Why do men leave? Why do men leave families? What to do for a man to be with a woman for as long as she wants? What women do men not leave?
Why does a man move away, and after a while makes itself felt again? After reading the article, you say goodbye to the beliefs imposed by society and you can manage your relationship with a man. You will understand that everything is in your hands. And most importantly, my task is to show the simplicity of this issue and to take you out of the labyrinth of misunderstanding.
If you are reading this, then most likely the man left you or the family, or you are together, but you fear that he will leave sooner or later. If it is already relevant, then you can find out. In the meantime, we continue on the topic.
Women do not distinguish between two fundamentally different concepts: “a man leaves” and “a man moves away”.
Let's start with the first one.
The man leaves not from a woman to another woman. A man goes from one state near a woman to another state near another woman.
Yes, yes, the man who left, he did not leave you, but from the state that he felt near you.
If you go to women's forums on the query “why men leave”, then in the overwhelming majority of cases it can be concluded that the reason is in men. “They need everything new… Any woman gets bored by a man… Another is more beautiful… Breasts are bigger… Booty is pumped up… Younger… Men are heartless, etc.“
What nonsense!
Only one thing is important. Condition.
This state is beneficial to both in a pair.
The man feels:
confident
sincerely wants to take care of a woman
wants to act, grow, develop, earn more, please his woman (who is so weak without him)
The woman feels:
protected
happy
behind a stone wall
joyful
Why then do 98% of couples have the same scenario? At first everything is so good, everything is by itself, and then everything is more complicated, more difficult and not so easy.
I will answer.
Because they are. Man and woman into each other. Falling in love is an intoxicated state when everything happens as usual. But this period lasts on average a year and a half.
And since a woman is accustomed to doing everything lightly and without even thinking WHAT to do, and after the extinction of emotions, she also continues to act according to the principle "well, everything was fine before."
But the result is different. And the man leaves.
But there is good news as well. The condition can be influenced by:
Appearance
Be as beautiful as you were at the beginning of the relationship. Better yet: become even more beautiful. Your man should want (!) To pay for it.
A man wants to see you always beautiful! This is your direct female responsibility.
Need to keep explaining this point?
Adoption
Learn to accept a man for who he is. Even the mother's most beloved son has strengths and weaknesses. This is normal.
Don't try to change your man. You yourself agreed to develop relations with him. Most the best way to change a man is to give him a fortune.
Joy
A joyful woman is what a man can look at forever.
If you are not happy every time he comes home, then do not be surprised why a man is not in a hurry to return home after work. Even if you have been together for 10 years, rejoice as you did in the first months of your relationship.
Thanks
I write about this in almost every article. The more a woman shows gratitude to a man even for little things, the more a man sincerely wants to please her even more.
And vice versa. A woman who takes a gift of flowers or a screwed-in light bulb by a man for granted kills a man's desire to continue doing the same and more for her and her family.
Delight
Admire masculine strength, masculine victories (even which seem to you to be a trifle), his masculine qualities, as in the heyday of a relationship.
Women believe that a man can be arrogant. I often hear this from those who have not even tried to sincerely admire a man.
Personally, I do not know of a single case when a girl admired his masculinity and he became arrogant. But I rejoice, like a child, when I learn the opposite examples: what is expressed in the prosperity and happiness of the family.
Need
Men are born to be needed. If a man does not feel needed, he leaves sooner or later.
When a man doesn't feel needed? When a woman is independent. She can do everything herself. Which can stop a galloping horse without a man.
I have no doubt that you can do a lot without a man. This is how the modern world works. But are you happy with this? I’m sure not. And men are also not happy about this.
Show the need for a man.
Ask to kill a fly in the kitchen. Rejoice, thank. And move on to more complex ones. And watch his wings grow.
Or a man will go away from independent, strong woman to a small weak defenseless girl and (it would seem) such a fool.
Liberty
A woman needs to understand that it is important for a man to have freedom as well.
As a predator who has his own refuge, which he will not exchange for anything, and at the same time understands what freedom is.
If you are offended, angry, annoyed that he wants to spend an evening with friends or leave for the weekend to think, then you urgently need to change your thinking, because he may want to leave you, and not distance himself.
