“The less we love a woman, the more she likes us” - some actively apply this formula, including to those who are really interesting to them themselves. This is one, but not the only reason explaining the strange behavior of the stronger sex.

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Not perfect enough?

So, why does a man ignore a woman he likes? This can be caused by honesty towards yourself. The man realizes that he is not ready for a serious romance, and increases the distance in order to freeze his feelings. It is clear that to cope with this is not an easy task, so the young lady sometimes can not understand what is happening: sympathy for her is obvious, but the plot does not come about. Another reason flattering for girls, but not solving the problem, is doubt that it is not too good for you. This is a good reason why a man avoids the woman he likes. Fear of being uninteresting, risk of not being able to compete, fears for your financial insolvency make your potential boyfriend cautious and cold.

Not ready to be first

This also includes the fear of being rejected in your courtship, especially if the “gentleman” is very in love. So, wondering why a man still ignores a beloved woman, do not exclude that he is simply afraid to be rejected. Fearfulness can underlie passivity. Suddenly in front of you is a type who prefers to be a slave, one who cannot take the initiative? In this situation, the answer to the question why a man avoids a woman he likes will be sad - because he wants her to play ahead of the curve.

And I want, and pricks

Yes, and we forgot about the version called Doubts. He likes you, but he is not sure that he needs to meet with someone now. He weighs the pros and cons, trying to listen to himself. This can be annoying, because no one will like such slowness, but, you must admit, such thoroughness is a good sign. The only question is a certain balance of both parties, how long will he deal with himself and his intentions. Everything is good in moderation, right? And, by the way, there is one important nuance. He can hesitate because he is not free and is already connected by relationships. Will he find the strength to free himself and start a new page in his life? Here, as they say in social networks, "everything is complicated." And you decide whether to force the situation or still provide it to him.

in itself. If you are not seen point blank due to the fact that you are not ripe for a full-fledged novel, do not cling to these relationships. Yes, the line between the efforts that would have to be made to get what you want and the senseless attempts to change the essence of things is subtle. But if you are really interested in him, he will figure out how to show it. Let it be leisurely, but it will begin to take some steps. If the movement towards you does not happen, forget it. And the main truth is that no man likes excessive attention to himself. Keep this in mind. Good luck.

Any person at least once in his life felt insulted for a variety of reasons, they ignored someone, used, offended, insulted, ridiculed, rejected, hurt, made them suffer, promised that they were not going to give. But a special place is occupied by those insults that men inflict upon women, especially, out of ignorance or carelessness. And the worst thing is that sometimes women themselves try to justify it, and do not find out the relationship right away, so that later it would not be insulting that for so many years I have been with someone who never loved and really appreciated, but only insulted and demanded.

We will devote our material today to how men offend women. Even, perhaps, if a man doesn’t do this on purpose, we’ll separately discuss what kind of behavior a man can offend a woman. Interesting? Then read.

To understand what kind of words or deeds of men offend women, it’s worth mentioning that rhetoric in the family, betrayal, drug addiction, gambling or alcoholism are not related to what can offend women. These are serious problems that a woman suffers from, and even a man, because normal people will not behave this way and they need to be addressed. They do not offend, but break lives. This is tragedy and danger, not resentment, when a person said without thinking, or acted recklessly, or even intentionally did something that offends another.

Neurotic men always offend

Men can offend a woman not on purpose, without thinking how it will be perceived by a person or on purpose, wanting to hurt, get what they want. It depends on the nature of the person. If a man is a neurotic, daffodil, tyrant, he will constantly offend, insult, destroy self-esteem, because he does not know how to love himself or anyone else, even if he thinks or says that he loves - this is not so. Such a man may not be aware that he offends a woman, believing that he has the right to say so, act and do and it is generally not clear why everyone is offended, because he does nothing wrong. His self-confidence will not let him feel guilty, even if he tries to understand why he behaves so badly with others.

He really sincerely does not understand why they are offended, he does not realize that there is darkness inside him, and therefore he can only splash it out, and if he does something good, he will surely ruin everything. No matter how hard the woman tries, she will never hear an apology from the narcissus, because this type of man is always right, he is the best, the very best.

Neurotic women are always offended

But women themselves sometimes perceive the behavior of men too painfully and are offended, even when there was nothing offensive in their actions or words. Neurotic women often suffer from far-fetched grievances. They see in the man’s words that which was not there, ascribe to him what he was not going to do, they consider their attitude to what is happening the only true one. And all because their self-esteem is too low, they are not confident in themselves, they don’t understand at heart why men are by their side waiting for him to leave them, leave them, they are always in an anxious state and therefore they are offended by perceiving his actions as they really are, believing that he deliberately made it painful for her. Although the man himself did what he considered necessary for himself and was absolutely not going to offend the woman or somehow humiliate him.

