happy to repeat everything after you. But the baby will not learn everything right away, because each child is individual, his development depends not only on temperament, but also on the educational strategy of adults, so please be patient and be ready for gradualism.

And why rush or do it yourself somehow - this is the wrong approach! After all, the skill of dressing not only saves parents' time, but also gives something else.

Motor skills - the child stands on one leg to put on a pant leg.

Improves understanding of space and time - the child learns how to dress for a specific occasion and weather conditions.

In addition, dressing teaches your child to see the difference between dirty and clean clothes. But the most important thing is that the skill of self-dressing takes the extra burden off the parents' shoulders.

Develops fine motor skills of the hands.

A kid panting on tights or putting on gloves with concentration evokes emotion and delight in adults.

How convenient it is for a mother to get ready for a walk with a child who knows how to dress independently! This process is especially tiring in winter, when there are too many clothes. But even in the warm season, you have to put on and take off your outfits several times a day - after sleep, for a walk, before bedtime, etc.

When you have started the learning process, you cannot require your child to dress independently - this is the worst way to learn.

Here are some tips for teaching this skill:

• Patience and calmness of parents.
• Good mood of the child.
• Calm atmosphere - without haste and nerves.
• Parents' friendly tone - no orders.
• No threats !!! You cannot suppress the initiative of the child.
• Never criticize or laugh if your toddler is not dressed well.
• Make dressing a game. Tell your child the order in which to put on the clothes.

Very often, the very design of the clothes interferes with the rapid development of the skill of self-dressing.

* When buying socks, pay attention to the elastic band, it should not be tight.

* Buy clothes with a minimum of fasteners, buttons, laces. * Avoid turtlenecks or sweaters with a narrow neckline. The most comfortable sweaters with buttons on the shoulder.

* Choose garments with appliqués to distinguish between the front and back.

* Buy pants and skirts with elastic.

* Consider buying one size up.

Self dressing rules:

1. First, introduce the baby to the clothes. Examine clothing items with your baby, show them and name them aloud. Introduce the child to the seamy and front, front and back sides of clothing, tell us what a sleeve is, a collar.
2. Think over your baby's wardrobe. Clothing should be loose and easy to stretch. All that is "not enough" and "tugovat", it is better to remove. The child will not yet be able to put on tight-fitting tights, but he will easily cope with the "old-fashioned" elastic band. Shaggy threads on the seamy side of the tights will bring a lot of trouble to the baby - fingers get tangled in them. It is better to buy socks one size larger and with a not very tight elastic band. Also, save your child from having to struggle with tricky fasteners. For the first time, clothes and shoes without fasteners or with Velcro are optimal; gradually you can add large "zippers" and buttons. And laces and buttons will wait a couple of years.
3. When dressing the baby, voice the sequence of actions: "Now we will put on panties, then socks, then pants", etc. For many children, remembering the order in which they dress can be a challenge. You can hang a poster with a picture of different items of clothing in the nursery. It will be good if you draw this poster together with your child: cut out suitable pictures of clothes from children's magazines and stick them on a sheet of Whatman paper in the order in which you need to put on all the garments. So the child will quickly remember this order. In addition, so that the child does not confuse where is in front and where is the back of the clothes, choose clothes with pockets or appliqués in the front, so it will be easier for the child to navigate.
4. First, teach your child how to undress.... Show how you take off mittens, jacket, tights, etc. Tell the little one: "And you can do that, try it." If the child has difficulties, help him, if necessary - practically take off his clothes, but let the child leave the "finishing touch". He must feel that he did it himself. Gradually increase the number of items of clothing that the baby will always take off. Don't forget to praise him for his success.
5. Children enjoy imitating the example of adults. Lay out his clothes next to your belongings and start dressing together or one by one, item by item. Announce a "competition" - who will get dressed faster. At first, the baby will need help.
6. Fold home clothing where your child can... At first, the baby will simply pull it out, sort it out, hide in a pile of things. But by about one and a half years, he, following the example of his parents, will begin to put on hats and socks. And then other clothes.
7. Often the first things a baby puts onturn out to be daddy's T-shirt or mom's socks.Firstly, it is easier to put on these things, and secondly, it is more interesting. And thirdly, in them the child satisfies his need to be like his parents. Therefore, do not forbid such experiments, for sure you have clothes that can be donated for games.
8. When you dress your child yourself, try to draw his attention to the process. Speak all your actions, ask to hold something or perform a simple action yourself.
9. Even if it seems to you that the child already knows how to dress himself, do not deprive him of his support and attention. Suggest what to wear for what (this is a difficult task for many children), arrange clothes in order. You can dress at the same time as the child, offering him competition.
10. Plan your time this wayso that you can feel calm while learning the new science of dressing with your baby. It is better to get up in the morning half an hour earlier than deprive the child of the opportunity to master new skills in time. Really determine the time to dress. If your child needs 20 minutes to dress calmly, don't try to force him to do it in 10.
11. Invite the child to choose a blouse himself, lay out 2-3 to choose from.
12. Do not help if the child does not ask.
13. Play with your child!