The man moves away
They met for about a month. Everything was great. Sympathy, reciprocity. A week later, the man gave the girl an iPad (he showed concern, showed his strength, wanted to please the girl).
The man is successful, 35 years old, wealthy, businessman, everything is fine with his appearance. Girl - 22 years old, is fond of sports, looks good.
Everything seems to be fine. But one day the man disappears. The girl is shocked. What's wrong? She writes him several messages on social networks, he does not answer.
What do the forums say? “He found another, he was tired of you, guys - they are like that. Don't worry, this is a common case among women. You will find another worthy one ”.
The girl concludes: "The man disappointed me, he acted unworthily, it hurts me, the end."
My thoughts are below.
If a man did this, then:
a) he is morally ill (problems in business, etc.). You need to move away for a while, be alone with yourself.
b) a man does not respect her as a woman (because his condition next to her has become different from the first days).
That is, in both cases, the man moved away for a while (or left) in order to get a different state.
Reboot methods:
1) fishing
2) meeting friends
4) martial arts
5) be alone
And women make a gross mistake when they perceive the distance of a man on a personal account. Offended, disappointed in him. This indicates low female self-esteem.
The man makes himself felt, and the girl smugly: "Oh, I appeared ... And I don't need you anymore." And she rejoices inside that she “broke off” him.
Please understand that this will repeat itself in your life over and over again until you start to include awareness, responsibility and understanding of the difference between masculine and feminine nature.
Important takeaways from the article:
A man leaves not from a woman, from the state that he receives next to her
The male condition can and must be influenced
“The man left” and “the man moved away” are different concepts
A man has the right to move away in order to recharge with new strength and love for a woman - such is the nature of men
Male distancing should not be taken personally
Men do not leave real women
Thanks for reading.
I hope the article was helpful to you.
The most interesting articles by Yaroslav Samoilov:
When a woman leaves, she tells the man everything that she thinks of him. Representatives of the stronger sex are not always so emotional: sometimes they leave in English, keep silent. Treason, a big quarrel, or suddenly flared up feelings for another are understandable situations, but sometimes a break occurs, as they say, "out of the blue." Or is it just it seems?
"Why do men leave" - probably every girl once thought about this, but she could not fully understand it. Here are some reasons for leaving the stronger sex:
You conquer it too hard
Sergey, 28 years old, director:
- Everything is simple for me: as soon as a girl begins to climb into my territory, I run from her. The last two attempts to establish relations with women followed the same scenario: a period of romance, then a period of rapprochement, and as a result, the lady is already dragging her pans, jars of cream to me, and I begin to bump my head against her linen in the hallway. And here I come to my senses and realize that I have already been "caught".
Most likely, says psychologist Natalya Poltotskaya, Sergei is a gentleman from the category of "eternal bachelors", however, a man striving for permanent relationships may be afraid of "seizing" his territory - nature initially provided for other roles, giving the function of the invader to the man.
- Free space, both physically and spiritually, is very important for a man, so you should not be the first to suggest a man to move to him, supposedly "imperceptibly" transport things to him or, after a month of acquaintance, behave like his wife - this will only scare away the chosen one.
- If you are aiming at a serious relationship, then you do not need to mess with a born loner in the expectation that, having met you, he will change his life and will be "forever yours."
- If a man tells you about his past relationship, pay attention to the reasons for breaking up with his former chosen ones: this will help you not to step on the same rake.
.jpg)
You demand too much
Maxim and Olya from the outside seemed like a perfect couple. Therefore, when they broke up after 5 years of meeting, it came as a shock to those around them: they were waiting for an invitation to the wedding.
Maxim, 25 years old, bartender:
“I’m not used to complaining, and somehow from the very beginning I considered myself to be guilty of all our problems with Olya. We didn't go on vacation - I don't earn much, Olya is bored - I haven't figured out what to do. Olya put herself in such a way that I had to entertain her, but she did not owe anything. Of course, it is my own fault that I did not outline any framework. She reproached me with the fact that her friend's husband, who is younger than me, was already running the company, and I was just a bartender. Although I knew perfectly well that I wanted to develop in the restaurant business, I developed a business plan. Then she tried to get me a job with her father, and when I refused, she said that I would not achieve anything in life, and began to threaten to part. I decided to leave first, because I want to have a woman nearby who believes in me. Previously, women followed men to Siberia, but now many girls have some kind of consumer attitude - if there is no apartment, then you are nobody.