A vivid example of the fact that sometimes women themselves are offended by a man and seek out a reason for resentment, is the moment when he did not notice her new hairstyle or dress. And he did this because he was tired, thoughtful, does not differ in the ability to give compliments, restrained by nature, but the fair sex may be offended, believing that he is indifferent to her, he has someone, he doesn’t care or didn’t like it , but it should have been.

Often, it is precisely such misunderstandings that cause women to believe that a man offends them, although this is not so. And this problem can be solved only by ourselves, because it lies not in the behavior of their chosen one, but in themselves, in their resentment, insecurity, low self-esteem, anxieties and fears, and men certainly have nothing to do with this. But of course, you should not consider all insults to be invented or explain that you misunderstood it, men often really behave ugly, hurt and offend women.

How exactly do they hurt loved ones

And now it's time to talk about what often offends women in male behavior.

Women are offended by ridicule and ignoring men

Very often women are offended by ridicule, reproaches, inattention, man’s employment, when you can do without it, especially when she knows that workaholism is dangerous to health. And instead of achievements, you can destroy your health.

She doesn't like it when he doesn't listen to her. And it doesn’t matter that he is not able to physiologically perceive her complaints and the flow of words, through which the fair sex experiences its emotions.

Male indifference

Unpleasant woman and indifference beloved man. And this is not surprising, because when a person is tired, it is clear why he is not a little worried about others, even very loved ones, his nervous system requires rest. But when he doesn’t care what she is experiencing, suffering, offended, she needs help, she asks to take her time, spend it with her, and not with friends or the TV, this already suggests that he is simply indifferent to her and does not value her as a person. Resentment, but in such a situation the woman herself should talk to him about it or continue to silently tolerate such self-neglect if she considers it unworthy to be next to a man who will value her and pay attention to her, and not ignore and use to its convenience.

Attention to other women

Unsure girls often get offended when men pay too much attention to other women. It seems to them that he compares them, even if this is often subconscious, or maybe not, but the offense is that the girls feel worse at that moment than others. It doesn’t even occur to them to relate to such a situation that a comparison would be in her favor anyway. Of course, nobody canceled the womanizer, traitors who themselves are neurotic and do not know how to love, no matter what anyone does for them, but it is a matter of choice whether a man who looks openly at others is suitable for her or not. But to feel worse than others, it would be better to engage in self-esteem and make sure that for the fair sex herself all these comparisons are just an excuse to increase her own self-esteem, so that she remains confident that it is no worse than others, and maybe better, he’s with her, not with them.

Forgetfulness and inattention offends a woman

Women are clearly offended by the carelessness of men, their forgetfulness regarding significant dates, holidays. They don’t care that men are not able to remember the date from the date they met, though not all, someone remembers this, but there are not many of them. And they forget, not because they don’t care, their heads are just busy with a lot of other things. There is no malice in this. And if he is indifferent, then this will be understandable even without the fact that he forgot about the date of meeting or meeting.

Sudden male extinction

Women are also offended, and when a man disappears for a while, does not call and is not interested in how she is doing. Does not ring if promised. And this already really says that he is not very interested in a girl. The one who is in love, the one who needs her, will not forget to call, and not because he promised and impolite to break his promises, but because he wants to hear her voice, to inquire what she does. After all, a man in love thinks of his beloved; he cannot be separated from her for a long time.

Lazy man rest

No less resentment, and sometimes just irritation and anger, causes a man to desire to lie on the couch all the time or play computer games after work if he does not work and is not going to look for a source of income thanks to which he can live. Such people believe that they have the right to live on what a woman earns. Resentment from such behavior is then replaced by fury and can turn into hatred when the fair sex understands that all this time she believed empty promises and “breakfasts”, that a man should earn more than his wife, especially when there are children.

Lovely women, love yourself, do not let men offend you, value, protect, remember your own interests and desires. No one except you can take care of you like you do. Therefore, you feel that the man has offended and hurt, find out why this happened, if he realizes his mistake and will no longer behave this way, everything is fine, but if he hurts again, constantly finding excuses for this, then you have to either accept him as he is, or leave. It is impossible to change it, he can do it only by himself, and enduring is a waste of time and mockery of himself.

If the matter is in you and your excessive resentment, then it's time to deal with your internal problems, since you do not want to be unhappy and constantly be offended by something that does not matter.