Here are some dress up games:

"Locomotives go to the tunnels" let the legs of the trousers become tunnels, and the legs of the baby - the trains. Offer your little one "to drive the trains into the tunnels."

"Dress up a doll (soft toy)" Tell the baby that the doll is on a visit, but it needs to be dressed.

Girls, and boys too, enjoy playing"Fashion show" or "photo session" is a great excuse to learn how to dress yourself.

"Dive!" Lay the children's jacket on a flat surface (sofa, stool, floor), straighten the sleeves; the open zipper should be on top. Place the child facing the collar or hood of the jacket. Clothing lies as if “upside down in relation to the child. Ask your toddler to bend over to the jacket and pass his arms through the sleeves. While the baby is in this position, grasp the bottom of the jacket and quickly throw it over the baby's head. Such help is needed only at the beginning, then the child himself will “dive” under the edge of the jacket, while pulling on the sleeves.

Poems - CLOTHES

I can dress myself (O. Ivanova)

The sun came in

In the morning to our window.

The sun tickled

Seryozha's cheek:

It's time to get up

It's time to get dressed!

He already knows how to

Dress in the morning.

And socks and panties

The boy himself puts on.

Here's the shirt on.

Well, Seryozhka, well done!

I began to pull on tights -

He did it himself, kid.

Blue pants

Instantly the boy put on

Slippers with legs

Buttoned earring.

Well, and you are my friend

Do you want to dress yourself?

I COULD DRESS YOURSELF ... (V. Zaitsev)

I am already four years old.

I can get dressed myself.

If the weather is warm -

I run into the yard without a coat.

If the wind blows hard

If there is slush or rain,

I will not go to kindergarten

Without a coat and without galoshes.

I'm used to my shoes

Brush every day.

All specks of dust from the suit

I'm not too lazy to shake out.

Dressing the baby for a walk, say:

We'll put on our boots

On little feet

We will put on a jacket

To our baby.

We'll put on a hat

Neck scarf.

And let's go outside

Where the sun shines.

Getting dressed for a walk:

We put on pants - one, two, three!

We put on a jacket - one, two, three!

We will fasten the buttons - one, two, three!

And now the boots - one, two, three!

... (etc. whatever you put on)

We're ready - look!

Now let's go for a walk.

Let's play with the kids.

But so that my Nastenka

Never frozen

We'll put on a hat

To hide the ears

Nastya is on top of her head.

And a warm scarf on the neck,

Very soft and large.

Well now the jumpsuit

Nastenkin's beloved.

You will become like a dwarf

My flower, dear!

I'll put you in a stroller

I'll tell you an interesting story.

And one more cute rhyme:

Aunt Agashka,

Sew me a shirt!

I need to dress up -

Let's go for a ride!

Boot

Mom asked her son:

Lace up your boot:

One or two - to the right,

One or two - to the left!

He doesn't want to lace up, -

Mitya thought to justify himself.

And to prove it,

I began to knit knots:

One or two to the right

One or two - to the left.

Here! Nodules interfere

I have to pull the strings!

Vova is confused,

Where is your shirt?

Maybe gray cats

Did they take her to the bushes?