According to Natalia Poltotskaya, such situations arise if a girl initially plays the role of a "queen", choosing a man as the executor of her desires or "animator", forgetting that he is the same person with his dreams. Any of us can be capricious, but if a lady goes too far, then her man is unlikely to endure it for a long time.
- You should not demand everything from the chosen one at once, support the man in his endeavors: after all, many millionaires started as a waiter.
- Do not put labels on your loved one: if you call a person "pig", he grunts. That's why strong man he can give up or go to another, if instead of "bunny" or "cat" he hears "loser" - with this word you program him to fail.
- Do not compare a man with your friends, with your father: if he is relaxed, it is better to hint that he was not so lazy before and remind him of his past successes.
You should be on your guard if:
... the man turns into a "silent" and makes contact with you less and less;
... The chosen one constantly puts off what you wanted to do together for a long time: buying a joint home, meeting your parents, going to a family planning center, etc.;
... the man stopped talking about you as a whole and more and more often spends time alone, goes on vacation without you;
... the gentleman began to often cite other couples, the behavior of familiar women as an example;
... the man began to often find fault with you about and without, look for flaws in you.
You stopped being interested in him
Eugene, 31 years old, entrepreneur:
- We were married with Natasha for 8 years, and over the years so much has accumulated that I began to think about divorce. Three years after the wedding, I began to miss affection, sex became monotonous. I tried to talk to my wife, but work, Dom-2 and social networks interested her much more. When Natasha began to gain weight, I suggested that she go to the gym together, but she got offended (I supposedly think she was fat) and continued to eat candy. Her passivity began to annoy me more and more. The final was my acquaintance with Irina, to whom I left - she turned out to be a very gentle girl, we began to go in for mountaineering together.
As the psychologist notes, the goals of marriage can be different. In this case, Natalia is most likely satisfied with the relationship for show - she just needed the status of a married woman. Eugene, on the other hand, was looking for a woman friend with whom he could spend time interestingly, travel, achieve something together, and he found the qualities he needed in Irina.
Reading time: 3 minutes
Why do men come back after breaking up? It is impossible to give an unequivocal answer regarding the reasons for returning after parting, since it concerns the individuality of the intimate history of each unique relationship. However, the most common trends are highlighted. It happens that they come back after trying several other relationships, which gives the formation of an experienced understanding that the former woman is more suitable, her importance increases. Also, the domestic side of the issue is triggered, forcing a man who is satiated with romance and adrenaline to miss the arranged life and his usual slippers. There is also played out jealousy, as an engine towards the past, and the inability to experience the new happiness of the former companion. Debt to children, reproaches from friends, image at work, mortgage payments, feelings of shame, everyday incapacity - all can become a motive for return. Although the most ethically correct reason why men return to their ex after a breakup is the desire to be together, due to mutual feelings and the same direction in life.
Before the woman becomes tough choice about taking back a man who wants to return. Such a passage of the crisis can give a new understanding of relations, or it can take time and nerves, and the success of the end of such an undertaking depends on the initial motives, efforts made and internal capabilities.
Why men come back after breaking up - psychology
Parting is an emotionally complex process that women, according to statistics, go through faster, but more tragic than men. The inconsistency of speeds provides a picture of when she went through all the stages of grief and decided to start a new life, only freeing herself from painful memories, so the former lover appears on her doorstep. The interest of women in why men return to their mistress after parting is also generated by the feelings of those women to whom they leave when a new romance suddenly stops, and then the lady finds out that her man has returned to his previous relationship.