It happens that only recently a loved one literally carried you in his arms and fulfilled all your wishes. And at the moment, for any mistake you make, he starts yelling at you. This situation means one thing: the period of romance has come to an end and for some reason you began to annoy your chosen one. And do not think that the reason lies in another woman. Most likely, your beloved just began to clearly see all of your shortcomings.

Let's try to figure out what such irritation may be associated with.

Do not tell your chosen one that, for example, your friend’s husband recently paid her a tour of Europe. Thus, you kind of belittle the status of your young man. Although you don’t directly say that he cannot allow you such luxury, and, consequently, the girlfriend’s husband is the most wealthy, and in everything. Better remember how you were in love at the time of your meetings and on your wedding day. Wedding dresses for you were a symbol of eternal love, and your then still future husband was a hero of a love story.

Also, it is not recommended to play a guessing game with a man. The strong sex doesn’t like it terribly when when we ask, “What happened?”, We thoughtfully reply: “Think.” Your young man will become angry not because he offended you with something, but because you play “cat and mouse” with him. After all, he is afraid, calling the problem not to guess it, thereby ensuring himself even greater scandal.

Men just hate when we have mood spikes. Perhaps at the very beginning of the relationship the young man perceived mood swings and normal, but over time it began to annoy him. The opposite sex cannot be explained that you were upset because you watched a movie with a sad ending only 5 minutes ago and that is why you are crying now.

No need to call and sort things out. This does not need to be done, even if you really want to. After all, you yourself think at the moment when you are screaming asking the man what he has done, he may be in the office of his boss and he is completely not up to your conversations. The best option is to wait for a meeting and discuss all the accumulated problems face to face.

It is strictly forbidden to discuss any shortcomings of a man in the presence of strangers. Thus, you humiliate your man. And be sure that over time, with this attitude, his feelings for you will simply evaporate.

Also, do not drag a man along with him on shopping. No, of course, if you go to the supermarket for groceries, you can grab it as an assistant. But in case you simply want to walk around the shopping center, for these purposes it is better to bring a girlfriend.

Why is a man angry? - the girl asks.

Because someone pissed him off - the first thought flashed through my head.

So why is a man angry?

Let's look at this situation from different angles.

Remember Pavlov’s dog from the school biology textbook? There is a stimulus - there is a reaction. No incentive, no reaction. Also with anger. Anger is a reaction to some kind of stimulus from the outside.

A stimulus can be a woman, someone will say. A man came home, and there a woman - will you have dinner, dear? No, ”he muttered and left.

Why is he angry, she wonders.

Perhaps the man does not get angry. Maybe not at her.

In most cases, a man, like any person, becomes angry when personal boundaries are violated. This is the starting point. But the outer shells of this reason can be different. For example, a business partner did not live up to trust, and it angers. For example, one partner in a relationship opens up, lets another partner into his life, allows him closer and closer and, at some point, his personal border is blurred. There is a merger, dissolution. A person ceases to see another real person. A real person sometimes does what no one expects. This is like a forehead clash about reality and anger, as a reaction to violating personal boundaries.

Here I recall the case when I did not yet know about personal boundaries. And this case, became a turning point point to think about them.

At one of the seminars, which lasted several days from morning to evening, during one of the long breaks, I wanted to sit somewhere in silence and preferably with my eyes closed. I found an open and free room in the corridor of the institute, and even with a sofa, settled on it and closed my eyes. A few minutes later two women entered the room, turned on the light and began to write something on the board, talking loudly. I opened my eyes and felt a rebellion rise inside me, - "Why ... who are they ... they didn’t even ask if it is possible to turn on the light ...". Inside, everything was boiling and bubbling. At first I did not understand what was happening to me. But, this was anger, which at that moment, I did not express.

On that day, awareness of personal boundaries, the psychology of my own behavior, became for me the revelation of the day.

Different occasions in life can anger, annoy, cause indignation. But, the true causes of anger are not so many. As already noted above, this is a violation of personal boundaries. And also, situations in which someone or something does not live up to expectations. The man was waiting for one thing, he was drawing in his imagination pictures of the possible events, but the situation did not go as the investigation had imagined - the man was angry. If you accidentally fell into his arm at this moment, then you may get a small or large piece of this anger, but this anger may not concern you at all.

We all get angry at times. Someone is angry with other people when they betrayed him or failed him in some business. Someone is angry at this world (country, government, doctors, etc.). A woman is angry at her man, a man at her woman. Someone is angry with themselves, “why again I couldn’t ... why it hadn’t occurred to me before ... why I couldn’t tell the truth ... etc.” This also includes non-achievement of goals. This is all about unfulfilled expectations.

When we invest in someone or in something too much of our emotions, we wait for reciprocity or gratitude and do not receive in the end, this can cause a wave of indignation.