Maybe the hare came?

Maybe the hedgehog took it away?

Maybe a teddy bear

Want to wear it?

I began to try on a shirt -

Took it and put it under the bed.

Vova is confused,

Here's your shirt!

Blue mittens

Bayu-bayu-bayushki,

Blue mittens.

Mom sewed, embroidered,

Where with difficulty

And where it is easy.

I sewed on with a strong thread

Nastenka's name.

Bayu-bayu-bayushki,

Named mittens.

Duel with a lace

My brother gets attached to me

His lace is not tied.

I tie the lace on my boot

I tie and show, show and tell.

I tell you how I tie it.

I knot and untie

Untie and tie ...

And I didn't learn right away

Tie and untie ...

Laces

I'm not laced up shoes

And I train the laces

So that they don't get out of their hands,

I was not bullied

And tied deftly

As the training tells them,

Would you hold your shoe

Firmly, firmly.

Like this!

M. Plastov

How to button up

Children's clothing is not only with Velcro, zippers, but also buttons. Learning how to button up can be turned into an interesting game. Sew a few large buttons onto the piece of fabric, and loop through the other cloth. Kids play with pleasure and at the same time practice a useful skill. By the way, to develop fine motor skills, use everything that is at hand: wash buttons and Velcro on soft toys and some household items. So, the ears of a hare can be made snuggling to the head - fasten them with buttons, and fasten the curtains in the nursery with Velcro for the night.

How to put on your shoes

Buy shoes with zippers or Velcro so that they open up well and the leg goes in easily. You will see that unbuttoning and fastening zippers and Velcro will become the kid's favorite game, which means he will put on shoes without whims and with pleasure.

How to put on your pants

Explain to your child that it is more comfortable to put on pants while sitting on the bed with your legs stretched out in front of you, and you can get up after the feet have emerged from under the pants. Do not forget to praise your child even for his small successes.

How to put on a T-shirt

For a child to learn how to cope with a sweater, a T-shirt, things must be loose, with a minimum number of buttons and buttons. It is important that the neck is loose and runs freely over the head. Otherwise, the child will not only not cope with the uncomfortable thing, but will also start to get angry, and then refuse to dress altogether.

Demonstrate how to properly put on your pants - sitting on the bed or floor, getting up only when your leg comes out of your pants.

When putting on socks, the difficulty lies in the fact that the child spreads his toes and cannot pull the sock to the end. Show how to hold your fingers. Very often, children like to pull on their daddy's or mom's socks, with this they satisfy their need to be like a parent. Do not forbid, let him experiment.

When putting on a sweater, explain that you need to climb into the neck not with your face, but with the top of your head. If you know that the sweater's throat is narrow, stretch it with your hands, before giving it to the child, show that the space is large and the head will fit there. Otherwise, the child will become firmly convinced that it is very difficult to put on some things.

Teach to collect your fingers in a fist when putting on sweaters and sweaters.

How to teach a child to put on shoes?

If you do not want to disgust the child with the shoe process, buy shoes one half size larger.

Before putting on, unbutton and cut the shoes as much as possible so that the foot can easily go inside.

Put your shoes next to each other: left on the left, right on the right - these are “the shoes are friendly”, and if you put them on the wrong foot, then “they had a fight”. Show what it looks like when they "quarreled" and look with their noses in different directions.

What if your baby doesn't want to learn how to dress?

By the age of 3, the child outgrows the desire to dress independently. We'll have to be patient and spend more time on training camps.

Does he want to go for a walk or visit? Of course, but if he dresses himself. But do not immediately issue an ultimatum. At first, be content with small victories: let him put on socks, panties, or even just a hat. Unobtrusively increase the percentage of his independent actions.

Give the right to choose clothes. But offer no more than two items of each type, so it is easier for the child to decide.

Turn dressing up into a game: let the hat be the crown, the boots - the running boots, the zipper dog - the elevator car. It's time to show your imagination to the maximum!

Do not insist on dressing on your own when the child is not sleeping enough, tired or sick. Hearing: "I myself!" do not extinguish the initiative, help only when asked about it. Praise your success and you will succeed.