Explaining such actions by a sudden insight and understanding of their mistakes, as well as the decision to correct everything, is quite romantic, but psychology can offer several more not so comforting versions. With an inexhaustible desire to find ways to influence the return, it is still impossible, because the reasons prompting a man to return lie precisely in him, and only a small percentage probability of returning depends on the characteristics of the woman's personality and behavior. A man who does not know how to close gestalts, manipulates departures, inclined to return, will continue the old relationship, regardless of external circumstances.
Why men return to their mistress after parting can be explained by the mechanisms laid down by nature on. So, every man is an owner, the differences are only in how it manifests itself and how much this trait is developed. Entering into a relationship with a woman, a man assigns her to himself, like other achievements, from now on she herself and the space around her is his territory, entry to which is prohibited to others. When parting ex-woman remains the same (that is, this is still his territory of influence), and, therefore, seeing her happy and cheerful (as indirect manifestations of love), or accompanied by another man (as a direct act of invasion of his perceived territory) in a man the defender turns on. It is the desire to defend his own that makes him appear again, call, find out how things are or resort to more catchy actions if the opponent is close enough. If everything is due to this particular mechanism, then as soon as a woman's eyes go out again and flocks of fans stop hovering around her, such the man will disappear.
Rising higher from the natural-animal level, one can encounter when a man is sure that every woman he meets will equally well and completely take care of him, performing somewhat maternal functions, without taking into account the inner characteristics of a woman as a person. And then, having left for another energetic and everyday space, he does not receive the degree of care to which he is accustomed. Whether because the new companion is not able to perform such duties, or because she has not yet remembered what kind of cottage cheese he likes for breakfast. Leaving back to an infantile position looks like leaving for warmth and comfort, accompanied by a collision with reality and the inability of all women to treat a man equally.
But there is also a return, driven by feelings of duty, guilt, or pity. It is characteristic of people with high morals and who are not able to be fully responsible for the chosen path. A man can stay close when the former has a material crisis or serious health problems, he can stay because of the children or in order to avoid the censure of society. This appearance does not lead to good, it is a deception on both sides - one pretends to value, the other pretends to believe.
But not all internal returns have unpleasant aftertaste, and it is worth stopping at having a positive charge and a chance for a new development of relations. One of these reasons is when a man's departure is provoked by the wife's objective shortcomings. It happens that a woman eventually ceases to pay attention to herself or to relationships, and a man's departure becomes, albeit a shock, an occasion to look at her own life and where the devil-may-care attitude has led. If a woman took up her appearance, instead of the usual "yes and so it will do", started attending interesting events, started new hobbies, then she becomes an interesting interlocutor. People who are carried away and take part in an active external life attract the attention of not only new surrounding acquaintances, but also arouse considerable interest from former partners. With a woman so changed, a man can remember former feelings and burn with the desire to continue, especially if the reason for the breakup has undergone dramatic changes.
And one more reason for renewing a relationship, when none of the above is motivating, and the man really realized his own mistake, or the mistake of his woman. With real deep awareness, inner work and if there is sincerity, then it is possible to discuss difficulties that seemed insoluble at the time of parting. With this approach, instead of getting rid of troubles, people choose the path of their resolution, and then it becomes possible to meet on a new level.
Why do men return after parting - men's opinion
The opinion of men regarding their own return to ex-girlfriend have a slightly different bias than the explanations of psychology. Initially, it all starts with a simple interest in how he lives ex girlfriend, on the one hand, interest is idle and if nothing interesting happens in her life, then perhaps it will not appear again in the next year. And if a career break happened or a personal life improved with another guy, this causes both interest and indignation that all these goodies happened without his presence.
If a couple is connected by common children, then a man considers it quite natural to appear regularly in the life of his ex. Sometimes these appearances can cross the line, such as staying overnight or asking for a loan of money. Many allow themselves to expose a new man to their ex, arguing that he is a father here. Defending their territory and protecting children from the influence of another man, by violating the privacy of their mother. Such actions can even pop up not on purpose, at a basic subconscious level.