Here it is important to understand the causes of aggression and the psychology of your behavior, and then look what can be done in a particular situation. It is important to take responsibility for what is happening. Only you have the right to decide how to react to a particular situation. Unfulfilled hopes are not a very pleasant thing. And we can and should choose how to relate to this and how to show our emotions in an environmentally friendly way.

Anger is a difficult feeling. Often, it is the result of accumulated, suppressed irritation. Before anger makes itself felt, there is a first sensation of discomfort, which sometimes a person overlooks. And here it is important to learn to establish contact with oneself, with one’s feelings, to be attentive to oneself, one’s personal space and the personal space of others. When a person is not aware of his personal boundaries, he will violate others. Therefore, it is very important to maintain your personal boundaries and the personal boundaries of your man or woman.

When a person’s personal boundaries are violated, voluntarily or involuntarily, the internal balance is violated and a wave of discontent arises inside. Therefore, it is important to agree on the boundaries of personal space.

So, if your man is angry - it’s important for you to remain calm and take complete control over your emotions in response. Evil breeds even greater evil. If you come under the "hot hand" of your man - stay in peace of mind, take it calmly and with understanding. Later, when the storm in your man’s soul subsides, he will come up to you and find the right words to explain why he was angry and will try to correct his behavior. It is not so important why the man is angry, but it is important that you calmly accept it, so you show your love and wisdom.

Women often wonder why men do not call for so long. For example, a guy takes a girl’s phone number, and calls only after six days. Then he invites her on a date and does not call for another five days. And the unfortunate girl meanwhile scratches her head and asks herself: “What would it mean?”

Women often suppress men, so they use defensive waiting tactics. At the beginning of the relationship, he counts everything. A man wants to be rational, not emotional, since it is obvious to him that emotionality is a sign of weakness. On Tuesday, he says to himself: “I think I'll call her on Thursday.” Most men do not even realize that women would prefer to hear their call on Tuesday.

Why do men do this? They behave in a similar way to “save face” and create the impression that it is he who controls the situation. A handsome guy named Stephen impressed me with his wisdom. He said: “As long as you behave calmly with a woman, as if you have nothing to do with her, everything is fine. But once you show that a woman is important to you, she immediately senses it and begins to relate to you in a completely different way. ” That is why men wait and do not call. It seems to them that women do not respect men who show weakness or vulnerability.

You should not perceive such behavior on a personal level. Let the man not ring for a day or two. Very often, when it seems to you that he does not care about you, in fact the man makes an implicit compliment to you: he wants you so much that he does not want to demonstrate it. In other cases, men step back deliberately to look at your reaction. They want to know how important they are to you. If you do not believe me, read on. Here is what these cunning devils came up with:

1. “Men want women to think that they have a lot of girlfriends, although in reality this may be completely wrong. Men are exaggerating. They believe that this will be more attractive to women. ”

2. “Yes, men often make themselves cool. It seems to them that this way they will be more attractive to women. “I know some guys who don't meet the most beautiful women just to make their real girlfriends nervous.”

3. “Men do not want to admit that a woman controls them. They are offended to think that a woman means so much to them. We do not want to lose control of ourselves. ”

PRINCIPLE OF ATTRACTIVENESS:

At the beginning of a relationship, you should pay attention only to how often a man communicates with you, as he can hide a swap of emotions for a long time.

4. "In the beginning of the relationship, I can not call the girl for a long time, because I do not want to seem too in love."

5. “Men are just as emotional as women. They simply do not show their feelings, because society does not encourage them to do so. A man should always control himself. ”

6. “When a woman behaves independently and calmly, it scares the man. Women can afflict men, although they are unaware of this. What if she just leaves? It scares a man half to death. "

7. “If a man is really in love with a woman, he will do his best to pretend that she is indifferent to him. A rare man will kneel before a woman and begin to sob. ”

8. “Of course, men pretend to be cool ... They want women to become more interested in them. Women want to please us and do not want to seem weak and in love with them. If you show a woman that you are in love with her, she immediately wants to drive you under the heel. "

9. “Sometimes at the beginning of a relationship I pretend that a woman is indifferent to me. I do not call for a long time to support her interest. No guy wants to seem madly in love. ”

10. “A man is much more sexually dependent. A woman can control her sexual desires, but they completely own men. ”

11. “Men behave in ways that interest women. Most men believe that women prefer tough, rude, "bad" guys. "

12. “If you show weakness, then they will immediately use it. Some men believe that once they open up, women immediately use the information they receive against them. ”

13. “If you let a woman know that your girlfriend hasn’t been in your life for a long time, she will have the impression that you are already desperate and ready to meet anyone.”