The chords of Marsha Mendelssohn got upside down, a magnificent wedding was hung, honeymoon was sweetly and ... the usual weekdays of living together began, not always filled with bright and pleasant sensations.

"Print" Men and Women in the first year of marriage can cause a lot of difficulties in relationships. It is determined, first of all, the fact that the couple of loving people joined the new stage of their lives, more responsible and exciting - the stage of creating a family.

After a wedding or a joint life without registration - this stage of relationship is inevitable. Everything is greatly facilitated if the period of "wipes" was experienced before the wedding and the young for some time lived together. However, "", one way or another, has its impact on the relationship, and the trigger is an inevitable period of development of relations in a pair. This time may be accompanied by misunderstandings, scandals and quarrels. Not every young family is able to survive "wipe" and save good married relationships. It all depends on the depth of the sincerity and the strength of love between the young. The first year of marriage is the first young family test for the strength of the prisoner between the spouses of the Union.

How does this happen

The beginning of a joint life often entails a lot of difficulties in relations. This happens for several reasons.

First, the young relationships are associated with a large number of obligations: the need to conduct a general economy, to solve domestic issues on the arrangement of life, with the mind to solve controversial situations.

Secondly, life on a common territory makes it takes to reckon with each other and take into account the opinion of its "half".

Thirdly, it becomes necessary to jointly solve financial issues, disagreements in which are often the cause of discord.

Try not to spend the first year of living on meaningless scandals

All these moments make young people come out of beautiful romance and plunge into life reality. A man and a woman open in each other those internal qualities that were not even suspected of. Indeed, during the time of the candidate and flower period, they had to solve some common questions much less often. At such moments, many say "I discovered her eyes" or "he showed me his true face." The thing is that in the period of dates, we try to seem one to each other with the best side. It does not mean that we hide something from our partner. Simply before the wedding, those moments that allow you to demonstrate our "other person" appear.

When we live together, we are constantly side by side with your second half. It provides more opportunities to open hidden traits in your husband or wife. Those qualities that previously seemed to us are so cute and appropriate (for example, dreaminess) in everyday life can start annoying (scattered).

Entering a joint life, the spouses have to change a lot in their lives: the routine of the day, the arrangement of things, household habits, sometimes some qualities of character. Misunderstanding and aggressive perception of the qualities of the spouse, which manifest themselves in life, must try to ride.

Pass "wipe" without loss

First of all, we should not forget that any period is temporary and it just needs to be survived. After this stage, another, more prosperous and pleasant will come.

Do not deprive the matrimonial relationship of romance and care

It will be erroneous that there will be an opinion that life has already "ate" your love, and your chosen one is noticeable to you. This can lead to mutual claims, accusations and insults. No need to say that your chosen one has changed in one moment after the wedding or at the beginning of living together. Just you have become more realistic to look at some things. The best way out will perceive a difficult period as the opportunity to get to know each other and learning to learn the realities of living together. After the wedding, which for sure has become both fairy tale for you, real life may seem harsh. Although much depends on (or rather, almost everything) from you.

What basic family creation rules can help at first?

1. Sincere communication. It is the closure and collection of the collection of internal insults are the first enemies at the beginning of living together. Sincerity and openness in communication, on the contrary, will help to avoid many quarrels and troubles. Speak your partner about what annoys you. Mildly express about your discontent, dealing in the situation immediately.

2. Avoid insults and humiliations. Quite often, young couples in the gusts of anger and attacks of aggression try to cause pain to each other. Insulting and humiliating each other, you make a few steps back from adulthood and return to the adolescent period when such moments seemed more appropriate. Having insulted each other once, you repeatedly return to this, and the family relationship will be built on a continuous anger, which will negatively affect your relations and children.

3. Do not dwell on misunderstandings and conflicts. Let go of the family quarrels from your home, trying to take from them only to communicate with the spouse. No need to hurt the offense, holly and cherish it. Go for compromise, inferior to each other. So the "trigger" will soften both for both of you.

4. Try to diversify your life: Do not get closed in the walls of your apartment and sometimes go to visit, cinema and restaurants. Do not forget about Romantics - it will not allow everyday life to destroy your love and turn into a habit. Do not get used to boring sex, referring to malaise or fatigue. The more bright impressions paint your collaborative life, the less opportunities you leave for quarrels and troubles.