Why does a man leave and then return? The prose of life is included when comparing the new and old passion. You can pretend that we are all saints and perceive a person without applying standards and comparisons, but if this is not the first relationship, then comparison cannot be avoided. Men say that with a new girlfriend everything seemed easier and more romantic to them until reality knocked on the door with a heavy boot called "everyday life", and until it turned out that she was snoring, hysterical every evening and was absolutely not adapted to life. At such moments, the man's light image, which lives in cafes and parks, collapses, and the former woman with whom they have already got used to both characters and habits, and in general she remembers how his favorite meat should be fried.
Why do men come back after breaking up? Psychology in this regard notes that comparison and are the main movers of return. It is both easier to live with a past lover, and easier to build relationships, because all the paths to her heart have already been studied. A certain emotional closeness pushes men to remember and appear at their exes, when they feel melancholy, when the contract was not signed, when they quarreled with a friend and in other unpleasant situations. The habit of receiving emotional support from this particular woman may remain for many years to come. Well, then another habit “not strangers,” and now the relationship seems to have resumed.
A fairly large percentage of men cannot give a clear answer to the question of what triggered the renewal of the relationship, explaining that everything has somehow worked out by itself. Or, when there is a long period of absence of relations, then the reasoning of the idea strives to find a simple and quick solution to the problem, and the girl, whom he has already achieved and abandoned once, will be easier to achieve the second time. The statement is partly true, because if the girl at least responded to the new communication, then there is still something left inside.
Such revelations were received in individual conversations, but if you asked what version the same men would tell to women, then everyone would prefer to talk about their desire to renew their relationship, repent of their own actions, and confess their love only to this one woman. Which of this to believe, to decide each individually, because if of all women this man decided to build a relationship with you, then perhaps this is dictated by sincere feelings, and he really values \u200b\u200byou and all that you give him.
Speaker of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"
Ecology of life. Psychology: This article was written to help the beautiful half of humanity. If a woman with men constantly repeats the same situation: a man disappears at the peak of a relationship, simply disappears without explanation.
This article was written to help the beautiful half of humanity. A question from our reader with the beautiful name Love: in my relationships with men the same situation is constantly repeated: a man disappears at the peak of a relationship, simply disappears without explanation. I understand that the problem is with me, but I do not know how to solve this problem.
I received a lot of letters of this content in my mail.
The reasons for this situation may be different, not all of them are listed. But there are key problems, which I will talk about in this article.
In general, in the modern world, the relationship between a man and a woman is most often not the relationship of two Souls, united by pure and selfless love, but the mutually beneficial existence of the Ego of one and the other. And now, when the ego of a person, and it does not matter whether it is a man or a woman, grows to exorbitant proportions, big problems begin. In another way, it is called accumulated negative karma, moreover, a person's personal karma or ancestral karma along the female line, this is the second question.
Now I will explain in Russian)) What I saw many times when working with this problem, when a woman complains that all men run away from her, and before serious relationships or it never comes to a wedding.
Why do men run away from me? Key reasons
I will answer first to a specific letter, then to the rest possible reasons let's go through.
One of the reasons: you have a great subconscious desire to tie a man to you and control him, this can manifest itself as the fear of losing him, the fear of being left alone, the desire for him to always be with you and no one else, etc.
Normal men always feel dependent and do not like when a woman seeks to tie him up, lasso, subjugate him, her personal power. They feel it even if at the physical level you are not doing anything like that and behave very unobtrusively. But at the same time, subconsciously, a woman's desire to subordinate a man to her personal female power can be enormous.
This is the work of a developed female ego. Our Ego always strives to take power over others. The female ego is above men. The masculine is over the women. For what? The answer is simple - to use the other to realize your selfish desires, your will. So that he, a man, serves a woman. The male ego accordingly wants women to serve him by fulfilling his desires.
How does the hypertrophied female or male Ego manifest itself? In the desire to bind to oneself, to make only “one's own”, to control all manifestations of the other, to deprive him of his freedom, to put him at his service. The female ego wants to appropriate the man for itself, to make him its own - " so that he only does what I want».
The ego is thirsty! It wants! And these desires are always personal and poorly controlled. As you know, the most important thing for an egoist is himself, this is what can be called “mine”. For a terry egoist, his personal desires always come first!
Once again, I repeat, outwardly a woman can behave very modestly, not impose herself, keep herself in control, but at the same time energetically she has already thrown a thousand clamps on the man, has already tied him to her, climbed onto his head and chased him. And a man will always feel this emotional, spiritual and energetic lack of freedom, those frameworks into which his powerful female ego wants to drive.
Moreover, a woman also may not feel what she is doing spiritually and energetically in relation to a man. The negative karma accumulated in the past is simply working off (the subconscious is working). This is the dark power that subjugates and enslaves the other.
Surely you have met in life:
1. Mothers who break the fate of their children, everywhere and everywhere entangling their fate, trying to control everything and everyone, trying to subordinate everything in their child's life to their will, because "they know better how to live ...".
2. Or tyrant wives next to whom the husband is a battered dog on a leash that sits, lies, runs and raises its leg at the command of its mistress. In such a pair, you can immediately see who is the man in the family, who has power and who serves whom. Others.
But the point is, these are all gross manifestations of the ego, easily recognizable. And there is such a dark selfish power, which is very veiled, and outwardly you will not immediately see it, especially in yourself. When the ego has become more sophisticated, highly developed, subtle and the submission of another person's ego-power outwardly occurs very unobtrusively and accurately.
In general, the nature of the Ego, egoism, egoist I think many people understand. The essence of the Ego is, first of all, to “take” and not “give”, to live at the expense of others, to use others in one's own interests, selfish motives, etc. And it doesn't matter at all how a person externally furnishes it. It is also important to note here that an egoist is never really satisfied and happy!
Because the feeling of Happiness is given to a person by the Soul, and the Ego is not the light, but the darkened opposite of the divine Soul. Therefore, it is impossible to make a terry egoist happy !!!
How it works? If an overdeveloped female hungry ego lives and thrives in a woman's subconscious, she will energetically rip off and devour a man, downloading from him male energy and the vitality that her ego was starving for. Such a woman seeks to draw all the attention of a man to herself, but next to her, men, as a rule, do not feel good or at least uncomfortable.
The ego, if not curbed, grows and turns into such an energy monster that lives in a person (a dark entity). This monster begins to destroy a person, his soul, everything light that is in it. And this ego monster feeds on the life energy of other people.
Here's another example.Probably heard, there are women, next to whom they die, all men die after a while. This is it! These are women with accumulated negative karma towards men. We can say that the ego of such women feeds on men, sucks life out of them, like a vampire sucks blood, and throws it out (sends it to the next world). So you need to control such things and clean your karma in time, trim your ego and give the power to your Soul, and not to egoism.
Another very common manifestation of the female Ego !!! When a woman hangs on a man like a child on a big god. If a woman in her subconscious is inclined to deify a man, this is also a problem. Then she will strive in everything to shift the responsibility for herself and for her fate onto him, and he will replace God for her. This leads to the highest degree of affection, and therefore to the greatest fears of losing this false god (man).
Attachment always gives rise to great fear, and fear produces the energy of aggression. And if a woman is mortally afraid of losing her man, she will simply frantically strive to control him in everything and limit his freedom. This is the beginning of the end of the relationship.
In order for the relationship to be happy, with the development of bright feelings for many years, a man and a woman should be equal, and God should be above them.
What to do with your hypertrophied female or male ego?
Ego is the unwillingness to "give" to oneself and the motive is only to "take" from the other what you need, this is a consumer attitude towards other people. The female ego is a consumer attitude towards men - "what can I fuck with him", "what else has he not given me", etc.
And men are attracted not to those women who download energy from them, drink all the juices of life and who only want to "take", but to those who are able to give, give from pure heart your love, attention, tenderness, kindness and care, etc. And this is the key point!If a woman's ego grows, she loses her feminine: the heart hardens, tenderness and care atrophies, kindness is replaced by claims that the man did not give her something, did not do something, always owes her, etc.
After all, the true bright feminine principle comes from the Soul, from the Feelings, and not from the selfish ego.
What to do if you find the symptoms described above in yourself? First of all, you need to sincerely determine your motives.
Woman is Love, Love is to give! Therefore, begin to determine not only what you want to receive from a man, what your requirements he must meet, but first of all with what you want to give to your potential or real beloved man! What do you want him? Do you wish him Good, Happiness, Satisfaction in the heart, success and strength? Would you like to? What do you want to convey from your heart, from your heart, give it to your soul?
And do not be lazy, write it down in writing! If you work through this, accept with your soul, positive energy will go through you in relation to men and you will become more attractive to them.
Other reasons why a woman scares men away from herself?
Another very common reason is a negative attitude towards men accumulated in a woman's mind. Negative attitudes are distorted beliefs, attitudes, and misconceptions. In other words - inadequate attitude towards men, inadequate, negative, categorical and stereotypical perception of them, which manifests itself in the well-known programs "all men are good ...", "all men are goats ..., bastards ...", etc.
With such a deliberately negative subconscious (or conscious) attitude, a woman simply pushes men away from herself. Men, on the other hand, subconsciously always feel negative towards themselves and leave. Because they do not want destruction, because any negative, especially if there is a lot of it, is bound to destroy. Negative attitude towards men - begins to destroy a man as soon as he falls into the field of influence of such a woman. Most men who leave communication with such a woman simply have a self-preservation instinct.
If in the subconscious of a woman there is a lot of negativity in relation to men, there are chances to build happy family relationships simply no. We need to unload! Get rid of resentments and claims to men, remove excessive demands on them, remove consumer attitudes and pride, learn to perceive a man, first of all, as a divine soul, as a person, as an equal.
How to remove the negative accumulated on men?
1. Get rid of grievances and claims.Resentment against men, if it lives in your heart, destroys your bright feelings, your soul, health and life, attracts troubles to fate, destroys the men around you and your relationship with him.
2. Write down in your workbook all claims to men in general and to specific ones.Ask yourself - "why am I offended by men?", "What in men most of all outrages me, infuriates, angers me?" And then, replace all negative beliefs (answers) with adequate, positive ones, those that your bright Soul will tell you. And look at this moment at a man, as a divine soul, which, like you, learns, goes through its lessons on Earth, may be imperfect, make mistakes, repent, etc.
3. Form the most complete positive attitude to men. Just write a creative essay on the topic “My most better attitude to men! " Write with all your heart, with your heart, as if it is not you who are writing, but your divine Soul dictates and conveys its attitude to you. Draw images in the process of writing and put your best attitude towards the most worthy men in it. Write what you respect and love worthy men, and what you wish for all men, without exception. Desire great Good, Nobility and Courage to all men! This will make you attractive to such men :)
Hello dear readers and accidentally visiting this blog.
Below in this article will be written 5 reasons why men leave you.
I often left girls and there were always reasons. There were cases when, leaving, I did not understand the reason, but now, having rethought, I clearly understand. And I understand that there is always a reason and never a single man leaves a girl just like that. And I also realized that it is surprising, but the girls do not adequately assess the departure of the man.
They build illusions and guesses and often live on hope. Well then. Now I will destroy your illusions and tell you why men leave you. And most importantly - where do they go!
Why do men leave?
1. Life is destructive.
Life in itself is not scary, but the behavior of many girls (in this article we will not consider men, they are also good) in everyday life is just tin. Sometimes there are simply no words and only emotions. As you might guess - negative.
A man wants to see a beautiful princess every day, he wants a riddle and wants to conquer. Just by nature, he wants to conquer the heart of his girl. But how? How the hell can you win the heart of someone who sits and picks her nose or goes to the toilet without closing the door? Or she sings terribly, but thinks that her singing is the trill of a fucking nightingale. Or she walks like a 90 year old granny in a filthy robe that smelled of borscht and not a fig not romantic cutlets! Cucumbers on the face and lazy fat on the sides, which every year becomes more massive and massive. Or what the hell is a princess who sits with her mouth open and watches another series that was filmed for complete idiots. What kind of association does a man have? I think it's clear ...
And I don’t need to talk about the hard part of women, children and other problems. Pity your boyfriend, I know what I'm talking about and everyday life destroys a lot of families. And if you have a question - why did the man leave you, from such a white and fluffy, then think - maybe your whiteness smelled of cutlets? You need to start with yourself ...
Well, on a note to future housewives. Do not create such a life that you want to leave. Always stay a princess.
Oh yes. If you constantly take a man for shopping and drag him along with you to the departments, then I can imagine how soon you will find hair on his clothes a little different color than yours. I see girls walking to the shopping center, and behind her boyfriend dragging along like a dog, looking as if another day of his life was lost. If your boyfriend doesn’t volunteer to go with you, then the hell take him with you? And as a result, a girl with an open mouth and burning eyes walks through the boutiques, and behind her is a tired and disgruntled guy who is staring at other girls out of boredom. Just watch, I'm not making this up. Men will support me in this.
Princesses are supposed to show off their outfits, not drag princes to choose them. Or I'm wrong?
2. Mommy is not exciting.
Men are not turned on by their mother, and he also does not want his aunt and his sister, even if she is very beautiful. And often men leave because their girlfriend begins to be associated with a relative. And we do not want relatives, we love our relatives, but we do not need them. And the girls are making a global mistake. They begin to take care of their boyfriend like a mother takes care of her child. Yes, man's behavior is often to blame for this, but no one forces a woman to become a standard wife with a standard family code with the distribution of responsibilities and the fulfillment of marital duty. Debt is always bad! And also standard and boring.
Do you want a super secret - how to become the most beloved and most desirable for a man? Become his mistress indefinitely! All smart lovers have one thing in common - this is the ability to give a man freedom, from which he himself wants to get rid of. And men move mountains from this state. I will write about this in more detail, if interested, then add the blog to your browser bookmarks so that it is always at your fingertips.
3. I'll go and conquer this world.
A man wants to be a winner and conquer new lands. It runs in his blood. He wants to strive for something, well, at least for something!
But instead, he watches a movie with you, walks with your dog, walks with you to the guests and helps you cut cucumbers for salad. And one day the acute lack of victories in his life will hit him in the head with the decision to leave you and feel the taste for victory. It is against his nature to misuse a man.
I met a girl who wanted to make me an assistant and I just didn't have enough time to realize my goals. I told her that I missed it, but she was offended, blew her lips and said that I probably did not love her. I began to feel insecure with her and in the end I went to conquer the world, or rather the heart of another girl. The new girl did everything very competently and made it so that I constantly conquered her. That was really right. I will describe this technique in the book Love Personality. Otherwise the article will be too big.
4. Why you?
I dated a girl for 5 years and everything was fine with her. But once I looked at her very intently, when she was telling me something and thought - why should I connect my life with you? And I broke up with her. I remember pain and bewilderment at the Lyceum. I didn't understand the reason then, but now I understand. I didn’t consider it the best for one simple reason. She did not evoke emotions in me. I looked at her and felt nothing.
She did nothing to make me feel emotions with her (both positive and negative). While I tried to surprise her, please, shock her, make her laugh, annoy, make her jealous, she did not. And I don't need a teddy bear. So I just left.
If a girl does not arouse feelings in a guy, then she becomes a bun. And the man is actively looking for emotions on the side. Subconsciously.
5. Another girl.
Everything is very simple. The thing is that a man just wants more new girl or just another. The other SEEMS SEXY against the background of the fact that many wives absolutely do not bother with their sexuality, so not only love, but also a man leaves them ...
It's a hit, it's always in the TOP. Cause why does the man leave is another girl. This is the answer to the question - where do men go. When a girl does not evoke emotions, when she does not allow a man to be a man and a winner, when she becomes a relative, instead of being an eternal lover, when a girl makes life disgusting, then the man decides to leave for another.
A man doesn't just leave. He does not need to rest from the relationship, he does not need pauses and other crap. He does not need you and everything, but he needs another. Who will make his life pleasant (at least at first, and then make the same mistake anyway), who will be a mistress and will make the man himself more likely to want to become unfree, which will provoke him to move forward and not limit him in his aspirations and which will give him emotions.
Do not engage in nonsense, if a man left you, he went to another girl. And now you know the reason. Do not step on this rake again.
And do not make 10 female mistakes in relationships, so as not to lose your man.
Until! Good luck. Proud ...
